girl playing mindgames-plz help

[dice]

okay so I got this girls number, shes 17 and im 21, kinda sick but i like her shes very cool. Anyway I went and visited her at work twice and we were supposed to hangout friday night. She called me at like 5 friday night and said that she got grounded and can't hang out. Then later that night she calls me twice, to which I did not answer, saying things like "IM SO DRUNK HAW HAW". Saturday night we're supposed to hangout again, but she says that she has to work the night shift because someone didn't show, so I said fine im going out with my friends at the bar, then she calls me back and says the person IS gonna show up and she's getting done work but I still should go to the bar cuz she doesnt want to be one of those girls that asks the guy to cancel plans for her.

Anyway, she's been calling me and I haven't been answering. I am not sure if she feels she needs to play games with me because she's trying to get me to like her because of our age difference, but the thing is i already do like her. Or if she's just playing games with me cuz shes a girl and trying to whip me. I've read the bible like a hundred times and I know I should just next her, but im trying to lose my V and she is a V also so I think this is a great opportunity, plus she's very cool.

How should I handle this? I know I should next her but I don't want to, so maybe I should PRETEND im nexting her just to show her I won't put up w her ****. Any advice is appreciated.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

You dont need to next a girl because she is playing games. Games are an IOI just treat her as if she was another average 'freind' what im trying to say is 'dont bend over backwards for her' you are right not to cancel your plans with your freinds, dont do anything that will show you are whiped, that also means showing that you are indiffrent to how she is acting because you do not care if you meet her or not.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

okay so I got this girls number, shes 17 and im 21, kinda sick but i like her shes very cool. Anyway I went and visited her at work twice and we were supposed to hangout friday night. She called me at like 5 friday night and said that she got grounded and can't hang out. Then later that night she calls me twice, to which I did not answer, saying things like "IM SO DRUNK HAW HAW". Saturday night we're supposed to hangout again, but she says that she has to work the night shift because someone didn't show, so I said fine im going out with my friends at the bar, then she calls me back and says the person IS gonna show up and she's getting done work but I still should go to the bar cuz she doesnt want to be one of those girls that asks the guy to cancel plans for her.

Anyway, she's been calling me and I haven't been answering. I am not sure if she feels she needs to play games with me because she's trying to get me to like her because of our age difference, but the thing is i already do like her. Or if she's just playing games with me cuz shes a girl and trying to whip me. I've read the bible like a hundred times and I know I should just next her, but im trying to lose my V and she is a V also so I think this is a great opportunity, plus she's very cool.

How should I handle this? I know I should next her but I don't want to, so maybe I should PRETEND im nexting her just to show her I won't put up w her ****. Any advice is appreciated.

If you've read the Bible 100x's go read it one more time because your clearly letting your desperation and lack of female experience override your better judgement with this girl. Ahhh what the hell I'll break it down for you.


When a girl plays games that IS NOT a sign of high interest. Yes, all girls play games to a varying degree but if this girl is flaking on you, then calling you telling you how wasted she is when she said she couldn't go out, you already know she's more excited to go get drunk then hangout with you. That's BLATANT disrespect of you and your time. If your holding your d-ick in your hand waiting to fuvk this girl, you've got a better chance of dying of old age.


I love when people come on this board and say "I know I'm getting played BUT blah blah blah." Dood if you know your fighting a losing battle, put her on the back burner and go find other girls. You'll never fuvk this girl because

a) your a wussy: girls don't respect wussies
b) your tolerating her blatant disrespect: if she knows she can string you along now, the worst is yet to come
c) you've got no other options: which will reek of desperation to her

Guys do tend to NEXT too quickly on this board when there's one sign of trouble, but in this case, this chick suxs and your looking like more of chump with each day that passes.




PIMP

 

[dice]

thats where my dilemma comes in bc I feel that I can **** this girl if I play it right, but I know I should next her. She wouldn't keep calling me even though I'm not answering if she wasn't highly interested right? I feel like she's just doing these games because she read it in some teen girly magazine, compensating for the fact that I'm older by trying to get me to like her more. Right now I'm just not answering my phone so she gets the message I'm not going to put up with that kind of disrespect. I want her to think I've nexted her so she doesn't view me as a wussy pushover. This will make her realize she's in this thing on MY terms, since I am older and more educated than her (about mindgames i mean, thx to sosuave).

 

[Last Man Standing]

What are you talking abot?? Age difference? There is no such thing as "age difference" IF a woman is younger than you - the younger the better if she is legal!!!!!! I don't see ypu are getting played??

