Girl rejects my kiss yet still keeps wanting to go out

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Ok, well theres this girl, we met at a party.

We went out couple times,

#1 coffee date

#2 drink with couple of friends

#3 coffee + walk in park + isolate

now, in date #3, I isolate her and I try to kiss close her. Now she wont kiss me, she said, "im not that kind of girl!"

the next day, she asks me out. I respond that im busy, i truly was. day after that, she asks me out again.

wtf... why would she reject my kiss close yet still wanting to go out?

any ideas? now this is a HB6, I would consider myself 8.5 at the very least.

This is actually the first time i can remember i failed a kiss close. I mean all the signs were there. We were like hugging already, we were alone.

Should i just move on and NEXT?

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Ok, well theres this girl, we met at a party.

We went out couple times,

#1 coffee date

#2 drink with couple of friends

#3 coffee + walk in park + isolate

now, in date #3, I isolate her and I try to kiss close her. Now she wont kiss me, she said, "im not that kind of girl!"

the next day, she asks me out. I respond that im busy, i truly was. day after that, she asks me out again.

wtf... why would she reject my kiss close yet still wanting to go out?

any ideas? now this is a HB6, I would consider myself 8.5 at the very least.

This is actually the first time i can remember i failed a kiss close. I mean all the signs were there. We were like hugging already, we were alone.

Should i just move on and NEXT?

Your decision should be based on what you are looking for.

Are you looking just for a lay? Do you really like this girl? Do you want a real relationship with her?

If you just want a lay, move on. There are many more girls who will put out faster if that is all that you are looking for.

If you want a real relationship, I would not be so quick to next her. Her moving slowly is not necessarily a bad sign. It actually could be good because sometimes when a girl really likes a guy, she wants to keep him around longer and holds out. Doing so will weed out the guys looking for a quick lay from the guys who are relationship material.

A DJ like a good quarterback must read the situation and make the right call based on the factors that really matter.

 

[Freddy1]

She probably feels you are going to fast into the relationship.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

She enjoys hanging out with you because you're a good friend.

 

[Skydiver43127]

HB6? What's the point in kissing her anyway?
It's just ASD. Kiss her the next time if you want to.

 

[Ojete]

Your decision should be based on what you are looking for.

Are you looking just for a lay? Do you really like this girl? Do you want a real relationship with her?

If you just want a lay, move on. There are many more girls who will put out faster if that is all that you are looking for.

If you want a real relationship, I would not be so quick to next her. Her moving slowly is not necessarily a bad sign. It actually could be good because sometimes when a girl really likes a guy, she wants to keep him around longer and holds out. Doing so will weed out the guys looking for a quick lay from the guys who are relationship material.

A DJ like a good quarterback must read the situation and make the right call based on the factors that really matter.

I agree.

However, with so many women out there, why do you care? There could be 235235235 other reasons for that, meet other girls and eventually you may kiss or lay her.

 

[realsmoothie]

Three dates, no kiss?

Um... "next"!

She obviously isn't into the physical side of things.

 

[Luveno]

She enjoys hanging out with you because you're a good friend.

This is right on! It's the only damn reply out of the lot of them that makes any sense. Listen to this.

This girl sees you as a friend and nothing else. I'd say find some more plates to spin and leave this one eating your dust.

 

[blueguy]

Yep, either she wants you only as a friend because you waited too long, etc., or she has religious or moral reasons and wants her kisses to be kept "special" and saved for serious relationships.

 

[Migel]

TillTheEndOfTime: is right. Pursue if you want a relationship.
She really said: "Not now". You should've tried 5 minutes later again.

 

[blueguy]

He's stuck in a catch 22 situation here though. If he wants a relationship, he needs to find out whether she's highly religious or if she's just not into him yet. Because the more he hangs out with her without physical contact, the more she'll string him along because she knows she can. I think you should act indifferent and should have tried again (in case it's ASD) but send her a clear message with your actions that you won't hang out anymore if there is no kissing. Because you know what will happen in that case... (enter another guy) And definitely put her on the backburner for now.

