Girl lost interest because I'm "insentitive"

[backbreaker]

I understand the whole being courteous in general aspect but I barely knew this girl and I wasn't even that interested. She threw her dad's medical condition into the interaction randomly.

We had only hung out twice for a total of about an hour I'd say. No real dates or anything just brief meet ups.

Anyway she randomly texted me yesterday with this:

"So maybe I was being a little harsh on you before I was just clouded mentally and wasn't thinking when I attacked your integrity. I realized you just don't know me and I don't really know you. You're cool though maybe we can get together again sometime"

Is she borderline crazy or am I missing something here?

your problem is, and i can say this because this was my problem for a long time, is that everything everyone does, isn't always in response to something you've done. the world does not revolve around you

she was being defensive because it's her dad and he's sick. she snapped because she is hurt and is mad because you don't' seem to care about her hurt. event though logically you don't' have a reason to. of course she's going to be overly sensitive. doesnt' mean she's crazy.

 

[tryst type]

your problem is, and i can say this because this was my problem for a long time, is that everything everyone does, isn't always in response to something you've done. the world does not revolve around you

she was being defensive because it's her dad and he's sick. she snapped because she is hurt and is mad because you don't' seem to care about her hurt. event though logically you don't' have a reason to. of course she's going to be overly sensitive. doesnt' mean she's crazy.

Good point and I agree it was just such a shift on the other side of the spectrum in contrast to the texts she initially sent which came across like we've been married or in a very long serious relationship where I was undoubtedly expected to give a certain behavior.

 

[origin138]

Hey tryst,

I'm pleased to see that you always seem to be spinning plates.

That aside, I think you screwed up here.

This could be 1 of 2 things:

1. She's not interested and making excuses to push you away.
2. She is interested, but you're not meeting her expectations....which don't seem to be too much.

I'm inclined to believe it's #2.

Was it insensitive to not ask about her dad? Absolutely. Should you have asked how he was doing and demonstrated some level of concern? Yes. Even if she was just a casual friend/coworker, this is just what people do. It's called being a human and showing concern. Even the crassest alpha would do this.

If you want to keep her, and think this could go places, then try to meet her eye to eye on this.

There's a fine line between playing it cool/being in charge/being unaffected, and being an unlikable pr!ck.

Keep us posted.

 

[CaliMan007]

I agree with some of the above posters, this isn't about getting your c0ck wet, this is a case of you not showing any compassion and sympathy towards another. It doesn't matter how few dates you've gone on or how few hours you've spent together. Fact is, her father... the parent figure, the biggest male role model in her life... was sick, and you showed zero understanding towards that. Regardless whether male or female, when your parent is sick and goes to the hospital chances are you are going to have a lot on your mind and will be more emotional.