Girl tells she broke up with her bf

[PandaDude]

I liked this girl since November but once I found out she had a bf, I didn’t really go after her anymore. Her bf confessed to cheating on her in January but she forgave him and they remained bf and gf. I sent her an email in mid January but casual stuff but I didn’t hear from her. Suddenly, in more than a month I get an email reply from her. She says she broke up with her bf but she has the week off from school (reading week) is going to fly a plane down to his place and visit him because they are still good friends. Wtf is that about? Anyways, I think she knows I have some feelings for her. I went out with her twice before she told me she had a bf.
I just want to know why she told me about she breaking up her bf? I never inquired her about it. Is it a sign girls usually give to guys if they want to get macked on OR do they simply want attention? I still have feelings for this girl but I don’t know what to make of this.

 

[tmpgstx]

So she broke up with her boyfriend but is flying down for a booty call? Makes alot of dam sense.

Going there to see him is just going to get her re-attached. She took him back before.

Email and tell her if she wants a chance with you to break it off clean now and not go see him.

 

[PandaDude]

Well I can't stop her from seeing him now cuz she already flew down there.

But I suspected the same thing.....it really didn't make sense to me as to why she would spend hundreds of dollars to go visit this person unless there was something special going on

 

[Warlord]

I'm going to say it before and I'll say it again. Don't date girls with boyfriends.

You may hear stories about guy having girlfriend and some girl being mutually attracted with that guy. Then the guy breaks up with girl, and this other girl starts dating the guy. This works.

Now, if you do it vice versa. It won't work.

Why? Because she feels because you know her already and she knows you already as "friends" any kind of dating will ruin it. So why does the above example work, it's because there was mutual attraction already.

In short, don't date girls that have boyfriends. If you're attracted to this girl, next her. And obviously...if she was very interested in dating you (or cheating) she'd never mention her boyfriend in the first place. True.

 

[PandaDude]

I know that you shouldn't go after girls with bf, but when I went after her, I didn't know.

Now that she is single, even though her breakup wasn't that long, you're still saying I shouldn't go after her because she knows me already?

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Where do you know her from, do you have any common hangouts where you see her often?

Also, tell me about your pursuit of her - details. You could manage a lay out of this.

 

[DJDamage]

It is not over between her and him.

She is flying to fvck him and if this is the sort of relationship she can still maintain with the dude she will take it. This girl has a very high interest in him.

Her interest level in you is very low. It took her a month, A MONTH! to reply for your message! you weren't on her priority list. The fact that she told you she broke up with her boyfriend means nothing! women always vomit their emotional baggage at others in order to get support.

Nothing is however written in stone. Your best bet is to tell her that you are going out to a certain location and its best in her interest to join you. This will be the perfect oppertuinty to gauage her interest whether she reject your offer of the date or whether she acts aloof on the date. This way you will know for certain if she really likes you or not.

DjDamage

 

[Don Juanabbe]

That's a good idea DJ Damage. I would also keep talk of her boyfriend to a minimum, if at all.

 

[PandaDude]

Well, I have replied to her email but it's been another month since I got her last email. I didn't mention her bf. She is actually going back to her home country soon. In that email, she asks me if I really want to visit her country because she would really love to show me around.

And she rarely goes on MSN. I don't think she blocks me because I can see her go online for like 2 minutes and goes offline. 99% of the time, she's offline.

I should really try to forget about the girl but unfortunately, I still like her.
I met her at a party in November. At first she would reply to my emails within a few days to a week but now, I don't know what's up with her.

We live in different towns now. She always says she wants to come visit me but is busy or some other lame excuse. One time, she even said she wanted to visit me even without me asking her when she is coming. She is really different from the other girls I know. Even though the signs she is giving me are obviouslly signs of low level, my stupidity tells me she is just being weird.

So what do u guys think I can do at this point?

 

[PandaDude]

Is there any hope?

 

[ScrewIt]

Is there any hope?

no. sorry but even walking away from her wont change the fact she still digs her bf.

walking away/NC only works if you've been with the girl for a good period of time....2 Dates simply isnt enough to make a profound impact on her.

go find other women and next this.

 

[TxCowboy]

Well, I have replied to her email but it's been another month since I got her last email. I didn't mention her bf. She is actually going back to her home country soon. In that email, she asks me if I really want to visit her country because she would really love to show me around.

And she rarely goes on MSN. I don't think she blocks me because I can see her go online for like 2 minutes and goes offline. 99% of the time, she's offline.

I should really try to forget about the girl but unfortunately, I still like her.
I met her at a party in November. At first she would reply to my emails within a few days to a week but now, I don't know what's up with her.

We live in different towns now. She always says she wants to come visit me but is busy or some other lame excuse. One time, she even said she wanted to visit me even without me asking her when she is coming. She is really different from the other girls I know. Even though the signs she is giving me are obviouslly signs of low level, my stupidity tells me she is just being weird.

So what do u guys think I can do at this point?

Basically, you just said it all right there. She's GONE ! ... plain and simple and on top of that yall live in different towns which makes life on you even harder, if was going to work, which in this case, wont.

Y wait on some girl to make up her stupid mind about where her priorities lie ? - I know, personally, I wouldnt give 2 sh1ts where they lie ... if she wants to play those kind of h0 games and then send you some email like that and brag about some guy she's going to bang , I would just be more inclined to cut her off completely and move on ...

Keey looking man ... plenty of girlies out there .... dont wait up on them ... always be moving forward ! ... GL

-Laterz

 

[PandaDude]

I really have trouble meeting girls because I at home most of the time. That's where most of my work is at.

This girl is about to have a birthday in mid April. Do you guys think I should contact her? Maybe confront her? I haven't talked to her for months now. Is it possible to start off fresh?

 

[PandaDude]

Well, she invited me to dinner tomorrow, I haven't seen her in four months.

I guess this is what it all boils down to.

 

[S1NN3R]

Is there any hope?

You are beating yourself bloody here, bro! There are so many negatives, you don't talk to her for months at a time, she flies to see her boyfriend in who knows where, she has steadily taken longer and longer to keep contact with, you now she lives in a different city, and the real heart-stopper in this galaxy of problems, you said she's leaving to go back to her home not city, not county, not even state, but home country. Country, man. Long dostange relationships are hard enough when you're just in different cities, imagine different continents!

C'Mon man, in the time you've been (and with the effort you have expended) obsessing about this one girl who will be in a different country soon, you could have played with dozens of girlies. Concentrate on that.