girl from net wants to meet

[tony-montana]

okay so im confused. aint met with a girl in a while. we just spoke on the phone. i kept trying to get rid of her cause we were talking too much. she said to me "i dont want a bf from the net. i reckon they will just cheat on me with other girls on there" and even saying "if you dont wanna meet you dont have to"

and like, "you can bring your friend if you want." i said "nah just me and you"

she even whinged to my online friend about me cause i said i didnt wanna meet her cause she was too far. lol.

she called me. shes willing to drive an hour and more to see me too she said. what does she want from me? i really dont wanna be FRIENDS with a chick as ive had bad experiences in the past. she called me babe on the phone too. shold i just meet her anyway and maybe we'd end up being more than just friends??

this is what she said to my friend:

he must not like me
or find me attractive
i dont know
i might be too boring
or not his type
or something
i dont know
not that i wanted anything from him anyway
i thought i could help him make friends in (city i live in - i just moved thats why)
i think i upset him

note that wasnt all said in the same time. i just edited the nicks out and timestamps.

p.s.: she said, and i quote: "you have a nice sexy voice too. i liked it" and i said; "good cause ur going to be hearing it alot."

 

[cola]

R you gay? Helen Keller could see the IOIs here..
She says 'i don't want a relationship'..
Yet she flat out admits she's concerned about you finding her attractive..
She wants to get freaky with you..
And besides if she's driving to you what difference does it make?
just take her out, bang her and maybe if you play your cards right you'll have a new f.w.b..

 

[Cinamon]

I only send guys stuff like that when I want action without the hassle of a relationship. She may not want to date you, she sure as hell wants to mate you.

If she is willing to drive to you, let her come, spare her a few hours, whats thwe worst that can come of it, and you have got so much to gain.

She also sounds a bit insecure, you could really use that to your advantage... if you wanted.

 

[Vypros]

Consider the idea that she told your friend that stuff because she knew it would get back to you. Think about what she said in THAT context and realize that she told your friend exactly what she wanted you to hear, but didn't want to tell you directly.

Here's the deal....

Do you like her? Do you want to meet her? Are you interested in her?

If you can answer "yes" to those questions, then by all means meet up with her. Don't go to her. And don't expect her to come to you either. Pick a point halfway between you and meet there, in a public place.

Also realize that there is a HUGE difference between someone's online personality and someone's real life personality. Be prepared for it to be completely different in real life than it is in person. The reason for that is that you don't get everything online (or on the phone for that matter), so what you DON'T get, you use your imagination to fill in the gaps. Most of the time, your imagination is wrong, though. So it helps if you see that coming.

 

[tony-montana]

thanks for the replies guys.

forgot to mention shes a psychologist and on the phone she said she's gonna give me a "psychology lesson" ? lol.

i seriously didn't see that one coming. now it makes sense. she commented on my photo saying i'm a good looking guy.

there might be a problem now though. she asked me if she could bring her dog cause we both love dogs .. i have one too. i said "sure i love dogs." is this gonna be a problem if she brings her dog? maybe i should tell her not to bring it now. should we go walk around a bit and talk or just let her inside and hit it off? im not really big on making friends with girls.

any suggestions? we are meeting on saturday.

 

[shaunuk]

mate, if I were you, I'd get her inside your house, and escalate from there. There's a very good chance you're going to fvck if you just play it normally here

 

[tony-montana]

hmm i also just remembered her saying she liked me cause i wasn't like all the other guys on the net asking for sex. is that just a bullsh!t way of her not showing she's a s!ut ?

 

[Vypros]

hmm i also just remembered her saying she liked me cause i wasn't like all the other guys on the net asking for sex. is that just a bullsh!t way of her not showing she's a s!ut ?

That's usually one of the key phrases I look for to gauge whether I am friendzoned or not.

 

[tony-montana]

can anyone help me out with what to do? should i tell her to not bring the dog? go for a walk then go back to mine ? meet somewhere first then take her to mine? maybe its not a good idea to tell her where i live straight off? i'm stuck guys. what to do! ain't been on a date in ages. to be honest i don't really wanna HANG out with her. boring. unless i know shes gonna put out.

 

[PSYCHO]

..there might be a problem now though. she asked me if she could bring her dog ...

If you don't know what to do then change your name to Hannah Montana!


Give her dog a bone, and give the ho a boner!




.

 

[tony-montana]

it's not as simple as that. i can't have her dog running around my house. i got a dog too and my dog is too young for it. her dog is old. it will probably cause problems. i just want it to be us the first meet. i might just tell her to bring the dog another time so we can get to know each other first. i still don't know what to do about where to meet. meet somewhere then bring to my house? get her to come straight to my house? what!? :/

 

[Igetit!]

it's not as simple as that. i can't have her dog running around my house. i got a dog too and my dog is too young for it. her dog is old. it will probably cause problems. i just want it to be us the first meet. i might just tell her to bring the dog another time so we can get to know each other first. i still don't know what to do about where to meet. meet somewhere then bring to my house? get her to come straight to my house? what!? :/

Dude,you need to get a grip. I sincerely hope you're not this wishy-washy and indecisive when you actually do meet up with her,or the date will be over before you even say hi to her.

