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Girl I Banged Literally Took a Month to Text Back(+Texting Tips)

nicksaiz65

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Title explains it all, basically. So the girl from my last Lay Report; I texted her a bit after we banged, and then she just dropped off the face of the Earth. I moved on and did other approaches, started meeting other women. But then yesterday once I get back from the gym, I wake up to a text that says "OMG, I've been so slammed lately. I hope you've had a good Thanksgiving as well :) "

So, does anyone have experience with chicks hitting you up randomly out of the blue like this? And how do you deal with it? I assume I should just set up another date and then put my d*ck in her again lol. My rule is usually to take as long or longer than she takes to reply. But obviously I'm not going to wait a month to hit her back. So how do I handle situations like this, just for the reference experience?

My text strategy at this point is basically to just use the old school method and text for logistics. I've experimented with trying to text a bit more, and I always end up putting my foot in my mouth and blowing it, or making things worse. Plus I hate stressing over what message to send. So for ME, keeping it extremely simple and texting for logistics makes the most sense.

Also, this is tangentially related, but after you secure the bang with a girl, how are you guys texting her after the lay? With the aim of adding her to your rotation. This part of my Game is still a bit shaky, and I'd like to improve it so that I can get better at building and keeping rotations.

So yeah. Once again, would definitely appreciate you guys' wisdom.
 
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Plinco

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She's texting back because now it's convenient for her. I'd reject her if I were you.

As far as what I do, I've learned to let her text first after sex. I do this to gauge her interest level and then go from there.
 

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So, does anyone have experience with chicks hitting you up randomly out of the blue like this? And how do you deal with it? I assume I should just set up another date and then put my d*ck in her again lol.
Yes, I had something similar happen. A woman drops off after a first date for a few weeks. Then, she texts me. We have a second date. Eventually, sex. This can happen. Annoying. Do text her again. Set up a date. But don't expect much more than a few more instances of sex.

My rule is usually to take as long or longer than she takes to reply. But obviously I'm not going to wait a month to hit her back. So how do I handle situations like this, just for the reference experience?
Good rule in general when a woman replies to texts within 1 hour-30 hours.
 

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Flake now or flake later, a flake gonna flake
This is true Nick.

You are a low priority for her.

If you set something up, you are very low on her priority list and she will likely flake.
 

2Rocky

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Text her back but don’t think you are her only option. She’s second string in any case. Let her reengage you but don’t have any expectations.
 

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If it's been over (or close to) 30 days:
Her: "OMG, I've been so slammed lately. I hope you've had a good Thanksgiving as well :) "
You: "This is embarrassing. It looks like I may have mistakenly removed your name from my contacts. May I ask who this is?"

If she ignores, then she wasn't worth your further investment. If she responds friendly, start out being be playfully distant. I'm not sure that the odds appear in your favor, but this could provide some light-hearted fun.
 

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Title explains it all, basically. So the girl from my last Lay Report; I texted her a bit after we banged, and then she just dropped off the face of the Earth. I moved on and did other approaches, started meeting other women. But then yesterday once I get back from the gym, I wake up to a text that says "OMG, I've been so slammed lately. I hope you've had a good Thanksgiving as well :) "

So, does anyone have experience with chicks hitting you up randomly out of the blue like this? And how do you deal with it? I assume I should just set up another date and then put my d*ck in her again lol. My rule is usually to take as long or longer than she takes to reply. But obviously I'm not going to wait a month to hit her back. So how do I handle situations like this, just for the reference experience?

My text strategy at this point is basically to just use the old school method and text for logistics. I've experimented with trying to text a bit more, and I always end up putting my foot in my mouth and blowing it, or making things worse. Plus I hate stressing over what message to send. So for ME, keeping it extremely simple and texting for logistics makes the most sense.

Also, this is tangentially related, but after you secure the bang with a girl, how are you guys texting her after the lay? With the aim of adding her to your rotation. This part of my Game is still a bit shaky, and I'd like to improve it so that I can get better at building and keeping rotations.

So yeah. Once again, would definitely appreciate you guys' wisdom.
She might wanted to be banged once a month. If it wasn't a bang don't let her waste your time. People sign on for once a week, once every few weeks, once a month. Maybe a couple times a week. Enjoy the time and don't let her waste yours.
 

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So, does anyone have experience with chicks hitting you up randomly out of the blue like this
I'm surprised it's the first time this happened to you. It's sadly pretty common.

She was probably dating someone else, it didn't work out and now she is using you as a backup.
 

Willie Naylor

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Getting slammed by other d!cks and being stuffed better than turkeys over the holidays.
This reminds me of a girl from my past. I dated her mouth for about 3 months, and there were times where she'd fall off the grid on me for a week at a time. She'd msg me after the week and always have some drawn out story about being at her parents' or something.

Smh
 

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In most cases it means that you are not the only guy in her life , but it can also mean that she does not have a high sex drive and wants just a fwb

reply the next day and just be friendly and telling her that you feel her as some periods of time are quite hectic .

what it is important is to let her do the leg work , while you do not invest too much and then focus on logistics
 

derby1

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Title explains it all, basically. So the girl from my last Lay Report; I texted her a bit after we banged, and then she just dropped off the face of the Earth. I moved on and did other approaches, started meeting other women. But then yesterday once I get back from the gym, I wake up to a text that says "OMG, I've been so slammed lately. I hope you've had a good Thanksgiving as well :) "

So, does anyone have experience with chicks hitting you up randomly out of the blue like this? And how do you deal with it? I assume I should just set up another date and then put my d*ck in her again lol. My rule is usually to take as long or longer than she takes to reply. But obviously I'm not going to wait a month to hit her back. So how do I handle situations like this, just for the reference experience?

