Girl gives me the going out of town line

[thegspwarrior97]

Hi,
So this chick I just met, we made plans to go out this weekend. I am so friggin pissed, she tells me today that she can't hang out because she is going out of town and that she completely forgot about our plans. But she did apologize and said she will make it up to me next weekend.

Should I respond to this? Will that make me seem needy and desperate? If I should respond to this, what should I say? Or should I just ignore her and wait for her to make contact?

Help appreciated.

 

[Cash]

Next her.

If she makes contact, tell her your out of town.

 

[epicwinner]

^^^

don't listen to this fool.

she could be genuine, just be cool. If she is into you, she will re-schedule and contact you. or you can contact her again after a week or two.

but IF she blows you off again, then you next her.

 

[DJDanny]

First off a DJ doesn't get friggin pissed because some chick flakes on him. Brush it off and get over it, you should be above it, the sooner you realize that the more successful you're going to be. I would reccommend reading Be a man by Pook, in particular pay attention to the section entitled "Qualifications" of a great guy.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16903

As for the chick, it's your call, you can either next her as Cash suggested, however, if she's apologized and the excuse seems legit and she's showing high interest, give her the oppourtunity to set the next engagement if she contacts you, it would be stupid to suggest your out of town in spite, being vengeful isn't a trait of a real DJ either.

Of course if she flakes twice then it's auto next, there are lots of em out there.

 

[Cash]

^^^

don't listen to this fool.

she could be genuine, just be cool. If she is into you, she will re-schedule and contact you. or you can contact her again after a week or two.

but IF she blows you off again, then you next her.

Contact her again after a week or two??? ^ This fool is a perfect example as to why this forum has gone down hill.

She's not interested. Being out of town is one thing, completely forgetting is another. And it's one thing to give her another try IF she calls again, but if you want to save yourself some dignity, you won't be calling her first.

 

[DJDanny]

to be more clear, what im really asking is, she texted me this reply on text message. i mean should I respond to this text? or should I wait until she makes contact with me if that is the last text message she sent.

Well to be honest usually a text message blow off is a sign of low interest, I'm not sure I'd follow up any further I thought you had actually talked to this chick.

If you're still interesting in following up, I definately wouldn't contact her right away, you're a busy guy remember. At the same time though you are a man, if you want something you go out and get it not sit on your ass and wait for it to come to you. So wait til a few days after the weekend then contact her, if she gets in touch in the mean time great, she probably is interested, if she doesn't that's fine as well, re-evaluate next time you talk to her.

what should my response be, something along the lines of "no problem" or something like that. to be clear I have not responded to this text message at all. im thinking it would be rude not to respond at all?

Rude is blowing off a guy because you "forgot" you were going out of town for the weekend, I personally wouldn't bother acknowledging it.

 

[Nutz]

A) Start double and triple booking your nights.
B) Weekends should be for only guaranteed lays or nights out with the boys where you are finding new plates to fill the schedule.
C) Follow the two strikes rule.
D) Send her as short a response as possible saying okay. Something like "np" would suffice indicating "no problem".
E) Do NOT contact her again once you send the above. If she's interested she'll make the time and take the effort to see you again.

 

[LinkinParkROX]

A) Start double and triple booking your nights.
B) Weekends should be for only guaranteed lays or nights out with the boys where you are finding new plates to fill the schedule.
C) Follow the two strikes rule.
D) Send her as short a response as possible saying okay. Something like "np" would suffice indicating "no problem".
E) Do NOT contact her again once you send the above. If she's interested she'll make the time and take the effort to see you again.

D & E.

 

[epicwinner]

Contact her again after a week or two??? ^ This fool is a perfect example as to why this forum has gone down hill.
She's not interested. Being out of town is one thing, completely forgetting is another. And it's one thing to give her another try IF she calls again, but if you want to save yourself some dignity, you won't be calling her first.

LOL

 

[jophil28]

Rude is blowing off a guy because you "forgot" you were going out of town for the weekend, I personally wouldn't bother acknowledging it.

Yeah, my guess is that she did not "forget" at all. Women count the hours until they meet up with new guy for a planned date.
MY guess is that she either had a better offer OR she is has changed her mind about you and is hoping that you will fade away.
Anyways, it is HER place to contact you when she returns from her weekend away. IF she does, then she is still interested. IF she does not call or text by midweek she is playing games with you and then you just lose her number..

I would NEVER call a woman afterwards who canceled like she did..she owes you some respect first.

If you canceled on her after she set up the date, your name would be mud in every coffeeshop all over town. Women do not believe that they owe men courtesy or consideration.

I bet she would not cancel if she and her girls had planned a GNO.

 

[FairShake]

If she's worth it give her one more chance. If not, they're right, don't bother talking to her again.

The finest way to tell if she's worth it? She contacts you while out of town or when she gets back.

 

[nismo-4]

She probably just wasn't that into you.

If she was, she would've made time to meet you. She probably got a better offer anyway.