A woman wants a man,so be a man.

You don't won't her dog over to your house? Simple. You say to her,"Hey,I don't won't you to bring your dog over to my house".

See how easy that is?

If she asks you why,then just tell her that YOU WANT it to be just the two of you hanging out and spending time together on the first date. And if you two like each other and things go well,then maybe later on down the line she can bring her dog over. And say it like a man. Don't be all,"Umm,umm,hey...umm,would it be ok if you didn't bring your dog over this time?". Don't say it like that. Say it just like this,"Hey,I don't want you to bring your dog over". And again,if she asks why,tell her what I said earlier.

She's not going to do this,but on the off-hand chance that she tries to pull a,"Well,if I can't bring my dog,then I don't want to go on the date",then you say,"Alright then. Bye".

AND MEAN IT.

That won't happen,but if it does,and you back down and change your mind for her,YOU JUST LOST HER. Even if she does bring her dog over and go through with the date,internally,she's gone.

As for where to meet up,DO NOT take her straight to your house. Meet up somewhere public first so she'll feel safe. Spend a little time talking there,then tell her you need to stop by your house for a second. Go to your place,have her come in with you and let her walk around. Show her your house...but only take 5 to 10 minutes. Then,LEAVE. Go somewhere and get something to eat,or just hangout for a while...maybe an hour or two,then you can take her back to your place. This will familiarize her with where you live so she won't freak out because of being in a foreign environment.

Spend some time there. It's ok to do a little light kino,(hug,kiss)...but that's it
If you try to sleep with her,you'll probably spook her to the point she'll want to leave. Even though you met her over the internet,she doesn't want to appear easy or a slvt.

Just do that. Then on the next date,she'll be more relaxed and have her guard down because she'll already have known you a bit and be comfortable with your place.

 

[tony-montana]

thanks for the info pal. i have an update from tonight. funny about the dog thing. i already told her not to bring it. all good. she listens well.

she really opened up and gave me hints. here is a log of our chat:

[8:26:27 PM] her: hi maxie
[8:26:43 PM] me:: hey babe
[8:26:46 PM] me:: sup
[8:26:56 PM] her: nothing much
[8:26:57 PM] her: u
[8:27:11 PM] me:: got home while ago .. now just play a bit of ps3.
[8:27:16 PM] me:: what you get up to
[8:27:21 PM] her: im bored
[8:27:27 PM] her:
[8:27:42 PM] me:: come over
[8:27:43 PM] me:: lol
[8:27:50 PM] her: lol
[8:27:56 PM] me:: i will unbore you.
[8:28:03 PM] her: reallyyyyyyyyyyyy
[8:28:05 PM] her: wow
[8:28:10 PM] her: how are u going to do that
[8:28:45 PM] me:: maybe i'll show you on saturday
[8:30:02 PM] her: give me a little hint
[8:31:00 PM] me:: it will make you smile? lol
[8:31:10 PM] me:: it will relax you.
[8:31:15 PM] me:: take your stress away.
[8:31:21 PM] her: a masage?????????????
[8:31:22 PM] me:: woops i given too many hints away.
[8:31:26 PM] me:: holy ****
[8:31:29 PM] her: massage
[8:31:30 PM] me:: thats a ****ing good guess.
[8:31:32 PM] me:: LOL
[8:31:40 PM] her: yes/no?
[8:31:42 PM] me:: yes.
[8:31:47 PM] me:: i use to do massage with my mom
[8:31:55 PM] me:: for work
[8:32:00 PM] me:: so i will offer you
[8:32:05 PM] her: thanks hun
[8:32:10 PM] me:: if you want.
[8:32:24 PM] her: can i leave my clothes on
[8:32:41 PM] me:: no im afraid its gonna have to come right off !
[8:32:52 PM] me:: hahahaha >=)
[8:33:04 PM] her: lol
[8:33:15 PM] me:: i wanted to surprise you ;/
[8:33:16 PM] me:: damn
[8:33:47 PM] her: thats ok
[8:33:52 PM] her: ill still be suprised
[8:34:13 PM] me:: i was gonna say also. did you wanan bring the dog
another time? maybe this time we should just get to know
each other
[8:34:30 PM] her: ok
[8:34:37 PM] her: ill leave her home
[8:34:39 PM] me:: and you can hang out at my place and my dog will
be around
[8:34:55 PM] her: ok cool
[8:34:58 PM] her: sounds good
[8:35:07 PM] her: is your mom going to be home?
[8:35:18 PM] me:: no
[8:35:23 PM] me::
[8:37:30 PM] her: lol
[8:37:43 PM] her: so what are we going to do
[8:37:50 PM] her: do you want me to bring some movies
[8:38:09 PM] me:: dont you worry about movies. i got ****loads.
[8:38:17 PM] her: ok cool
[8:38:21 PM] her: do i get a hug?
[8:38:26 PM] her: i love hugs
[8:38:32 PM] me:: if you're a good girl
[8:44:45 PM] me:: what kind of movies you like
[8:45:13 PM] her: anthing except sci-fi
[8:45:42 PM] me:: *takes note*
[8:46:26 PM] her: lol
[8:46:35 PM] her: u are too cute
[8:48:22 PM] me:: thanks
[8:48:55 PM] me:: do you work on sat ?
[8:49:20 PM] her: not this sat
[8:50:02 PM] me:: what time you want to come.
[8:52:36 PM] her: u tell me
[8:53:01 PM] me:: i will let you know thursday.
[8:53:03 PM] me:: or friday
[8:54:18 PM] her: ok
[8:54:22 PM] her:
[9:00:42 PM] her: im sooooooooo bored
[9:02:29 PM] me:: just wait till saturday babe.
[9:02:47 PM] me:: you will be unbored for a week
[9:03:03 PM] her: do i get a hug
[9:03:21 PM] me:: sure
[9:03:51 PM] her:
[9:03:54 PM] her: thanks
[9:04:02 PM] me::
[9:04:08 PM] me:: just a hug?
[9:04:10 PM] me::
[9:04:47 PM] her: yep
[9:05:25 PM] me:: okay
[9:05:27 PM] me::
[9:05:44 PM] her:

