Girl gave me her e-mail for a charity group. Should I use it for evil to ask her out?

[ufotofu9]

I'd first like to say that finding this sight has opened up a whole new world to me. I'm 22, and I've had random luck with women in the past, but this sight has helped so to make things not so random anymore. The last 3 months have been a different world for me. That said, my question:
I work at the service desk at my college, so people come up to me all the time to ask questions, buy stamps, etc. It's a great way to practice convo, watch chicks and such. This cute girl comes to the desk and asks if she can put a box for charity on my desk for UNICEF. I say sure, and strike up a convo about UNICEF and what she does for it, etc, etc. UNICEF, btw, is a human rights group that raises money for children effected by war. She's socially conciouse, which I like. I say I'd join a group like that but I have work when their group meets. She gives me her e-mail and says to write her and she'll put me on the UNICEF listserve and send me info. on the group.
So, would it be straight to e-mail her to ask her out? What should my e-mail say? thanks.

 

[Satan Psycho]

Originally posted by ufotofu9
So, would it be straight to e-mail her to ask her out? What should my e-mail say? thanks.

No way. She's trying to recruit you for UNICEF and you want to ask her out via email?!? You really need to read the DJ Bible, and this is the first time I've ever said that in a post under any sreen name.

 

[ufotofu9]

I guess I see too much of an opportunity in most encounters with women. I think I have to see women as a relationship prospect more sparingly. But, was there something THAT wrong in what I asked that warrents you to tell me to read the bible (btw, I don't mean that in an aggressive way, I'm actually curious). Thanks.

 

[00Kevin]

yes consider yourslef the charity. hit that HB up and make a donation in her.

 

[King Rat]

How would it be evil to grace her with you presence?
Be a kind DJ. Ask her out!

 

[BGMan]

You should have gotten her phone number. If she had given it to you, then you would have known for sure whether or not she was actually looking for an excuse to talk to you OR just placing UNICEF boxes around the joint.

In my experience, e-mail addresses NEVER work for getting a date. NEVER. Phone numbers are the way to go.

Go ahead and ask her out by e-mail, but as I said, I have VERY low expectations for dates by e-mail.

BGMan

 

[Bonhomme]

NO

!

 

[ufotofu9]

Thanks men. So what if I combo'ed and e-mailed her asking for her #?

 

[spanky]

Originally posted by ufotofu9
Thanks men. So what if I combo'ed and e-mailed her asking for her #?

Well, she gave you the email address under another pretense. Unless it has to do with UNICEF, you should not email her about any thing else unless you get her number.

Get the number the next time you see her if you see her again. I agree with BGman on the whole email thing. That David D guy advocate it but it just doesn't get the job done. Maybe when you see Elroy and Astro riding around it will be about something.

 

[Doppler4000]

If this site has opened a whole new world for you, we wouldn't know it. Step one is confidence and being direct about what you want when it comes to getting a number and asking someone out. If you try to ask this girl out now using this email you chances of success are pretty small, and it makes you look insincere.

A better way would have been telling her you'd like to hear more and get her number or set up a meeting right there.... although this is still indirect as far as what you're really interested in and most likely you'll end up in the friend zone- a common beginner's mistake.

Directly asking for her number and whether or not she'd like to go out sometime is always the way to go.

 

[ufotofu9]

Every day. Every day I ***** out of doing things and regret it intensly afterwards. It's like, right before I should take action (get her number, talk to her, kiss her, whatever) some voice tells me, "this isn't what you want to do. Don't do it. Go home and be by yourself. Play video games, wathc TV. You'll feel more comfortable." That voice has prevented so much happiness in my life. After the situation is over, I regret not taking action. A new voice says, "you'd be better off if you had done it. Now you have to live with not knowing forever." No matter how much I convince myself to take action, the first voice comes back. Is this a cosmic joke? Feels like it. Or is it the devil tempting me. I guess the devil would have me take the more comfortable way out in return for my frustration later. Well F$% the devil, I gotta take control. From now on, I will take advantage of oppportunities. Ugggggggghhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Caesar]

This reminds me of a Seinfeld episode where Jerry gets a girl's number off of an aid's list.

C

 

[Doppler4000]

Completely normal... changing your ways doesn't happen overnight. Eventually you'll have enough regrets and doing the right thing will become automatic. Accept the fact that you're gonna lose a lot of chicks during this time. Eventually stuff will start to stick.

 

[Bonhomme]

Doppler's right

Keep in mind that the first step to correcting a problem is the awareness of its existence.

Keep at it, and soon you'll conquer this problem, and move on to other areas of your game.

 

[chicago#one]

this can be saved

E-mail her about what you talked about, nothing more. Find out if there are any fundrasing events where you can volunteer, etc, that she is also involved with. When you go, talk business, but also talk non shop stuff. Get her number then.