Girl questioning my age

[MR MIZUN0]

Well for the background info me and my friends were at a party....we all know each other relatively well. So me and my close buds arrive and its the usual people except for the only person I did not know was my friend's ex girl (Julie). As by friend I mean we always see each other at parties, and play a little golf together, he is by no means a close friend of mine. So him and his ex Julie were always *****ing at each other all night when they were near each other. Well later on, my friend introduces me to her, say hello etc. Then my friend says I am his protoge, and I go along with it (Im 18, he is 22) So his ex asks he how old I am.....after a pause I say: I am old enough for you, and walk away to get some drinks. Later on she wants me to dance (so she started grinding on me), and go with her to the kitchen (grabbed my hand), but I decline both in a sarcastic, smart ass type of way. This whole time everyone has had a few beers, but no one is gone. So a few days after we are friends on fb I sent her a message asking how old she was (never asked her at the party) she replied back: why do you want to know how old i am?

How do I respond to that? I felt like she was giving me IOI's at the party, but then again everyone has had a few beers...

 

[YogurtSlinger]

Why does it matter?

(insert music here)
Older women...are beautiful lovers....


Uhh. Nevermind. Yall probably don't know that one anyway.

 

[Cockynfunny]

First of all "Old enough for you"? cheesy an seems like you are selling yourself for her.

Besides by saying that, you already show an assumption of how old she is.

Get her number from fb chat

CALL her

Set up a date

If she is into you she will come, if not, its her problem.

NEXT her and enjoy your life as Don Juan

 

[I'm in the Mood]

Stop acting like a douchebag.
She thinks you're an a$$hole because you rejected her advances twice: 1) dancing, and 2) going to the kitchen. She might have actually wanted to hook up. Now you'll never know!

Man you have to stop it with the stuck up attitude. Nobody's even trying to break your balls.

You didn't mention talking about ANYTHING with her. I'll take it that you only made small talk. If you don't make a genuine connection with a girl, how do you expect her to really want you?

Stop playing your little "I'll get the girls by showing disinterest all the time" game. Sure it does work to some degree, and you did make it work by not telling her your age.
Not telling her your age was a good move! She wanted to know more about you, and went over to dance with you, then wanted to take you into the kitchen.

You showed disinterest when she was already attracted and going out of her way to chase you!!!

Trust me, you have to know when to turn off this disinterest bullshvt. A little disinterest can go a LONG way, but when you show constant disinterest guess what she thinks...she thinks you're NOT interested!

Forget this one.
She did show you IOIs because she was attracted to you THEN, but you didn't ACT on it!

This is a wonderful experience for you, and I'm happy you had it.
Why? Because now you can get out of the needy mindset you're in.

Pickup knowledge + Neediness = Failure until you WAKE UP!

 

[MR MIZUN0]

Stop acting like a douchebag.
She thinks you're an a$$hole because you rejected her advances twice: 1) dancing, and 2) going to the kitchen. She might have actually wanted to hook up. Now you'll never know!

Man you have to stop it with the stuck up attitude. Nobody's even trying to break your balls.

You didn't mention talking about ANYTHING with her. I'll take it that you only made small talk. If you don't make a genuine connection with a girl, how do you expect her to really want you?

Stop playing your little "I'll get the girls by showing disinterest all the time" game. Sure it does work to some degree, and you did make it work by not telling her your age.
Not telling her your age was a good move! She wanted to know more about you, and went over to dance with you, then wanted to take you into the kitchen.

You showed disinterest when she was already attracted and going out of her way to chase you!!!

Trust me, you have to know when to turn off this disinterest bullshvt. A little disinterest can go a LONG way, but when you show constant disinterest guess what she thinks...she thinks you're NOT interested!

Forget this one.
She did show you IOIs because she was attracted to you THEN, but you didn't ACT on it!

This is a wonderful experience for you, and I'm happy you had it.
Why? Because now you can get out of the needy mindset you're in.

Pickup knowledge + Neediness = Failure until you WAKE UP!

All I have to say is thank you!!! You just really opened up my eyes to the whole scene. I know I should have danced with her, but I didnt.....I just have never really pushed myself to escalating with girls in a physical way. I have no problem talking, and chatting em up, it just the physical side (making out etc.) Kino is no problem, i do it every time the opportunity is present, I guess I am just a ***** when it comes to escalation.

I am sure I will be seeing this chick again sometime at another party, how should I act?

If I start acting interested in her (which I am) she will probably feel awkward due to me previously being "disinterested/hard to get" Do I ease into the mood, and go with the flow, and give my balls a tug and go for the k-close?

 

[I'm in the Mood]

All I have to say is thank you!!! You just really opened up my eyes to the whole scene. I know I should have danced with her, but I didnt.....I just have never really pushed myself to escalating with girls in a physical way. I have no problem talking, and chatting em up, it just the physical side (making out etc.) Kino is no problem, i do it every time the opportunity is present, I guess I am just a ***** when it comes to escalation.

I am sure I will be seeing this chick again sometime at another party, how should I act?

If I start acting interested in her (which I am) she will probably feel awkward due to me previously being "disinterested/hard to get" Do I ease into the mood, and go with the flow, and give my balls a tug and go for the k-close?

No problem man.

You don't fully get it though. You'd just be putting her on the pedestal if you went after her now. I think it's best that you learned from this mistake, so you can succeed next time and seal the deal with the next girl.

Your problem isn't kino or escalation. Your problem, if any, was letting your ego take control of you by showing disinterest in order to get her attracted to you.

You don't "get" women attracted to you. It's not something that happens on a conscious level. Take your attitude back at that party for example. Imagine yourself in a movie; do you think your attitude, put into a character in a movie would get the girl?

Probably not even if you were a male supermodel.

That's because your persistent disinterest killed the spark she had momentarily for you. Once you create that spark, you don't need to go out of your way to keep it. Once you know she's attracted, either qualify her (for greater chances of success) or go straight into comfort and get to know her.

Then you can escalate. You're not escalating because you KNOW there's something wrong with escalating so soon with a girl you've JUST met.