Nonsense... You are still emotionally attached to her, you're just trying to convince yourself that you're not.
I wish I could tell you otherwise, but the sad truth is that it's gonna take time to emotionally detach from her. You'll have to work through it and it might be a draining process at times...
You're looking for a shortcut, you just want to get it over with. You are erroneously assuming that taking revenge will do just that. As if you would be able to move on from her, leave the past the past and have peace with it all after you had your revenge fvck...
It doesn't work that way. It's just a trick of the mind, where all your emotions, all your love, all your pain, all your frustration, all your sadness etc. are being merged into one emotion,
revenge. And then, by acting out that one emotion, supposedly all of your emotions are being worked through. But it doesn't work like that and one will come back with empty hands from this attempt.
In fact, this whole revenge ploy will only work counterproductive... Your emotional attachment to her is hidden underneath the revenge, it is bascially camouflaged by the revenge. Hence, you think you can go in, seduce her and fvck her without running any emotional risk. But even though the emotional attachment is camouflaged, it's still there. And when you interact with the woman,
this emotional attachment will get reinforced, whether your ignorant a
ss is aware of this or not... The human emotional system does its own thing and follows its own rules, regardless what "you" think about it or whatever rationalization you come up with.
There's only one way to detach emotionally from a chick and move on with your life. It's called
'no contact'. It's one of the most basic facts that has been established by members of this website in the early days and has been confirmed by pretty much any member that followed in their footsteps until current day.
Never has there been some kind of addition that says:
'you should try to fvck her to get some vindication for the crap she put you through!'
On the contrary! Any member of this board whose opinion is worth a damn, will tell you that the need to
"get vindication for the crap shew put you through", is a sign of emotional attachment to her, and as you are actively pursuing this need, it will actually reinforce your emotional attachment to her and wipe out any progress you had made in this regard by staying no contact for a while.
Ever heard of sh!t tests and how to deal with them?! It's the same fvcking principle, man... You don't get angry and start cursing at her when she is sh!t testing you. Instead, you remain calm and just withhold your attention from her.
The whole fvcking game comes down to a power struggle, whether you're a guy doing a cold approach at the mall or a guy managing a 10 year marriage. In all our dealings with women, succes comes down to having the upper hand in the power struggle. And that upper hand is determined by the degree to which our actions are influenced by our emotions.
Women are physically weaker than men, so they have no
physical control over us and can't force us to do what they want in that way. That's why they try to gain
emotional control over us and use that to force us to do what they want.
The more power she gains over your emotions, the more power she gains over you and your actions. An extreme example is the typical beta chump who completely hands himself over to a girl emotionally and will do ANYTHING to make her happy. He's like wax in her hands coz he's so emotionally dependant of her that he will basically do anything to keep her pleased...
In other words, keep your emotions in check!! The more influence she gets over them, the more she can control you. In this regard, getting vindicative is a very weak thing to do. After all, revenge is really just a way to compensate for the hurt that someone else caused you... You might as well tell her straight out: "You hurt me
" and hand your balls over to her...
As much as you'd like to think that a 'revenge fvck' is gonna display your power over her (
"look who's talkin now, bytch! I own you!"), it really is gonna do the opposite (
"look how much control you have over my emotions. This 'revenge fvck' is just my desperate attempt to compensate for the hurt you caused me...")
If all of the above doesn't hit home to you, then at least take a minute to analyze your own words:
My only emotional investment is in fvcking her to get some vindication for the crap she put me through.
And don't act like you wouldn't do the same in my shoes. She is a legit HB8.5-9. Those don't grow on trees where I'm from.
So one moment you're admitting that you want to fvck her ONLY for revenge, but the next moment you say you wanna fvck her because she's hot.
Seems you're not really clear about your own intentions and motives and until you are, I suggest you don't make any big decions.
Take care!
