Girl is confusing me

[vivek59234]

I am with this girl from a month or so... I have also posted few things about me being desperate with her all the time...

She said she loves me a lot and suddenly she started a bit back off... I am confused what to do..

Well I knew I was more desperate and f***ed it up... I pulled it off... backed off for few days... No contacts no texts nothing...

From the next day she started calling me all the time but I didn't reply... But later on after 2 days had a word with her and told her lets meet up... She was so excited while talking on the phone... Meanwhile I got a call and had to hung up saying "I will call u late night".


But when I called up late night, she didn't answer my call... So I texted back saying we'll meet up tomorrow in the noon as I am free for you...


The next day in the morning she sent me a text saying "Hey Love v'l meet if i'm free... i'll call u in the noon if possible. but don't call me honey..."


I called her up straight away and said "Listen I had lotta appointments and had to cancel all of them now u gotta meet me anyhow and I have to talk".
She said ok fine.

I think she's testing me or may be she wants to meet her ex.

Now what would've went wrong? I am really confused about this chick...
Shall I meet her and ask her clearly about our relationship?

And did I sound desperate again?

This is damn confusing... m worrying a lot...

Please please help me out on this....

 

[OFWHAP]

Don't listen to what she says, look at what she does. She said she loves you, yet she's backing off and being very flaky. Would you act that way toward a girl you love? No. You should not invest too much emotionally in this girl. You made yourself too available and called her right after she told you not to. I'd cut my losses and move on.

 

[vivek59234]

ya but than she's been calling me all the time... Shall I meet her once and clear everything? Sounds a bit desperate but it's better to clear the things out...

 

[OFWHAP]

My ex-girlfriend used to call/text me a good bit even after she had no intention of getting back together with me. The only way to truly know what a girl is up to is to be with her and see how she acts. The thing is when you have a talk to clear things out, it's a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you can't figure out whether she has feelings for you or not, she probably doesn't. If you have to get her to spell things out for you, she probably has no interest in you. Having this talk will show insecurity which could drive her away even though there may have been interest on her side. This girl really needs to prove herself to you for you to know now. Make her beg you to spend time with her.

 

[vivek59234]

Got you... So how will I do this now? how will she beg? She's meeting me now... How should I be with her so that she'll beg??

 

[vivek59234]

Met her... but I sounded very needy... AFC... and desperate... and 1 thing I came to know about her is that she's scared off me... because I told her v'll meet and she had plans to meet her friend... Fortunately her friend is best frnd of mine...

And she told me the truth... So I told my gf, "y did u lie?", She goes like "I'm not meeting her,I don't lie".. I told her next time if u'll do this i'll not talk to you anymore and try to understand me I am not gonna blast you even if you are with your friends

Y do u take me wrong and blah blah blah

all f***d up...

any advise on this?

 

[SandHawk]

You seem to have ****ed this up by attempting to play mindgames with the girl. From what I understood in your previous post, you enjoyed playing those little games.

And that's exactly what I warned against. Don't see it was a way to manipulate her into jumping your hoops. we act that way to filter out the girls that are not worth my time and effort, not to manipulate them! There is nothing wrong with giving in to a girl who's worth your time and effort(up to a certain degree of course, as you want to keep your own life and personality).

As for this, I'd say you've mixed in way too much try-hard player with too much nice guy, turning you into some sort of creep. I'd cut my losses and move on.

 

[starplayer]

There is a very simple reason why you've fvcked this up.

You have oneitis for this girl and you're over-analyzing the situation. You've made SIX threads about this girl in the last week!?!?!

People on this board can give you general advice about a situation but we can't tell you step-by-step what's happening with ONE particular girl.

Focusing on ONE girl is AFC. You're still an AFC whether you're obsessing on getting a particular girl using "nice guy" manipulation or by using so-called "DJ techniques". You need to lose the scarcity mentality.

You're in completely the wrong mindset. You need to read the DJ bible.

Spin more plates for fvcks sake.

