girl talking about guys that want her

[arq-dj1]

it may be like the other topic, but it isn't
my ex uncountable times told me someone wanted her, someone who recently told her he fell in love with her, etc...
she says that its hard cuz she wanna be friendly with guys but most of them always try somethin'

ok, shes implying that she's diserable, but why?

she was my gf, she already had me...
the only thing i can think of is that she wanted me to feel jealous, or express jealously, meanin' that i "care"... bc i never said i liked her directly "I LIKE U"..

maybe i was showing the "i dont care" attitude too much, that she feels i dont dig her that much, i can actually loose her and i wouldn't care

does that make sense or could be something else?

one friend, who isn't a chump, said to me that i sometimes need to be jealous, just to show that i care...

 

[arq-dj1]

flood

 

[muttley]

yeh bro i know what u mean. i had oneitis for a girl, we damn near hit it off, i talk about her in the "most obvious come on you missed" thread, shes the 3rd girl i talk about. I developed oneitis for her, but not no more

anyway, when we used to talk @ work or over msn or in college, etc etc , she would talk about so many other guys that were after her. She said her ex cried over her , to which i replied "HAH, id never cry over a girl!"

then she would say , this guy fancys me, that guy asked me out, blah blah.

Then i saw her another day, she said "heyyy , guess whos after me now, apparantley it was this guy i knew quite well from college. I made her feel good by saying "Go on!, you have guys chasing you " ( but not THIS guy , me , altho i wanted to )

but yeh, she would constantly tell me about guys chasing her. Maybe it was because i became an emotional tampon for her. I do believe that after she gave up on me, i fell into that friend zone. So maybe thats why she was sharing all this with me. Blah i dont care, but i know what u mean man and im still puzzled about it like you are

 

[Kaine]

I can say that if you are in a relationship where a girl is implying she is desired by other men, it is her indirect way of saying that she needs more attention from you.

Give her more affection, she thinks you are uncaring

You don't have to verbalise it, and I recommend that you don't

BUT you need to balance been cool with caring

Push and pull

In my experience it means you are pulling to much


Kaine

 

[PRMoon]

I have oneits... *sigh* sarah... but like any other disease, i just deal with it. She's on my mind and I can't get her off...till I see another hot girl while i'm out then it's game on. But as soon as my interludes cease i think about her again. Oh well so is life, I think oneitis is bad (I shouldn't be thinking about her as much as I do) but it's by no means debilitating.

Bahhh where was I? Oh yeah, girls definatly want their guys to know what they have. So if you have that "don't give a sh*t" attitude concerning your relationship, yes she's going to tell you how many guys hit on her and what not to let you know that you have something pretty good here. A little jelousy makes them feel more desireable/attractive.

*sigh* sarah....

 

[arq-dj1]

i see

well, ****

hehehe

i dunno dudes, i gave her a lot of attention... i would sincere and complement her a lot... i knew i wasn't going to blow it off, cuz shes was so insecure... i really gave her attention, but not even once i showed that i cared, only enough to keep her goin'... guess i need to show off a bit more

 

[arq-dj1]

lag

 

[Kaine]

i would sincere and complement her a lot...

Scratch this one off as experience, but this is what I have found to be true. When you see this sign from your gf, give her a bit more affection (more action then verbal).

BTW Never over do compliments, just like saying I love you it gets tired and loses impact


Kaine

 

[Kerensky]

1. attention monger

2. trying to make you jealous.

in both cases, act like she told you she dropped her pencil.

 

[Big Eee Zee]

I know that when girls talk about how many guys like them it is supposed to be good, but I have had a different experience. one girl I knew kept telling me how many guys at her work hit on her, many times. Then I was ljbf'd real hard.

?????

It doesn't add up.

 

[Juan_Man]

If a girl is talking to you about the other guys she's trying to get with, RUN FOR THE HILLS!!!!! You have become one of her girlfriends and you are engaging in girl talk. Your chances are slim to none. If you only like her as a friend, then it's cool. But if you want to date her, look elsewhere.

 

[A-Unit]

Re:

I. First, if you got 1-itis for her, and she ain't feeling the same way, then her personality is shyt to me. If you fancy a girl who don't fancy you, drop it all and move on. No friendship, nothing. A girl who doesn't reciprocate your feelings isn't worth time.


II. The image you're portraying of her is more beautiful than the reality. A girl I dug for sometime was replaced by a new girl, better, more into me, and being freaky. Has the next door type look, is flexible, sweet, and even better looking. They're out there, but you gotta have the positive attitude that when it all turns to hell you, you're stronger for it. Acknowledge crap happened, but also know there's light at the end of the tunnel and fight on like a warrior.


III. Say to her, "if they're cramming themselves so far up ya butt, go after them." Don't tolerate that. In my opinion, if this is a gf, it's one thing to say "I got hit on today," it makes her feel hott still, and you should nail her right there on the spot so she feels that sexiness for you. However, if it's an everyday occurence, then she's just a hoe who enjoys attention. There's a good chance she'd be pissed over you doing it to her...


The deal here is...what do YOU want. Being with her is your choice, as is accepting her behavior. If you tolerate her behavior that's consistently poor, you're showing low value and low self esteem. It's ok to say "that celebrity is hot," or "that pornstar is hott," but commenting on real life people is dangerous and disrespectful to you.




A-unit