LightOfVictory
Don Juan
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- Feb 7, 2013
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Hi,
There was this girl who stopped replying enthusiastically to my texts. Recently, i learned about the importance of boundaries. So i text her something like
me : are you still keen on meeting up?
she : Hey!!im free tonight. Are u able to after 7?
Long story short, i tell her that i can meet her only around 9plus. So we meet up and we go to a park. We ended up making out.
And then she asks me what do u want to do? I tell her that i want to make love with her. But it was more of like im not sure im just trying type of reply.
Truth is i am a virgin and i didnt expect her to offer herself just like that. She said we r not having sex tonight. I ask her if i can finger her. She said she is having her period. So i end up sucking her boobs.
I drop her home. These are my probems.
1. Im feeling insecure being a virgin and her probably having a lot more sexual experience than me.
2. I feel needy towards getting sex from her. I come from a conservative country where these types of things are not as commonplace as in the US.
3. I feel angry and frustrated now that she has the upper hand. I send her a text asking her how was her meeting that she was supposed to have. No reply.
Im really having trouble dealing with the anxiety of her leaving.
So the internal solution to these problems is to be present to whatever emotions im feeling and just feeling happy.
As for the external solution, how should i deal with this? Im not sure what type of tests she is gonna throw at me. But yeah, im prepared to deal with them. Need advice on how to go on from here.
Thanks
There was this girl who stopped replying enthusiastically to my texts. Recently, i learned about the importance of boundaries. So i text her something like
me : are you still keen on meeting up?
she : Hey!!im free tonight. Are u able to after 7?
Long story short, i tell her that i can meet her only around 9plus. So we meet up and we go to a park. We ended up making out.
And then she asks me what do u want to do? I tell her that i want to make love with her. But it was more of like im not sure im just trying type of reply.
Truth is i am a virgin and i didnt expect her to offer herself just like that. She said we r not having sex tonight. I ask her if i can finger her. She said she is having her period. So i end up sucking her boobs.
I drop her home. These are my probems.
1. Im feeling insecure being a virgin and her probably having a lot more sexual experience than me.
2. I feel needy towards getting sex from her. I come from a conservative country where these types of things are not as commonplace as in the US.
3. I feel angry and frustrated now that she has the upper hand. I send her a text asking her how was her meeting that she was supposed to have. No reply.
Im really having trouble dealing with the anxiety of her leaving.
So the internal solution to these problems is to be present to whatever emotions im feeling and just feeling happy.
As for the external solution, how should i deal with this? Im not sure what type of tests she is gonna throw at me. But yeah, im prepared to deal with them. Need advice on how to go on from here.
Thanks