"Girl Handshakes"

[Snowyk]

I have noticed tips flying around about the "Girl handshake" (Girls hand on top, guys below)

I NEVER use this handshake. Ever.

On a subtle level it conveys that you are subservient/weaker.

In business and social situations, I always offer my palm down to establish dominance.

With girls, David D's "Never shake hands" works best for me.


Does this work well?
I've got out there and tried it, it looks kinda wussy, and I don't get as much success.

Thoughts?

 

[BrotherAP]

I think you're wrong. There's nothing subservient about a 'girl handshake' - it's the traditional way for a man to greet a woman and show his dominance. It's a throwback to days when gender roles in society were clear, and it's going out of style since we are trying to equalize everyone. Or, if the feminists have their way, someday girls will be shaking our hands with their palms up to show their dominance.

When I meet a girl, I'll come up with an immediate question to ask her as an excuse to hold the handshake for a few additional seconds - it's very subtle, and difficult to describe, but if I have something interesting to say (or ask) she'll use our hand-hold to pull in closer. I'll finish what I'm saying, maybe wait for her answer, and release. If you do it right, it's classy and leaves an impression. If you do it wrong, though, it seems pushy and desperate.

If you're having trouble picturing what I mean, just think about any time somebody has held a handshake for a few extra seconds because they were asking you something - it's not too uncommon.

 

[MindOverMatter]

Jesus, there is more to attraction then a handshake. If you shake her hand in a certain way, she's not gonna think you're alpha or omega lol.

The no handshake rule is retarded, and one more reason for me not to buy DYD if he stresses over lil sh!t like that.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

actuly there is 1 important thing, and that is not the position of your hand, but the grip, if you do it weakly that shows you are beta. My problem is girls seem to unlike guys grab my fingers instead of the palm of my hand lol so how can i squeeze at all, its a problem, maybe its cos they got smaller hands?

 

[Sisko]

Well body language experts say that a week handshake shows your beta and also the one where your palm is faced upwards.

Well why not shake her hand where both hands stand equally ?

 

[Snowyk]

I see what BrotherAP is saying,
Sounds like something for me to work on.


Expand on "Never shake hands":
Its not "Sit with your hands in your pockets and completely blank her", its more along the lines of, if she has met five guys in a row, and they have all given her the standard shake, and you come in and do something fun (assume thumb war position, come up with a weird secret handshake etc) its fun, and makes it a game.

Intresting to hear though.

 

[seroph]

i recently read that girl handshake thing too. i started doin it cuz the traditional business handshake had a "friends" feel to it and by doing it, it's actually unique. at least within the girls i meet.

i dunno about "no handshakes"... what if she puts out her hand first.. "sorry i dont do handshakes.." sounds like something outta Seinfeld. *shrugs*

i like the thumb war thing though. lol.

when a girl puts out her hand, i take my fingers and put them in her palm and rotate her hand so it's up. and grasp the top of her hand with my thumb. give it a lil' tug all while not breaking EC. lil' 007/james bond smile. you know.

...but that's really what i do... lol.

-JP

 

[MindOverMatter]

Well body language experts say that a week handshake shows your beta and also the one where your palm is faced upwards.

Listen to yourself man. "body language experts"...what?? lol, there is an expert for everything now. Sh1t, I'm gonna get my pHD in Body Language tommorow from the internet college lol.

Seriously, stop reading cosmo.

 

[Schlep]

Non-verbal communcation is a fairly large chunk of any Communications major/masters/PhD. It's not made up.

Speaking of comm classes...almost every one I've been in is about 15 girls to every 1 guy.

 

[MindOverMatter]

Originally posted by Schlep
Non-verbal communcation is a fairly large chunk of any Communications major/masters/PhD. It's not made up.

Speaking of comm classes...almost every one I've been in is about 15 girls to every 1 guy.

a girl is not gonna think you're alpha cause you shook her hand in a certain way, despite what the "experts" tell you. people on this forum overanalyze sh!t way tooooooo much.

 

[Schlep]

I don't know why you're responding to me with that. All I said is that non-verbal (body language) is part of an actual major. I never said I give a crap about the method used for shaking hands.