My text strategy at this point is basically to just use the old school method and text for logistics. I've experimented with trying to text a bit more, and I always end up putting my foot in my mouth and blowing it, or making things worse. Plus I hate stressing over what message to send. So for ME, keeping it extremely simple and texting for logistics makes the most sense.

Also, this is tangentially related, but after you secure the bang with a girl, how are you guys texting her after the lay? With the aim of adding her to your rotation. This part of my Game is still a bit shaky, and I'd like to improve it so that I can get better at building and keeping rotations.

So yeah. Once again, would definitely appreciate you guys' wisdom.
Leave her on read FOREVER. OR in 20 years time when your sons only options are pregnant single women,.....who think men are clowns from clown world, Don't say I didnt warn society.
 

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Her message was a pure reply to yours.

No asking for any info about you.

Don't text back.

If she does later, play with that, but don't expect it.

But otherwise, this seems to be something she wanted to check off a list, so you wouldn't think (or she could convince herself that you would think) she was a total ghosting tool.

This allows her hamster to move this event out of the "bang and ghost" category to "we were together but we kind of drifted our separate ways" category of her mind.
 

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Title explains it all, basically. So the girl from my last Lay Report; I texted her a bit after we banged, and then she just dropped off the face of the Earth. I moved on and did other approaches, started meeting other women. But then yesterday once I get back from the gym, I wake up to a text that says "OMG, I've been so slammed lately. I hope you've had a good Thanksgiving as well :) "

So, does anyone have experience with chicks hitting you up randomly out of the blue like this? And how do you deal with it? I assume I should just set up another date and then put my d*ck in her again lol. My rule is usually to take as long or longer than she takes to reply. But obviously I'm not going to wait a month to hit her back. So how do I handle situations like this, just for the reference experience?

My text strategy at this point is basically to just use the old school method and text for logistics. I've experimented with trying to text a bit more, and I always end up putting my foot in my mouth and blowing it, or making things worse. Plus I hate stressing over what message to send. So for ME, keeping it extremely simple and texting for logistics makes the most sense.

Also, this is tangentially related, but after you secure the bang with a girl, how are you guys texting her after the lay? With the aim of adding her to your rotation. This part of my Game is still a bit shaky, and I'd like to improve it so that I can get better at building and keeping rotations.

So yeah. Once again, would definitely appreciate you guys' wisdom.
One word: Disrespect

Don't allow it.

Be a gentleman and reply "Thanks! Likewise". But that should be the extent of it. If you decide to ignore her completely, it'd be a good choice as well. Either way, I agree with you, in texting and dating, simplicity is key.

If she tries to rope you back in, respectfully decline. You have better things to do and more women to see (hopefully you do or this girl will have you pu**y whipped).


Modern Man Advice
 

2Rocky

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Was it Bang Report 12?

Now all I have to do from here is remember how that Killer Instinct felt, and keep using it from here on out. I have the reference experience.

Another thing, the Self Improvement I’ve been doing has really been helping out. This girl was constantly complimenting me on my body and how nice my 360 Waves were. So that’s a big plus. Those aspects help support the killer instinct as well. The white girls love the waves! IMO this self improvement helps create more yes girls, and then I just need adequate game to pull them.

But, I’m very proud of this interaction because I did a ton of things right. Let me know what you guys think.
SO now you are learning how to handle a boomerang girl...

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About a year and half later, I checked her Facebook profile, confirmed there was no boyfriend or “In A Relationship” status that I could see, and sent her a Facebook message. She responded, but was a little cold. I got her to text me, and we conversed over text a little. I knew that from her colder attitude and her new over-33 status that just inviting her over to my house would not work.
So instead, I broke one of my rules and invited her to lunch. I knew she had no boyfriend, so my plan was to sexually escalate there. She agreed to go, and there was no sexual escalation other than some really tight hugs (a mistake and failure on my part).

Another entire year went by with minimal to no contact. I texted her out of the blue one day, and she responded. I pitched going to lunch again, but with several more years of experience doing this, I was adamant that I would sexually escalate.

She agreed, and during lunch I was sexual as hell. Sex talk, squeezing her legs, the works. Walking out of the cheap Mexican restaurant (I made sure to keep the “date” very cheap and casual, and she paid for her half), I grabbed her and we made out. After we were done, she frowned at me (ah, over 33 women) but didn’t say anything negative.
Walking back to our cars, I told her to come over to my place. Her over-33 ASD bubbled up within her, saying that she didn’t want to because she didn’t want to get “groped.” I smiled and persisted. She said no two more times. I shrugged, kissed her again, hard, smiled, told her to have a nice day, and left.

Just three hours later, she sent me a text saying that she had to admit that I “tasted good.” I told her to come over. She was hesitant. She said she didn’t want to be a FB (ah, over 33 women.) I told her that she could never be a FB because of our history together, and it was the truth.
One hour after that, we were having sex on one of my blankets on my living room floor. We had sex off and on for three hours.
Three days later, we did it again. This time, four hours.
This continued for about three months, until one day she stopped responding to my texts again. Ah, so this was her pattern. This time I was cool with it. I knew she’d be back.
 
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