oldspice891
Don Juan
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Hey guys I need your help for this one. My bad if this is long but this has been killing me.
So I've liked this girl for like 6 months now at work. We've been friends this whole time sort of on and off. We finally dated these past 2 weeks, just going out getting drinks etc.
It built up to Fri night she stayed the night. We both passed out because we were exhausted. Sat morning we're fooling around, and my **** is hard and rubbing on her (just made her *** through foreplay), and she gets up starts crying says she can't do this etc etc and says we should be friends. So the next 2 days (I KNOW I know I'm stupid for this) I'm trying to talk it over see where I messed up. Obviously talking it over killed any vibe left when I should have just let her run off, think, then come back. So I'm pretty stupid for talking right? Even SHE said I should have STFU.
We're honest like that and she's told me I didn't do anything wrong, I'm a perfect gentleman, she thought she was ready for this but wasn't. My buddy who saw us hanging out said she acted like a schoolgirl around me, so I don't get what went wrong. Basically she said if theres a great connection and a guy likes her and she likes him too, she's scared of getting hurt and runs off and she's done this with multiple guys. She kept telling me I did nothing wrong and that she's crazy and f*cked up and I shouldn't change myself to be with her.
I mean, did i SERIOUSLY not do anything wrong..otherwise she would have fukked me right? She's had f*ck buddies and 3 month type relationships, so I don't get how a 2 week thing with me she has feelings for me and it scares her but she's actually been f*cking other dudes for longer? She has told me about these dudes she is still hung up on. $hit doesn't make sense.
Basically she is really experienced relationship wise, whereas I am not, so I guess we are different pages? Did she pick up on this and that's the reason why she didn't want to have sex or pursue something? She said even if I was a virgin she wouldn't care though.
I don't know why I am so attracted to her. I don't get it. We argue a lot and she's crazy but that makes me want her more?
Backstory on her:
-21
-Failed Multiple long term relationships
-She revealed when she was crying she had a bad sexual trauma one night...I'll let you fill in the blank (when we were drunk out she said being a stripper/pros wasn't a bad idea, donno if it was a joke)
-Basically a sloot
-Parties drinks/hooks up a lot
Basically, so how do I view this situation? I know everyone is going to say dude stay the f*ck away from this girl. But thing is she's cool as ****, really attractive (every dude at work has tried to hit it), and we have this amazing and honest connection (not saying to sound like an infatuated bish, we really do).
Since she said we are friends and the next 2 days we talked and overanalyzed it to death, even she said she was over it, is it safe to say there is pretty much no chance of us hooking up together in the future?
So are people sometimes on different pages in life and it doesn't work out for one of the millions of reasons? You just gotta accept that and move on and not give it a 2nd thought? Is this what normal people do because I overanalyze things to death. Even she said she used to do that but stopped once she casually dated and just learned to move on from a situation without a 2nd thought.
That was long but this has been killing me these past couple days. thanks for the responses brahs.
So I've liked this girl for like 6 months now at work. We've been friends this whole time sort of on and off. We finally dated these past 2 weeks, just going out getting drinks etc.
It built up to Fri night she stayed the night. We both passed out because we were exhausted. Sat morning we're fooling around, and my **** is hard and rubbing on her (just made her *** through foreplay), and she gets up starts crying says she can't do this etc etc and says we should be friends. So the next 2 days (I KNOW I know I'm stupid for this) I'm trying to talk it over see where I messed up. Obviously talking it over killed any vibe left when I should have just let her run off, think, then come back. So I'm pretty stupid for talking right? Even SHE said I should have STFU.
We're honest like that and she's told me I didn't do anything wrong, I'm a perfect gentleman, she thought she was ready for this but wasn't. My buddy who saw us hanging out said she acted like a schoolgirl around me, so I don't get what went wrong. Basically she said if theres a great connection and a guy likes her and she likes him too, she's scared of getting hurt and runs off and she's done this with multiple guys. She kept telling me I did nothing wrong and that she's crazy and f*cked up and I shouldn't change myself to be with her.
I mean, did i SERIOUSLY not do anything wrong..otherwise she would have fukked me right? She's had f*ck buddies and 3 month type relationships, so I don't get how a 2 week thing with me she has feelings for me and it scares her but she's actually been f*cking other dudes for longer? She has told me about these dudes she is still hung up on. $hit doesn't make sense.
Basically she is really experienced relationship wise, whereas I am not, so I guess we are different pages? Did she pick up on this and that's the reason why she didn't want to have sex or pursue something? She said even if I was a virgin she wouldn't care though.
I don't know why I am so attracted to her. I don't get it. We argue a lot and she's crazy but that makes me want her more?
Backstory on her:
-21
-Failed Multiple long term relationships
-She revealed when she was crying she had a bad sexual trauma one night...I'll let you fill in the blank (when we were drunk out she said being a stripper/pros wasn't a bad idea, donno if it was a joke)
-Basically a sloot
-Parties drinks/hooks up a lot
Basically, so how do I view this situation? I know everyone is going to say dude stay the f*ck away from this girl. But thing is she's cool as ****, really attractive (every dude at work has tried to hit it), and we have this amazing and honest connection (not saying to sound like an infatuated bish, we really do).
Since she said we are friends and the next 2 days we talked and overanalyzed it to death, even she said she was over it, is it safe to say there is pretty much no chance of us hooking up together in the future?
So are people sometimes on different pages in life and it doesn't work out for one of the millions of reasons? You just gotta accept that and move on and not give it a 2nd thought? Is this what normal people do because I overanalyze things to death. Even she said she used to do that but stopped once she casually dated and just learned to move on from a situation without a 2nd thought.
That was long but this has been killing me these past couple days. thanks for the responses brahs.
