So there’s this girl that’s shown a lot of interest in me the past few months, so about 5 weeks ago we starting hanging out alone on the weekends (we’re both seniors in high school). First three weeks were just standard dates, all ending in a lot of making out. On the fourth date, she brought up the “what is this/what are we” questions and we decided to be boyfriend and girlfriend. This time, we went a little bit farther, and she gave me a hand job. I was rubbing her ***** from outside her pants, but when I tried to go inside her pants, she gave me a “Nuh-uh,” and moved my hand away. It wasn’t in a *****y tone, more of a lighthearted, laughing, smiling type of thing. I tried a couple more times, but she stopped me each time. At one point I said “It’s for you,” to which she responded “I know.” I asked “what’s the problem then?”, and she didn’t have an answer, she just kind of shrugged her shoulders. Again, all of this was with a nice tone while she was smiling. Later that night when we were saying goodbye, she asked if I was being “sincere” when I agreed to be bf/gf or if it was just for sex. I do like being with her a lot, so I told her it was sincere, which was the truth. This weekend, she came over to my house and we watched a movie in my basement. We cuddled while watching the movie, and starting making after it. Got the same thing when I tried to put my hand in her pants, and I didn’t get a hand job this time. She said that she had dance practice early in the morning, and that she told her dad she would be home by 11 (it was already 10:50), so she had to leave.
She’s a “good” girl so to speak, I don’t she’s kissed more than 2 guys (including me), and I’m definitely the first guy that she’s gone past kissing with. On the other hand, I haven’t had sex yet, but I have hooked up with a few girls and gotten a ******* in the past. I think she may be worried that I just want her for sex (not true) or doesn’t want to come across as too easy. I’m relatively new to this type of stuff, so I don’t know what to do. From what I understand, girls like sex just as much as guys, and I already committed to being in a relationship with her, so what could be holding her back? I understand that we’re not going to have sex right away and that we’re going to have to work our way up over the next month or two, but it seems like stimulating her with my hand/fingers seems like the next step. She’s only my second girlfriend, so I’m not sure how this goes. Should I talk to her about it next time?
She’s a “good” girl so to speak, I don’t she’s kissed more than 2 guys (including me), and I’m definitely the first guy that she’s gone past kissing with. On the other hand, I haven’t had sex yet, but I have hooked up with a few girls and gotten a ******* in the past. I think she may be worried that I just want her for sex (not true) or doesn’t want to come across as too easy. I’m relatively new to this type of stuff, so I don’t know what to do. From what I understand, girls like sex just as much as guys, and I already committed to being in a relationship with her, so what could be holding her back? I understand that we’re not going to have sex right away and that we’re going to have to work our way up over the next month or two, but it seems like stimulating her with my hand/fingers seems like the next step. She’s only my second girlfriend, so I’m not sure how this goes. Should I talk to her about it next time?
