Girl that puts herself down...

[zepo]

I know this girl who keeps putting herself down, but in a "positive" way. She goes saying she's ugly, laughing a bit after that. Anyways, I don't agree she's ugly.

She doesn't seam to problems with her suposed ugliness, but can she be looking for "aproval"? For other's to say she isn't ugly?

What to say when she says something like that.

Also, she says a lot that she doesn't have a BF because she's not pretty.

She's not really hot, but she's not bad looking at all: a 6/6.5 face with a nicer body.

 

[WaterTiger]

She's "fishing for compliments". This will get real old, real quick. Some girls seem to think this makes them look modesty & shy. I think it makes them look needy. It's her way of gaining control of your attention. You will be constantly telling her how pretty she is, if she hooks you with this. Don't let this become a habit. Go C & F with her.

 

[John Juan]

needy girls are annoying, no matter how hot they are. i just had to dump a nice HB this morning because she was always nagging me for compliments, complimenting me with the expectation i would return it. there's only so much you can hear the words "you're amazing" before it gets old.. i'd say beware of this chick because she most likely has self-esteem issues.

-jlc

 

[Chewy Bagel]

Libra women are notorious for needing compliments. Gemini too, but not to the extent of Libra women. Is her bday between: September 23 - October 22?

 

[Quick]

Low self confidence, and constantly needing to hear that she looks good. Inwardly, she probably does believe that she has many physical flaws. She constantly wants to be told otherwise, but she'll never truly believe it. I would stay away from girls like this, their issues spill over into other areas of their life.

What is this girl's relationship to you? If she's a girl you're dating, I would say what I've said before. "Listen. I think you're beautiful. Are you trying to convince me otherwise? If you make it a point to tell me all your flaws 500 times, I might start to agree with you."
That's worked for me before. Every time she started to say something negative about herself I would remind her of why she shouldn't. This works well in behavior modification. First you give the person a good reason ,that they will believe in, to stop an action. Then you remind them firmly of the reason the next few times, and then gentler and gentler reminders. Very quickly, all I needed to do was to raise an eyebrow. Then she started correcting herself and stopping mid-sentence when she realized she was going to say something negative.

 

[ozzfest]

yeah , def fishing for compliments....been there, done that. The 1st few times you think "yeah she's pretty down to earth, not a snob or stuck up on herself"...then after the 3rd of 4th time of reassuring her she's pretty, ass is not too big, ..or whatever the dilemna...it gets old. Its like "shut up already and stop fishing for compliments"

 

[uniassign]

Libra women are notorious for needing compliments. Gemini too, but not to the extent of Libra women. Is her bday between: September 23 - October 22?

HAHAHAHAHA Are you serious????

She doesn't seam to problems with her suposed ugliness, but can she be looking for "aproval"? For other's to say she isn't ugly?

What to say when she says something like that.


When dealing with LSE chicks, just reaffirm whatever they say. If she thinks she is ugly, go with that. Tell her she is the most ugliest thing that you have ever seen/touched/felt/f&*ked. She will drop the subject FAST.

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

Normally I'd think if a girl says "oh I'm so _____" she is waiting for you to say "Oh stop! no you're not!"

Sometimes, she is just trying to be funny. Self-depricating humor I guess. I have guy friends that joke about how small their c*cks are... because its funny, not necessarily because its true. (In some cases it is, ha ha!)

But sometimes she really does feel that way and is just expressing herself. I think I am a pretty good looking person, but I know I'm not perfect in some ways. I might make a statement at some point about one of my flaws, just kind of acknowledging it... Like I know my _____ is _______ but I think I look good anyway and if anyone doesn't like it they don't have to look at me. In that case, she might not be fishing for compliments. But at the same time too much C&F might hurt her feelings... she might have just been sincerely talking about her self image and making fun of her too harshly would be unnecessary.

Of course, you can usually tell the difference between these three things.

 

[Santos]

Girl's favourite phrases:

"I need to lose weight."
"I'm fat."
"These pants make me look fat."

After telling her "No you look great" (and she does) about 100 times I just give up. I can handle ocassionally boosting her EGO but when she does it every time I see her, it just pisses me off.

 

[reformedafc]

I used to date a chick who would do this all the time, incredibly low self esteem and a bit of a player. She knew I thought she was beautiful, I just wouldn't say it much. It got to the point where when she would go fishing like that I would just call her on it making a fishing/reeling it in sort of motion and some sort of fishing sound. Worked pretty well, she thought it was funny and got the hint.