Girl tells me she wants casual sex

[scudge]

Met this girl at a party last Friday. Made out for a while and got her #.

I text her a few days later to meet up and she's enthusiastic.
We meet up for dinner and she pays for her food. I take her to the beach for a bit/make out some more... etc. I take her home and fvck her and drop her back off at her place.

Two days later, I get a text from her saying she just wants to leave it as a "fling."

Never really experienced this before. Does anyone know what this means? / How to handle this?

 

[Nickface]

I'm not sure I see the problem here... So what's wrong exactly?

Congrats and welcome to the FWB/FB territory. There are no rules here and "enjoy all the pleasure you can get" is our motto.... Oh and don't get emotionally attached...

 

[IndeedSir]

It means she wants to fvck you regularly but be free to go out with the girls and fvck other guys while she's there. If that's what you want to do, don't ruin it by getting all beta and clingy. Just treat her like a mate you sleep with. It also means it may end if she lands a guy she wants to keep.

 

[scudge]

Sweet.

There's no problem.
It's just the first time I've experienced this and I decided to consult the pros. Thanks guys!

 

[IndeedSir]

If you're not too emotionally invested in the woman, it is a lot of fun. My last FWB went on for three months. She was ten years younger than me and Scottish. She was smarter than me, loved awesome music, killer sense of humour and gave the best fvcking bl0wjobs I've ever had. A lot of good times, she has a bf now but we still keep in touch. Never know when she'll be free again! Problem is keeping your emotions out of it. If they start to creep up, you'll probably have to eject.

 

[VikingKing]

Its good. Try to just look at it as masturbation, and see other women

 

[BraddH]

Smh this website is full of idiots.

I agree.

 

[JohnChops]

Smh this website is full of idiots.

Why? Is it because this guy, clearly inexperienced who was most likely horrible with women and never had them look his way until he got her to apply concepts, asks a question on what that means? No dumb questions, just stupid answers.

Good luck op. You'll have some fun.

 

[Starfvcks 64]

my new born baby is crying, what should I do?

Well, he could be hungry, or pissed his diaper.
There could be a lot of reasons, or even no reason. Sometimes babies just cry for the fvck of it. I don't think SoSuave really is the best place to ask advice about raising children, but if you wanted to know about FWBs this would be a good place. You really shouldn't react so heavily to what you claim as "stupidity". It makes you seem insecure. Instead be thankful you already know what so many guys clearly don't, and either offer advice or don't say anything. I'm sure you'll take offense to that, for some reason, but that's on you. Try thinking about the state of our society and how it causes guys to be so damn confused about what you see as "common sense".

The worst mistake guys make with FWBs is getting feelings for the girl.
OP you need to understand that you will NEVER have anything serious with this girl - and that is PERFECT.
She also may end up getting feelings for you, and you don't want any part of that.

 

[JohnChops]

What does inexperience have to do with having an basic level of fukking common sense?


Next you retards will have babies and come on the internet to ask "my new born baby is crying, what should I do?"

Maybe you don't realize some guys here lack women skills and some common sense. Hence why there is this forum for guidance. Lay off.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Good question OP. This is a scenario that guys regularly fvck up. They don't understand the dynamics of the FB relationship, so they usually end up pissing away a good thing.

You got some good advice from a few of the posters here. If you want to understand the FB dynamic in more detail, read below, and also check out attached link.

Women respond to sexuality, your sexuality. Embrace it, you are man, you are sexual. It is in our nature.

FB of mine, I've talked about her in a few previous threads, texts me on a weekday night, "what are you doing?" This is translation for "I have some free time, do you want to have sex." I was actually planning on going out to have a beer by myself. I had been home all day (work from home) and I just wanted to get out, and some game was on. So I told her I was getting a beer, and said: "why don't you join me." She replies: "how about you text me when you get back home." I think, $hit, all we do is bang, she'll like this, so I say: "C'mon, come get a drink." So she says: "Okay". She meets me, we have a beer, I pay, we have a good convo, a few laughs, I learn some new things about her. As we're leaving, I'm getting this weird vibe from her...she seems to read my thoughts and says: "I'm just going to go home." She said it just like she was saying she was going to the store. But I knew what was happening, I could feel it, but I didn't know why..... She was a chick I had had a ONS with at my place, I had never been to her place. Every time, after that ONS, she had continued to come over to my place, we would fvck, then she would leave. That was it. No pillow talk, no staying over. She just wanted me to fvck her. And, she seemed completely content doing just that.

Our roles were defined. She had other guys for the other stuff. By having her come meet me for a beer and, get to know her more, talk about our lives, I threw a wrench in the whole FB dynamic. What I thought was something that could only strengthen the FB relationship, actually brought it to it's demise. She had been coming over 1 to 2 nights a week for a couple months, but after the bar "incident" it all stopped....just like that. The late night booty texts from her, the random calls when she was getting off work....gone. I did manage to rekindle it a few months later, somewhat, but it hasn't been the same since. It's a FB relationship that's now held together with bubble gum and band-aids. I finally ended up going NC with her, and she's been responding well to it So we'll see.

^^^So this story here combined with this lesson, were the inspirations for this thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=212292

 

[Bokanovsky]

It means she wants to fvck you regularly but be free to go out with the girls and fvck other guys while she's there.

It could mean that. Or it could mean that she thinks the OP is only interested in sex and is trying to save herself from being dumped by framing it as a FWB situation from the start. Or it could mean something else entirely. Never take a woman's words at face value...even if it's something that seems like "common sense".

OP, you should treat it as a casual fling for the time being. If she wants more, she will make it known sooner or later. Do not make the mistake of trying to convince her to be in a relationship with you. It can only backfire.