Girl messing my mind up - what do I do now?

[Dave111]

Went out with a girl who I work with last night. We've been out together quite a few times, and got together, but it after we had a heavy night where we nearly had sex she backed off saying she wasn't sure about getting involved with me, which I thought "fair enough", (this was about a month ago), but recently she's been flirting heavily with me again, showing big signs of interest, (ie: asking me to go to amsterdam with her, touching me, great eye contact, telling me shes been having dreams about me all the time), all these signs I've been taking as a positive sign.

Last night after work she asked me to go to the cinema with her, so we went. She has a great outgoing personality so I am very attracted to her, but as usual I always manage to mess up with the girls that I actually like. I've been kinda seeing this other girl in between and this ones all over me like a rash, she wont leave me alone, but I'm not that interested in her as much as girl number 1

Anyway as I was saying we'd been together before, but that was in an alcohol induced way, where we were both a lot more layed back, so last night was the first time we'd been out and I'd thought about making a move while sober.

Anyway mr AFC here didn't make that move the loser that i am, and we both said our goodbyes and we went home. As I drove home I was raging at myself for failing to make any kind of move, so when she sent me a text saying "thanks for tonight I had a great time, your such a laugh etc etc", I replyed

"yeah me too, by the way did I do the right thing by not kissing you tonight?, Sorry just curious as you seem to be interested again.

she replys

"oh dear I'm blushing and pretty shocked didn't realise u were thinking bout it, not sure what to say thats why taken so long to txt back x"

I replyed: never mind forget I mentioned it, c u soon

she replys

"dont be embarrassed its only me. To make you feel better I was sort of thinking bout holding your hand but couldn't, im confused too lets just see what happens xx"

do I get the feeling that I have ****ed this up big time or is she genuinely interested, I am completely confused as to what this girl is trying to do to me, apart from messing my mind up,

I wanna take a step back now and stop paying her attention to see how she reacts

anyway what do you guys think, slate me for whatever I've done wrong as I need to learn for future.

cheers

 

[DankNuggs]

Dude.....AFC....text messaging asking for a kiss???

She replies she wanted to hold your hand....

You need to work on showing her you like her, want to kiss her..etc... instead of awkwardly asking

gl

 

[ManOMan]

Yea listen to dark, stop talking to her about "how you wanted to do this or that, but chickened out"

Thats how women talk

If anything you should have said "You are lucky I felt like a perfect gentleman last night, or I would have ripped your clothes off, but I was kinda tired"

stop sweet talking and be more sexually aggressive

 

[PlayerSupreme]

Fishing off your company pier is a big mistake anyways. Imagine if you had 10 HB9.5's willing to give you sex each and everynight...then this work thing will not look so attractive.

She know's it's not the right thing to do and will only lead to headaches...that's why she originally backed down. Most men think with their dycks and never evolve their thoughts high enough to not hunt at work.

When it goes bad then you gotta see each other each and every day and problems WILL develop at work! Then one of you will have to LEAVE! I've seen it happen too many times and have done it when I was young and dumb and full of c. um.

 

[ToP DoN]

yeah ...work is a bad place....i had to learn the hard way....lolz

 

[Trogdawg]

Just shake it off, you know you screwed up. This sounds like you are both legit about digging each other. Good for you, now be more assertive. Take the initiative, but be cool. Don't just jump her right away. Next time you guys go out, give her a nice kiss to start the show. She'll dig it, then just walk beside like normal and i bet she'll hold your hand. She'll be thirsting for your lips the whole night after that first kiss.

Bro, you got it made, just don't think so much about it. It'll make you nervous, think of how nervous she was that she wouldn't even hold your hand. CUZ SHE WAS NERVOUS.

Good luck and have tons of fun.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Originally posted by Dave111
Anyway mr AFC here didn't make that move the loser that i am, and we both said our goodbyes and we went home. As I drove home I was raging at myself for failing to make any kind of move, so when she sent me a text saying "thanks for tonight I had a great time, your such a laugh etc etc", I replyed

"yeah me too, by the way did I do the right thing by not kissing you tonight?, Sorry just curious as you seem to be interested again.

Eeeek.

 

[Walk this Way]

Relax, and next time be more aggressive, more assertive, this isn't going to kill you. In fact, at least you let her know you were thinking about a kiss, so it's not terrible. Why do you want to back off now? That's what you shouldn't do, that's what an insecure person would do. GO FOR IT, give her your best and your sexiest. Be pro-active, and don't play games to try and "see how she reacts." Frankly, she's probably not going to react how you want her to anyway.