girl texts "have you cheated on any of your girlfriends?"

[Igetit!]

The irony that igetit doesnt get it...

Wow,it's been a while since I've heard the "Igetit! doesn't get it" remark.

I was starting to get worried,thought I was losing my touch.

You can't say that in text. Without obvious sarcasm that's not funny, it's true. And that's a turn off in every way.

So you think the response I suggested was a turn off.

Hmm. So what do you think would happen if the OP were to respond that way? You think the girl is going to lose interest?

Women are emotional. Which response do you think would elicit more of an emotional reaction out of her,a guy responding by saying,"No,I don't cheat",or the one I suggested?

My suggestion would intrigue her. She'd either know he was kidding right off the bat,or she'd be like,"Why would he say that? Isn't he supposed to be trying to get me to go out with him?".

Besides,this girl is trying to qualify him. It should be the other way around. If a girl is trying to quality you,then she has the stronger frame,which means you've ALREADY LOST no matter what answer you give.



The mere fact that a girl is asking you all these questions and you keep trying to come up with the "right answers" in hopes of pleasing her so she'll date you,is LOWER VALUE in itself.



The whole point of my response was to jolt her emotions,NOT TO SAY THE "RIGHT" THING.



Besides,if you ask a woman what she wants in a man,the majority of them will say they either want a guy who's funny or exciting,BOTH OF WHICH stimulate their emotions.


If a man doesn't stimulate her emotions from the beginning,you think she'll care whether if he's faithful or not?



If I see a hot woman with a pretty face and big boobs,bam,I'm attracted to her. Attraction is a prerequisite...FOR BOTH SEXES.



If I'm not attracted to a girl,you think I care whether she cheats or not?



It's possible that her asking him if he's cheated on a girlfriend before was some sort of test,and the WORST THING YOU CAN DO in response to a test is give a LOGICAL answer.



What did she expect him to say? "Oh,I cheat all the time"? Of course not.
She was expecting him to say no. Therefore...

SHOCK HER. Give her an answer she'd never even dream of hearing.


This way,you blow apart her test,jolt those emotions,and come off as an unpredictable guy.

 

[Ease]

Basically, treat this as a ****-test.

Shes throwing this out to test your frame, not just because shes actually specifically curious if you have ever cheated on one of your past girlfriends.

Shes going to judge you on whether or not you will jump through her hoop and try to qualify yourself by saying 'im soo loyal ooh i love u', or lose your frame and say something stupid/get insecure. With a slight hint of curiousity if your a serial cheater.

Keep your frame strong, either ignore the question, answer with a simple strong 'No' and move on, or be interesting with a reply that Igetit is suggesting. Any will do. I think from your opening post igetit's suggestion is most suitable and wat u were lookin for.

The only wrong thing would be to say 'no im so loyal oooh please be attracted to me', or 'yea actually iv been meaning to tell you about this i have a problem with being faithful, i have cheated regularly in the past'

Assuming that we aren't retarded here, nobody is gona be stupid enough to say the second.

 

[DonJuan11]

Talking to this chick and things are going well. She text my asking if I have ever cheated on any of my girlfriends. I never have and looking for any good texts to send back to her and not be like every guy and say no no im sooo loyal etc etc....

What the hell kind of question is that? Even if you have, would it help the situation to admit it?

"Have you ever cheated on any of your girlfriends?"
"Who said I've ever had a girlfriend?"

 

[comic_relief]

Her: "Have you ever cheated on any of your girlfriends?"
Me: "No, have you ever cheated on any of your boyfriends?"

The real question is, could you say that shows anything about the girl?

- comic_relief

 

[Jitterbug]

"No. Have you?"

 

[littlebear]

The CON text of the situation

error wrote:Talking to this chick and things are going well. She text my asking if I have ever cheated on any of my girlfriends. I never have and looking for any good texts to send back to her and not be like every guy and say no no im sooo loyal etc etc....!

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Dear Error, you are thinking about this all wrong.
The time of the text has passed, but perhaps I can get you back in
your game.

When a woman does ****7 like this, put the ball in your court and
the control in your court. usually in game analogies people will say,
PUT the ball in their court.
Sure you could put her on the defensive, but that is
not the aim.
In this CON text it would have been good to look at the text,
think, about the sanity of it from "her ' shoes.
Would you trust someone if you asked them a sensitive quesiton
via text.?? come on.

Txt her back, '
" well dear, you would know by gazing in my eyes when while I
txt you back that I am telling you the truth!!"

Then she will either call you a jerk, meanign you should dump her,
or she will realized what a jerk, spit wad she was for cowardly
asking that question by txt.
The only justification for a txt like that is a bar bet.
Littlebear

hmmm, maybe that would be the opener to a good txt reply
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[littlebear]

What the hell kind of question is that? Even if you have, would it help the situation to admit it?

"Have you ever cheated on any of your girlfriends?"
"Who said I've ever had a girlfriend?"

THE question is DonJ who asks questions like that via text,
other that nut jobs.?? that is.

littlebear
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[huanic]

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