I tried looking up threads on the topic but I decided to go ahead and make a new thread anyway. I appreciate any help and advice!
Long story short... Me and this girl from work went on 4 dates within about 3 weeks and things seemed to be moving along well. One mistake I made was not doing much physical escalation during this time, so there was never a kiss close. Things still seemed well though, I always played the ****y/funny card and kept the sexual tension there. Often times she would contact me first, so I know the interest was definitely there.
After these 3 weeks she left town and went home for about a month to visit her family and during this time she seemed to gradually lose interest. Contact became less frequent and then we only hung out one time after she got back in town. After about a week of no contact she finally texts me late at night apologizing for being distant, said I really did like you but "things really picked up with someone I've had feelings for for a long time, so I didn't want to continue things with you" then said she still wanted to be friends. I replied "haha i'm okay, I'm not a very good friend anyway" and I didn't respond after that.
To keep the possibility of getting with this girl in the future, is no contact the best option? Or would it be more effective to keep gaming her and try to escalate physically? Thanks in advance DJ's
Long story short... Me and this girl from work went on 4 dates within about 3 weeks and things seemed to be moving along well. One mistake I made was not doing much physical escalation during this time, so there was never a kiss close. Things still seemed well though, I always played the ****y/funny card and kept the sexual tension there. Often times she would contact me first, so I know the interest was definitely there.
After these 3 weeks she left town and went home for about a month to visit her family and during this time she seemed to gradually lose interest. Contact became less frequent and then we only hung out one time after she got back in town. After about a week of no contact she finally texts me late at night apologizing for being distant, said I really did like you but "things really picked up with someone I've had feelings for for a long time, so I didn't want to continue things with you" then said she still wanted to be friends. I replied "haha i'm okay, I'm not a very good friend anyway" and I didn't respond after that.
To keep the possibility of getting with this girl in the future, is no contact the best option? Or would it be more effective to keep gaming her and try to escalate physically? Thanks in advance DJ's