 

[Phyzzle]

Is she from Asia? Those girls give you all kinds of Last Minute Resistance to kissing. I't like sex to them. Anal sex.

 

[penkitten]

She enjoys hanging out with you because you're a good friend.

stole the words right outta my mouth.

 

[CORVETTE06]

YOU ARE LUCKY! she likes you, but she likes to take it slow, she is not a slut. would u rather have a girl grabbing at ur belt wanting to blow you after the first day. chances are she does that to every guy she meets. idk bout u, but i dont want no h0e.

 

[MightyMate]

Well maybe its gonna be love of Your life. I kiss close only sluts. Girls that imma care about i kissloce at liek 5 date. Hard to tell. Anyways when girl asks me out, i usually feel shes not worth me. Especially when ni sex/kiss. Id **** htis ****.

 

[blinkwatt]

This happened to me...she and I went out for awhile and it looked like I was in for the long haul. I finally got a kiss on the 3rd "date" but I fell short many times before. It was fun it was like she made me work for every kiss,I loved it. It went on for 2 months or so then it came to an end when she wouldnt go any further then tongue....What a grandma. IF YOU REALLY LIKE HER HANG AROUND!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

This happened to me...she and I went out for awhile and it looked like I was in for the long haul. I finally got a kiss on the 3rd "date" but I fell short many times before. It was fun it was like she made me work for every kiss,I loved it. It went on for 2 months or so then it came to an end when she wouldnt go any further then tongue....What a grandma. IF YOU REALLY LIKE HER HANG AROUND!

Hang around in hopes that she'll eventually tongue kiss you?

 

[Paper Boy]

You're an AFC and she can tell. She's not ready for your pathetic lips against hers yet. Simply put, she wants you to be her girlfriend.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Yo Troops!


Women are like dogs. And men are TOO, by the way. lol

We ALL have to be trained.

If you feel this girl may be worth your time, go ahead and take it slow-----but make sure you still TAKE IT. Do not let the budding romance start to fade. Your job is to ALWAYS escalate. Whether it's inch by inch or MILE BY MILE. Always escalate, soldier!

Never let a babe go backwards. Don't start off grabbing her titts then GO BACK to just holding her hand. Never start off going on solo dates then let yourself be relegated to just hanging out with her and her friends. You get the idea...

Again, she has to be trained thru reward and punishment (so to speak). When she does something you approve of, treat her as well as you always treat her. When she does something EXCEPTIONALLY good to you, then REWARD her behavior with a little something extra.

And the opposite is true as well. Whenever she goes romantically lazy on you, flakes out, or withholds anything of value that you KNOW is in her power to give you------then withdraw from her. Take away your affection, hold back from her physically and emotionally. Become less available to her.

And if she's paying attention and actually CARES, she will realize that if SHE continues to do "A", then you will withdraw, and she will no longer receive the benefits of receiving "B" from YOU. And on and on it goes...until she learns the lesson and starts moving in the directions you want her to go.

But remember:

This is all done through your ACTIONS or lack of actions. It's not necessary to announce this verbally, because it will come across as an ultimatum. And that could easily turn into an all out power struggle---and no one really wants a babe to feel like she's being coerced into pleasing them. Well, no one but a RAPIST or a MYSOGANIST, that is...lol

No, what you want is for her to weigh her options herself, then decide that the benefits of pleasing YOU (whatever that means for you) is in HER best interest. That way, the decision to date, kiss, Fukk, ecetera will be HERS. And people are always more comfortable and enthusiatic about decisions THEY have made themselves, rather than those they feel they've been FORCED to make due to ultimatums.




March on!

 

[aftershock]

now, in date #3, I isolate her and I try to kiss close her. Now she wont kiss me, she said, "im not that kind of girl!"

Looks like the ol' muff muncher wants a friend!