bukowski_merit
Master Don Juan
Hmmm.... I can understand how this can make you feel like she's more attracted to you...Duracell_Bunny said:She'd offer to pay for everything, drive me around everywhere (she insisted), she even called me up offering to go to the supermarket for me once as she noticed my cupboards were almost empty. Yup, that is no joke. She didn't ask for anything in return.
But who else in a mans life often pays for everything, drives them around, fills up their cupboards when they're empty, wipes their @ss when they sh!t, etc?
That's right - your mom!
If i ask a woman to buy me something and she does - that's good for me.
If i ask a woman to drive me around and she does - that's good for me.
If i ask a woman to take me to the suppermarket and buy me some food and she does - that's good for me.
If i ask a woman to take me out to eat and she does - that's good for me.
If she makes a habit of doing these things without my request - that's NOT good for me.
She is putting herself in the mother frame. And while some sick mothers do fvck their sons - most do not.
If you're with a woman who shows that she likes doing things for you, you can:
a) always request she does more. like if she says "im going to take you to the store and buy you some potatoes" - you say "yes, you can buy me carrots and steak too" (silly example, i know, but hopefully you get my point.)
b) make a request to her before she offers to do anything.
c) get mean with her. (if she says, "im going to take you to the grocery store" and you say, "no" and she says, "no, i insist" - you just kindda ignore it from there, and don't go with her. be mean if you have too. just do not ler her baby you!)
It's all about frame control. In each of the above - YOU are telling HER how it's going to be and she's following your lead. In the examples where she's doing things for you on her own on a consistent bases - that's you living in her frame, which is not where you want to be.
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Other than that, just make sure you fvck faster next time. Failure to escalate will get you put into the "boring guy" category quicker than any other mistake.