Girl puts me on the spot - at work.

[Jaylan]

Am I the only one that thinks she was doing a chop-busting flirting attempt? How hard is it to play off what she did and bust her chops in fun but d!ckish way? This doesnt seem like a big deal to me, and the nose tap gives away to me that she was possibly flirting. My ex and I started off with what appeared to outsiders as genuine dislike for one another.

But really, despite not being too fond of one another starting out, we simply had very good chemistry and could feed off one another with the remarks we would make. Like someone else said earlier, OP I dont believe you have what it takes to handle a woman like this. Shes feisty, and I find that fun. You seem to interpret her behavior as combative. I dont think she is trying to be that.

 

[3agle 3yes]

I can't be bothered to read all the replies but this is an easy f*ck.

This has happened to me so many times...I'm remember a chick hurling insults at me because I threw something at someone near her...turned out b*tch had the hots for me.

The ignoring trick is an absolute classic...women are subtle and non-confrontational like that.

I remember this girl (HB9) would go out of her way to avoid eye contact with me...it was so bad that one day I came towards her while she was leaning against a wall NOBODY was around her and I was the only one that was there...she glanced at me initially to see who was walking towards her, once she realised it was me, she turned away and basically stared blankly at a wall...it was hilarious.

She tried to show me she didn't think much of me, but always ignoring me told me that I was all she thought about.

Of course she is interested in you...I can see it all over your post OP.

...she never crossed my mind as a dating option.

Women CRAVE attention, EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM...and you didn't give it to a woman who usually gets it.

...I was looking forward to a mid-shift snack since it was a given she'd pass them around. And she did - to every one nearby except me. She made a show of it too - I was busy working, but it was hard not to notice in plain sight. She then said if I wanted a cupcake, I had to ask the friend who brought them.

HB9 eventually returned, walked over to where I was sitting/doing work and the following conversation took place:
HB9 (in a not light-hearted flirty way) - Well well, you always end up sitting near me. Gee I wonder why! (starts tapping her nose)
ME - Oh please, you usually find ways to keep sitting next to me.
HB9 - I always sit in that area!
ME - Uh huh...(goes back to doing work).

...before HB9 went home, she dropped off a cupcake for me and left before I couBld even say "thanks."

I agree with some of the posters here, this b*tch likes it full on.

Can't you see it?

She wants a confrontation...she's likes it "raw".

Either that or she is very childish when it comes to flirting.

She singled you out which means she has given you extra thought...it's only when b*tches treat you like everyone else that they aren't interested.

If I was you and she really is a 9/10 I'd tease the hell out of her...right now she is controlling YOU. that shouldn't be acceptable...she was making you mad.

You should've walked up to her and grabbed a cupcake and sarcastically thanked her for it.

INVADE her personal space and mock most of the things she does...if she's walking past you deliberately get in her way.

But don't take it further than that UNLESS you meet her outside of the workplace.

 

[The LadyKiller]

This thread really blew up. Some different takes on the situation in the responses. Some things I should clarify:

- I have no problem being social with co-workers as long as I can get my work done. It's a positive in our company culture based on location and us all being of similar age. At the time HB9 was firing off her lines to me, I was in the middle of working on something with a tight turnaround, so I didn't have time to flirt. I said what came to my mind first (regarding the "Usually you find a way to sit near me" remark).

-Honestly, I was caught off-guard. She has never behaved this way in the time I have known her, so I didn't anticipate this. While she is almost always upbeat and cheerful, she was acting more "difficult." She wasn't being mean or demeaning, but there was a definite change in her behavior on this day. Some of you believe this was an elaborate act. We'll soon find out.

-After sleeping on this, I agree that there might be a method to her madness. As in, this was somewhat staged. In the past, I usually win the mind games with her (not on this level, smaller things), so there was motive for her to try and even the score. Also, why would a HB care if I like her and be so bold about hinting at it if she didn't like me back, right?

 

[The LadyKiller]

I think you guys are right. HB9 was trying to get validation or a reaction out of me. Not showing my irritation was big (even if I was simmering on the inside).

The next time I saw HB9, she was back to her usual self - the "act" was a one-day thing. At one point during the day, when I was hanging with one of my buds, she stopped by to talk to her best friend (we were all stationed near each other). The friend told me she was hosting a party over the weekend and that I was invited (I'm sure HB9 will be there). She then says the theme would be "cupcakes." . I had zero reaction (no validation from me!), the friend then went into some other topic. Clearly, the episode from the OP was planned to some extent.

For what it's worth, the only other things that took place this day were: HB9 and the friend thought some very minor joke/remark I said was very funny. HB9 later she said I was "unique" and implied I'm not an average guy.

 

[The_411]

Sounds like a massively orchestrated **** test or extreme attention whoring. To me 2+2 does not equal 4 in this situation. That's and awful lot of drama just to see if a guy passes her test. So she might be a HB9 but the drama level will be attuned according to the hot/crazy maxim.