 

[diplomatic_lies]

Just don't go too far and end up with your palm completely facing down. Otherwise its not dominant, its retarded.

One guy tried to shake my hand by putting his palm down by almost a 90-degree angle. I just looked at his hand and asked, "Are you trying to shake my hand or touch my crotch?"

Most of the girls in our group didn't think he was alpha after that. Ever.

 

[BrotherAP]

Originally posted by MindOverMatter


a girl is not gonna think you're alpha cause you shook her hand in a certain way, despite what the "experts" tell you. people on this forum overanalyze sh!t way tooooooo much.

Exactly. People are thinking so hard about every little action they do, they end up looking like one of those guys on that reality TV show where they have an earpiece and some dude is giving them instructions.

Most of the girls in our group didn't think he was alpha after that. Ever.

I'm sure they exclaimed "That guy is soooo un-alpha... did you see the way he shakes hands? He is clearly unfit to father my children!" Look, people don't think this way. You can completely fvck up a handshake, or say something totally stupid, or do a number of things that are 'non-alpha' without anybody thinking any less of you. It's your overall attitude that matters.

 

[h2o]

sometimes, when i shake hands with a girl, i like to give them my palm face down, on top of their hand.

but the key is, you have to have your thumb angled at a 47.5 degree angle, otherwise, you could give off the "beta" vibe

if you're left handed, i would suggest going at a 84.3 degree angle or greater

also, make sure you don't squeeze too hard. if you're going to squeeze at all, try to grab her index, middle, and pinky at the same time. then, slightly pull them while looking in her eyes. this has been field tested hundreds of times.

good luck :woo:

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by h2o
if you're going to squeeze at all, try to grab her index, middle, and pinky at the same time. then, slightly pull them while looking in her eyes.

Last time I did that, she farted.

 

[aftershock]

Ever seen Banzai? With the Mr Shake Hands Man? I do that sometimes. It's good fun if they play along.

Note: A sarcastic nature helps here!

 

[mungro]

i don't care what the "experts say" I've seen dominant guys offer their hands palms up and palms down...

but I'll say this, from my experience, most girls will offer their hands slightly palm facing down... (almost as tho it was a subconcious throw back to the days when a gentleman would then kiss the lady's hand) and I think someone else pointed this out... most girls will not thrust their hands all the way into your hand so that your thumbs interlock for that "strong" handshake. they will mostly offer just the fingers and then grab onto your hand like that... and on that note, with men, I will usually grab their hand and give several simple shakes... with girls I never really shake. I mostly hold her hand and then make eye contact and then give a very subtle squeeze (not so you hear her bones crack, that doesn't demonstrate any dominance).

I have a pretty easy time meeting people and that's how I handle first time meet and greets.... just my two cents.

 

[spider_007]

Re: Handshakes?

Originally posted by KillaPetehog
Who gives a #@!

That ain't gonna get you laid.

handshake is usually the first contact between you and another person (sometimes woman, in whose pants you wana get into). It convays a lot of info about you; your confidence, your "manlyness", your leadership..... When i shake hands, I do it with the hands side to side. In another words I don't twist my hand nor do I twist theirs. One thing that anoys me complely is when someone grabs my fingers. THAT IS NOT THE WAY TO DO IT. Your pam should be completly touching the other persons. You should give a firm handshake, but don't crush the other persons hand. Just enough so they feel you. Also if you are meeting a woman that you are interasted in, take the other hand and cover hers, that way her hand is sandwiched between yours. while doing this you should be looking the other person in the eyes.

 

[mungro]

Who gives a #@!

That ain't gonna get you laid.

True, but no one thing is gonna get you laid.... kino by itself, a great opening line and nothing else, a good approach with nothing, or any amount of ****y funny attitude without the right approach won't get you laid either... a handshake is just another pebble that composes the smooth path of the DJ

 

[Snowyk]

A handshake is an awesome chance to do many things.
Initiate Kino, differentiate yourself from everyone else.

In other words, its a good chance to make an impression.

Its just another little tool in the DJ toolbox.