Girl in my college class, need advice!

[DonChino]

Hey guys so there is this girl in a small class of mine. I had her in two other classes in the previous semester that was packed full of people. I was always interested in approaching but really didn't have the balls or any idea of how to handle it. After last semester I thought that's the last I would see of her but to my surprise that isn't the case.

Now here is where I ask for assistance and feedback. By no means am I a Don Juan, to tell the truth I'm still AFC but I keep the key points of DJing in my mind; I need to tackle the issue but for now lets talk about this situation. The class is only 45 minutes long and is three times a week. She sits way in front of the class solo and I sit in the middle of the room with two people I talk to. How do I pull this off? I have a tiny window of a few minutes where I can try to talk to her before class, maybe after class but I don't know how to approach that..

I need some advice, Everyday that passes where I don't talk to her I kick myself in the ass the rest of the day. I'm just trying to figure out what to say before I approach and ruin my chances altogether. How do I get her number and ultimately take her out on a date. I don't want to crash and burn on this to big because I will see her till December and it will make for some awkwardness being such a small class. Keep in mind I don't even know if she has a boyfriend, if she does I really don't care I will try to pursue it even then.

In the big picture I'm just noticing all these girls in my classes that are just sitting there not talking to anyone that are ripe for the picking. I have the urge to just go up to them and say hi but my lack of conversational experience in this department just makes for hesitation.

If you guys can help me in this situation of this particular girl it would be much obliged. I will do what you guys recommend, just keep in mind I'm no where near a DJ I'm just learning the foundations now in hopes of one day becoming one.

*edit* Oh I think I should add that this girl is not some HB9/10. She seems approachable and low if any on the *****iness scale. I just need a angle that I can have preset to approach this with

 

[MyTeamSupreme]

if she tells you she has a boyfriend she doesnt want to be pursued

 

[DonChino]

if she tells you she has a boyfriend she doesnt want to be pursued

Like I said I don't know, from what I have come to know even if they do say it sometimes trying to plow through it works. I mean hey its worth a shot right? Lets say she says she has a boyfriend, I don't think it would be smart to cut off all attempts to pursue her right then and there. I should still try to be friendly around her and who know what may happen.

Anyone else reading please try to hit up the main question, to MyTeamSupreme I need to begin by finding out if she even has a boyfriend and therein lies the problem. I need approach advice, feedback and anything else that's going to help me strike a conversation that's going to be productive towards the goal of getting the number and a date.

I want to be careful how I do this, while waiting for some good advice I will just try to make comments to her here and there and short conversation before following whatever advice is given from here and go in for the kill (figuratively speaking).

 

[Nexxus]

there's so many damn girls in college, why focus on only one?

I just realized how heavenly college is, I arrived and everywhere I look I see a chick I'd ****. Don't get a oneitis.

 

[Nexxus]

there's so many damn girls in college, why focus on only one?

I just realized how heavenly college is, I arrived and everywhere I look I see a chick I'd ****. Don't get a oneitis.

 

[Nexxus]

wow... my internets ****ed up sorry. I need to set up ethernet here lol cuz wireless is so slow. sorry bout that quintuple post

 

[Prodigy746]

there's so many damn girls in college, why focus on only one?

I just realized how heavenly college is, I arrived and everywhere I look I see a chick I'd ****. Don't get a oneitis.

I so agree with you on that one... i just got back into college after 1 year brake and its like heaven. Everywhere i look there are good looking girls with short shorts on... Only thing i hate is the fact that since i took a year off i dont know anyone in school now so i have no social value. Either way i did start talking to some girls today in class and also talked to some guys. I will go ahead and try to form some study groups in my classes....


I wish i had one good friend with me so that it would give me confidence. bahhh

 

[Sofomore]

Sounds to me like you're making a huge deal over one girl. When you are hesitant just think like Nike: JUST DO IT!

If you crash and burn who gives a ****? There are plenty of other women out there. Sorry to be harsh but grow some balls and sit next to her once. Worst case scenario she sees you as a friend. So what? Learn from it.

 

[mtlwlu]

1) Be confident, girls dont want guys looking weak or stuttering.
2) if she sits solo, sit beside her? easy
3) Make small talk of the classes you had previous, how weird the prof was or how you pulled an all nighter to get that 30 pager done.
4) get her email at least by saying "let me know your email, just in case you or I miss a class, or need to get a cram session in" boom done and done.

ps I move back to school in a week, cannot wait!

 

[Mando]

Yeah I agree with what the other guys said, just sit next to her if shes solo, who knows maybe she was hoping you would haha.

 

[DonChino]

Sounds to me like you're making a huge deal over one girl. When you are hesitant just think like Nike: JUST DO IT!

If you crash and burn who gives a ****? There are plenty of other women out there. Sorry to be harsh but grow some balls and sit next to her once. Worst case scenario she sees you as a friend. So what? Learn from it.

Yeah I hear you man, I will go for it. Hopefully my newly acquired friend doesn't think I'm trying to avoid him when I go sit next to her.. he should get the hint real quick what I'm up to.

Thing also about the crash and burn thing, I would definitely hear what you sayin' in regards to just out and about; but how about those smallish college campuses? I crash and burn on her in the same class it makes for interesting rest of semester in lab lecture etc.

Ok another question on this, I know her name its a small class... she probably knows mine do I call her by her name or do I ask for it first even though I already know it.

To mtlwlu: I have been working on the confidence, its coming that's for sure.. but I do still trip up in a conversation at least once. Not like stuttering Stanley or something but I trip if you know what I mean (thinking ahead of myself while I'm talking). The e-mail advice is a nice touch, I can also definitely do the small talk but when it comes to talking about a lot OUTSIDE of that small talk, I got some work to do...

Thanks guys and yeah I do seem to be focused on this one girl too much, AFC AFC AFC... I will fix that.

 

[Sandow]

Its been a few years since I've been in college, but man I f'in miss colege. So many hot girls. Anyways, I never liked approaching girls in class. Its just not a good environment for picking up. Most girls are focused on the class, so i never got a good vibe for chance for pick up. I don't know, maybe it was my school. I say pick up at the parties or bars, its much better environment. Though might as well try in class, i just always preferred outside of class.