 

[vivek59234]

orite orite orite frnds.... I accept it... I've been AFC oll d time... I've been trying 2 b a nice guy... didnt accept d fact....

In short... I've been against u bros... nd d result is...... same as usual... don hve 2 tell u...

Right... I can expect something 4m u bros.... I wanna 4get this and move on.... wanna b like u guys... pls advise me and help me...

cant even 4get her f****d up....

wanna get outta this sh**t....

 

[Hakuna]

1) If she says she doesn't want to meet up or that she might be busy, you should have withdrawn attention right away. If a girl isn't making herself available for you, she isn't worth your time.

2) Never listen to what a girl says. Girls are inferior creatures who lack Mouth-Brain coordination. What they say directly is RARELY what they really believe / mean.

3) Backing off and everything was good, but starplayer is right. Just because you did a few things correctly doesn't mean anything. What you want to do is have the correct mentality, not just go through the correct motions.

4) Don't talk to this girl until you've had secks with 10 other girls. Talk to everyone you see from homeless bums to trees. Get over any social phobias you have, start talking to girls, and start getting numbers. You'll realize after this that this girl was nothing special and that there are 10,000 girls out there who are infinitely better. Until you truly understand this fact, you are destined to be infected with Oneitis.

5) Never let your happiness depend on another girl. You can love someone entirely, but you should never let your well-being depend on another girl, or anything external for that matter. Doing so sets you up for a painful death. Even if you GET the girl, you'll still have problems.

6) Never over-analyze situations with girls. Cut your losses and move on.

7) Get Penis enlargement surgery for a confidence booster

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[vivek59234]

Thanks a lot... I am very very badly hurt now... but surely gonna get a new gal... let her go to hell...

U just said 10 gals!!! No I'll get 20 gals and i will bounce back strongly... it's been a painful night, got drunk and hurt myself... Sorry bros. I've been a typical AFC... Please suggest me to get outta this...

 

[Igetit!]

U just said 10 gals!!! No I'll get 20 gals and i will bounce back strongly...

Well I'm sorry you feel bad and all,but I''ve just GOTTA ask this....



The title of this thread is "Girl is confusing me",and she confused you to the point of you saying,"let her go to hell".


Well if you couldn't figure out this one girl to gain her interest,how are you going to go out and get "20 gals" just like that?


Just curious.

 

[vivek59234]

Well I'm sorry you feel bad and all,but I''ve just GOTTA ask this....



The title of this thread is "Girl is confusing me",and she confused you to the point of you saying,"let her go to hell".


Well if you couldn't figure out this one girl to gain her interest,how are you going to go out and get "20 gals" just like that?


Just curious.

It's just that I am trying to come outta this ****... Hope you understand and I am here to learn the things out... Even I know I'm not gonna get 20 gals but atleast it will help me to get over this girl...

 

[SandHawk]

We can't keep suggesting things for you. Read the DJ bible and execute what is says! You can't learn to pick up girls by asking questions on a forum or by reading. It's a matter of calibration and trying to see what works for you.

Everyone has a different personality, and everyone has to find their on inner-DJ to become successful at this. What works for me, might not be congruent with your personality or doesn't work for you. So it's a matter of experimenting, trying, and failing. We've failed plenty of times, yet it doesn't hurt (anymore), because we learned that there are so many women out there who are better than this one girl.

Go out there, and go talk to that random hot girl in the street!

 

[vivek59234]

We can't keep suggesting things for you. Read the DJ bible and execute what is says! You can't learn to pick up girls by asking questions on a forum or by reading. It's a matter of calibration and trying to see what works for you.

Everyone has a different personality, and everyone has to find their on inner-DJ to become successful at this. What works for me, might not be congruent with your personality or doesn't work for you. So it's a matter of experimenting, trying, and failing. We've failed plenty of times, yet it doesn't hurt (anymore), because we learned that there are so many women out there who are better than this one girl.

Go out there, and go talk to that random hot girl in the street!

Yup sure... thanks and appreciated...