Girl says we are not compatible in the long run

Suave88

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Yeah she collected her stuff. Said she was sorry for ending things but she felt we did not have enough of a connection to go further and did not want to waste anyone's time. Originally it was she would have loved to continue hanging out but didn't think we were compatible in the long run. No idea what the true reason is but definitely doesn't look like any way back so moving on.
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Are you even SEXUALLY compatable? If you guys like "hanging" and your sex life works for each of you then it's fine. Just don't try to make it something it is not.
 

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I've been seeing this girl around four months. She said a few months in that she wasn't ready for a relationship and wanted to keep things the way they were i.e. hanging out and hooking up. But I think with the holidays we have ended up doing more couply things e.g. she spent Christmas with my family, and we were out together on NYE and then went on a staycation which is where she broke up with me. She said she felt something is missing and she said while she would love to continue hanging out and was sure we'd have fun she didn't think we were compatible in the long run. She asks me a lot of job interview type questions e.g. how do you define success in life, what are your career goals etc. so the impression I get is she doesn't think I am ambitious enough and do not really know what I want out of life.

Of course it could be a bit of a smokescreen as there have also been a few signs she has been losing interest e.g. not texting me quite as much, not being quite as affectionate etc.

But is there any way to try and change her mind. Maybe suggest we keep things casual if she doesn't see relationship potential? Or something similar.
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Yeah I think she's been talking to other guys. After our breakup I went back on the dating app we met and saw she had an updated profile on her saying she was looking for ambitious professionals who were fun and she was open to friendship if not bf/gf. No idea how long her profile has been back up there. But yeah her not texting me as much when for the first three months she was texting me constantly should have tipped me off
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You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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