girl i`m seeing-need help in figuring things out

joe45

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met a girl randomly at bus stop. we went out 4 xs and on the 4th date we made out heavily -could have had sex but wasn't prepared and couldn't keep the erection. she was hesitant but then she asked if i wanted a relationship and i said yes and then she thought about it and then we made out. i just thought this could be a little too fast, but not sure as i never had this before.

i like her but shes very secrective and won't tell you much about her self-whever i ask her questions be it what her parents do for a living , or what she did on the weekend. she won't tell you much . everything is secret. i haven;t asked how many bfs she had or been with-but i'm pretty sure she would evade them. she also very quiet so its hard to figure things out

she said she would give a relationship with me a chance, but not sure if she means it or just saying it. the thing i like about her is she doesn;t expect me to pay and if i do she gives me back the money. i'm not being used for money, but i dont want to be used emotionally -as i am inexperience and naive

she also doesn't put me in priority and always says maybe.... wednesday even though there are 3 days before hand. like if your the bf you think differently. also i am the one doing all the-lets hang out here, lets do this and that

she also said---i'm not a good girl. she then says she likes bad guys and players --what the heck

what do you guys think. i just dont want to be played as a fool. shes only here in the city for 5 more months then going back to japan.
 

jophil28

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joe45 said:
she also said---i'm not a good girl. she then says she likes bad guys and players --what the heck
A simple womanspeek translation for ya Joe,
" I fvck like a wh0re on a cruise ship when I am around bad azz guys and jerks."

Now, did you really need me to translate ?

You don't want to be played? You already are, BUT she is at least telling you so in a roundabout way.
 

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She controls the frame.

Actually she doesn't just control the frame...

She is completely dominating it.

The only way for you to escape this disaster waiting to happen with your dignity is to simply not consider what you and she have as a real relationship which means don't actually invest yourself emotionally in this chick, still knock it out with other broads behind her back as you can be sure with as secretive as she is thats what she's doing this with other guys.

Secretive chicks are like that.

Its the carrot and stick principle of manipulation.

The carrot dangling before you for you to chase after is whats really going on in her life by begging her for answers then she'll throw out a few lies after you've begged enough that make it seem as though her secrets weren't that devious after all and just normal family stuff that was important to her which she wanted to keep secret "until she could trust you" which will make you feel like a horse's ass after she tells you this convincing lie for questioning her integrity.

Meanwhile you'll never know the real secrets about all the gangbangs she's been involved in over the years and guys she fvcked while you thought she was "working" and the guy she randomly met after seeing you...but whom she only kissed and nothing else teehee.

So yeah she's a well skilled female player and so you need to understand she is only a cvm receptacle.

She is not putting you first so don't put her first and don't be calling her all the time to meet up.

Let her put in the effort for your time.

Let her think she's playing you at times with this "relationship" b.s but once again continue banging other chicks on the side as the opportunity presents itself for you.

She's not someone you take seriously in any capacity.

Oh yeah also if she asks you to go out of your way for her in any capacity like drive a long distance to pick her up or her friends let her know you won't be doing that.

Also any time she exhibits a b!tchy attitude to try and control you hang up the phone on her and if you are with her walk away without saying a word.

Leave that b!tch at whatever spot you and she are at.

Thats how you get power over hot b!tches.

Let them know that they will not be controlling you or sh!tting all over you while you are together.
 

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She likes bad boys, so be one. lie to her, and treat her like shyt, and bang other girls.
 

Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.

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