Girl in Seminar

[Yo'Mama]

We had some b**l**** seminar today at work. I saw a girl I've never seen before (big company), just absolutely my vision of what the perfect girl would look like. She was on a different table and I didn't get to talk to her.

Afterwards I find out from a friend that was sitting on her table who she is. Also that she's dating the guy she was sitting next to (he looked like a douchebag to me, which was all the more galling).

There's no point or no way to do anything about this right? I have no idea how serious they are but can't think of any way to even get talking to this girl, without saying 'Hi, I saw you in the seminar and really wanted to talk to you' which may get me pulled up on, ironically, harassment charges.

Normally I wouldn't bother at all but this girl was my physical ideal. Is it normal to feel so bad about this? Like it's not enough that she has to be so hot, but that she is dating a guy that looks like some hipster douche just makes it worse.

 

[Spinning Spinning]

Hmmm I'm obviously not the best person to be giving advice on this my predicament all things considered but all I'll say is be VERY VERY careful as others have said to me. My office chick is psycho, doesn't have a BF and look what she did to me. This girl is actually attached so imagine what could happen, especially if the BF finds out. If you really want to talk to her you're going to have to bump into her somehow. Like for example if I see a hot girl go into the kitchen at work I'll almost always pick up my cup and head on in, there's simply no better place to start up a convo and TBH I talk to all and every person, not just hot biatches. It makes you look less like a pick up artist and more like a really likeable guy. You can't go up and say what you were thinking of saying, that's more of a club or pub thing and totally inappropriate at work, especially without any previous contact or telling signs. If there's no kitchen then you're going to have to weave some magic. Jump in the same lift, drop some **** in front of her, anything to start an accidental conversation. That's your best chance bro good luck.

 

[Yo'Mama]

Hmmm I'm obviously not the best person to be giving advice on this my predicament all things considered but all I'll say is be VERY VERY careful as others have said to me. My office chick is psycho, doesn't have a BF and look what she did to me. This girl is actually attached so imagine what could happen, especially if the BF finds out. If you really want to talk to her you're going to have to bump into her somehow. Like for example if I see a hot girl go into the kitchen at work I'll almost always pick up my cup and head on in, there's simply no better place to start up a convo and TBH I talk to all and every person, not just hot biatches. It makes you look less like a pick up artist and more like a really likeable guy. You can't go up and say what you were thinking of saying, that's more of a club or pub thing and totally inappropriate at work, especially without any previous contact or telling signs. If there's no kitchen then you're going to have to weave some magic. Jump in the same lift, drop some **** in front of her, anything to start an accidental conversation. That's your best chance bro good luck.

Thanks dude. I haven't read your thread about your office chick but I will try to find it now. Sorry to hear that you had problems with her.

Yeah the company is too big. We work on completely different floors. So there is no way I can talk to her in the kitchen. As for bumping into her I have worked at that company for two years and haven't seen her. So it's probably a lost cause. Even if I could get talking to her she's still dating someone and even if she wasn't then the chances she would like me are not fantastic.

I'm going through a phase at the moment of getting plenty of dates with 7's and the odd 8 but I'm totally emotionless when it comes to them (which is why I can probably get these girls, because I'm naturally playing it cool with them). I just assumed I had turned into a pretty cold guy that doesn't get excited about dating girls anymore. But then I see a girl like this and I'm just struck by how I'm not getting the girls I truly want.

Unfortunately I'm in Asia. It's not that hard for me to get Asian chicks but they have lost their exoticness for me and now I'm far more interested in non-Asian girls. The girl today is half Asian which is absolutely my favourite type, closely followed by Latin looking girls.

The problem is I like living here and am making really good money especially because of the strong currency here, but meeting half Asian or Latin girls is not at all easy because their numbers are so few. Am now seriously starting to think of moving to a country where I find the girls attractive. Stupid idea?

 

[Kenny Powers]

Ha I lol'd when i read the part about asian girls losing their exoticness after living in asia for two years. Yeah dude two big reasons not to bother - work and boyfriend. This happens to me all they time, especially at the gym, but its best just to move on and not think about her. If anything you should use the experience to motivate you to be more proactive in trying to get a hot girl.

Use being in asia to your advantage. When I was abroad whenever I heard a girl speaking english I'd ask if they were from the U.S. Feel like this should be super easy for you since you can just look for non-asians.

 

[Yo'Mama]

Thanks Kenny, yeah you're right.

Also I know my reaction is totally over the top. I was having a really good day until this happened. Since then I've just felt really gutted (it's the perfect word for someone from England - not sure if Americans use it but it means like 'galled' I guess) that there's this girl I'd absolutely love to go out with, but there's just no chance.

And yes, I'm definitely putting her on a pedestal but it's so rare I'll see a girl that has this effect on me, especially here.

My reaction is a weird mixture of insecurity and arrogance. Arrogance in that I feel angry because I think I deserve a girl like that based on my good qualities (and maybe I'm wrong but in any case I know that feeling entitled gets us nowhere) and insecurity because I am also thinking, 'Can I ever get a girl that hot?'. I've dated some hot girls but never above an 8. I'd love to date a 9 or two to get it out of my system if nothing else.

Anyway you're right I just need to get out there and meet more girls. No point thinking about this one any more.