Ask her out and quit playing around!!

 

[Pimp-sicle]

thats where my dilemma comes in bc I feel that I can **** this girl if I play it right, but I know I should next her. She wouldn't keep calling me even though I'm not answering if she wasn't highly interested right? I feel like she's just doing these games because she read it in some teen girly magazine, compensating for the fact that I'm older by trying to get me to like her more. Right now I'm just not answering my phone so she gets the message I'm not going to put up with that kind of disrespect. I want her to think I've nexted her so she doesn't view me as a wussy pushover. This will make her realize she's in this thing on MY terms, since I am older and more educated than her (about mindgames i mean, thx to sosuave).

A girl could call you everyday for the next 3 months, that doesn't mean she's necessarily interested in you as much as she's interested in your attention. To be blunt, this chick sounds like an attention w-hore. If you really don't know what those girls are all about, do a little search and be enlightened.

The fact that your older means jackshiat because you've already acted like an AFC in the fact that you've tolerated her disrespect. She's flakey, can't make up her mind about anything and likes to get trashed at the ripe age of 17 and you say she "seems like a very cool girl??" Dood once again I'll tell you, stop putting girls on a higher playing field just because your attracted to them. Girls should be passing your tests and jumping through your hoops, not the other way around.

All this ignoring technique will do is either gain her interest temporarily or make her move on. If she gains interest temporarily, right when you start calling her back again, she'll be over it. She might hang out with you a few times but your not getting any play because in her mind your a wussy. I'm not trying to be harsh but I'm just being honest. You can waste your time on low quality girls like this or you can move on and find girls that are hot and level headed.

Make a choice.



PIMP

 

[dice]

how did i act afc by tolerating her disrespect? She dissed me friday night, i told her how i thought it was retarded, then i gave her one mroe chance saturday night and she failed again. So now im ignoring her which is showing her that in fact i wont put up with her disrespect. How should i have handled it and how should i handle the present bc i want to lay this chick.

 

[Macgyver]

At this point and time if you feel you want to next this girl because you're getting sick of her games, then you should give her a LJBF line and see how she reacts.

We guys gotta remember that we're the one shopping, not them if my woman can't line up with my vision I got to let her go.

 

[dice]

thats great and all but i dont think you read my post.. I DONT WANT TO NEXT HER I WANT TO F HER im just asking u more experienced fellow how to do it and how to play it

 

[Un-Aru]

Or you could use this line which I have done previously to amazing effect. If (when - as she craves the attention) she says something to the effect of "Are you coming over to talk to me" or "When are you going to spend some time with me" say to her "Hahaha, oh you cancel on me on Saturday night and NOW you expect some attention. No no sweetie it doesn't work that way..." Then say something to the effect of "I have to go do blah blah, but I'll catch up with you later..."

Very important - you must come across light hearted and not really worried about the outcome. It's better done in person, that way you can have a sly grin when you say it, and give a little shake of your head when you say "no no sweetie." This way your words are conveying "I'm not going to tolerate that disrespect" but your tone and body language are sub-communicating "I'm joking with you and couldn't care less." End result, her mind starts ticking over and thinking about you, she calls you up wanting to hang out and you end up slaying the virgin beast...

Ok ok that's the perfect result, but if evidence of success is what you're after, I have pulled it off twice in the last 6 months.

 

[Un-Aru]

Or you could use this line which I have done previously to amazing effect. If (when - as she craves the attention) she says something to the effect of "Are you coming over to talk to me" or "When are you going to spend some time with me" say to her "Hahaha, oh you cancel on me on Saturday night and NOW you expect some attention. No no sweetie it doesn't work that way..." Then say something to the effect of "I have to go do blah blah, but I'll catch up with you later..."

Very important - you must come across light hearted and not really worried about the outcome. It's better done in person, that way you can have a sly grin when you say it, and give a little shake of your head when you say "no no sweetie." This way your words are conveying "I'm not going to tolerate that disrespect" but your tone and body language are sub-communicating "I'm joking with you and couldn't care less." End result, her mind starts ticking over and thinking about you, she calls you up wanting to hang out and you end up slaying the virgin beast...

Ok ok that's the perfect result, but if evidence of success is what you're after, I have pulled it off twice in the last 6 months.

 

[DJ Alejandro]

i havent really read everyones responses but yeah.. shes playing games. just play along then. that way, you know what to expect.