Kal said:
the basic stuff, our education, what we like to do for fun, what we do for work, hopes, dreams, passion, plans for the future.
So this is what you two talked about. Well,there's nothing wrong with this,but this is all COMFORT. There's no attraction here.
The model is A.C.S.;attraction,comfort,seduction,in that order.
Atttraction is first.
Then the comfort,
then the seduction.
If you get it out of order,you'll run into specific problems.
Kal said:
a bit, nothing too crazy. A bit of kino too
This was your response to the question of if you flirted with her or not.
You said you did,but nothing
too crazy. Well maybe you need to get "crazy".
The #1 thing above ALL ELSE to can do to make a girl not like you is to be boring. That's the one thing a girl won't forgive.
You can be mean
You can be rude
You can offend her
You can anger her
You can insult her
You can put her down
You can do ALL THAT,but if you create chemistry in her,she'll forgive all these infractions.
But if you bore her,it's over with.
When I look at the topics of conversation you had with her,combined with the "not too crazy" toned down flirting,I see no interest created in her.
Like I said,she initially went out with you not knowing you,so the anticipation of getting to know you made her follow through to see that type of guy you are. But talking about mundane subjects on the date WITHOUT agressive flirting most likely cooled her interest for you.
Kal said:
yes I asked her questions about herself.
Although this is good,alone,it isn't enough.
Kal said:
Our convo did dip a bit at the end but we did hang out for 5 hours so we ran out of topics.
Now this was bad.
Five hours is WAAAAY too long for a date. You don't want the date to last that long REGUARDLESS of how much fun you,or the girl is having.
It's best to cut it off on a high note.
You don't want the date to last the point where she gets tired of you.