then she called. she got disconnected then. her laptop died. said she was bored. i said she wouldnt be on saturday. she said can i have a hug? do you give good long hugs? i just want a hug. i said im gonna go and she went out to have a coffee with a friend.

when she said she wanted a hug i probably shouldn't of asked "just a hug?" cause she's not gonna just tell me she wants a fuk right?

 

[tony-montana]

this thread is gone way too fast on the next page lol. so ill just bring it back up ;P

 

[Igetit!]

thanks for the info pal. i have an update from tonight. funny about the dog thing. i already told her not to bring it. all good. she listens well.

she really opened up and gave me hints. here is a log of our chat:

[8:26:27 PM] her: hi maxie
[8:26:43 PM] me:: hey babe
[8:26:46 PM] me:: sup
[8:26:56 PM] her: nothing much
[8:26:57 PM] her: u
[8:27:11 PM] me:: got home while ago .. now just play a bit of ps3.
[8:27:16 PM] me:: what you get up to
[8:27:21 PM] her: im bored
[8:27:27 PM] her:
[8:27:42 PM] me:: come over
[8:27:43 PM] me:: lol
[8:27:50 PM] her: lol
[8:27:56 PM] me:: i will unbore you.
[8:28:03 PM] her: reallyyyyyyyyyyyy
[8:28:05 PM] her: wow
[8:28:10 PM] her: how are u going to do that
[8:28:45 PM] me:: maybe i'll show you on saturday
[8:30:02 PM] her: give me a little hint
[8:31:00 PM] me:: it will make you smile? lol
[8:31:10 PM] me:: it will relax you.
[8:31:15 PM] me:: take your stress away.
[8:31:21 PM] her: a masage?????????????
[8:31:22 PM] me:: woops i given too many hints away.
[8:31:26 PM] me:: holy ****
[8:31:29 PM] her: massage
[8:31:30 PM] me:: thats a ****ing good guess.
[8:31:32 PM] me:: LOL
[8:31:40 PM] her: yes/no?
[8:31:42 PM] me:: yes.
[8:31:47 PM] me:: i use to do massage with my mom
[8:31:55 PM] me:: for work
[8:32:00 PM] me:: so i will offer you
[8:32:05 PM] her: thanks hun
[8:32:10 PM] me:: if you want.
[8:32:24 PM] her: can i leave my clothes on
[8:32:41 PM] me:: no im afraid its gonna have to come right off !
[8:32:52 PM] me:: hahahaha >=)
[8:33:04 PM] her: lol
[8:33:15 PM] me:: i wanted to surprise you ;/
[8:33:16 PM] me:: damn
[8:33:47 PM] her: thats ok
[8:33:52 PM] her: ill still be suprised
[8:34:13 PM] me:: i was gonna say also. did you wanan bring the dog
another time? maybe this time we should just get to know
each other
[8:34:30 PM] her: ok
[8:34:37 PM] her: ill leave her home
[8:34:39 PM] me:: and you can hang out at my place and my dog will
be around
[8:34:55 PM] her: ok cool
[8:34:58 PM] her: sounds good
[8:35:07 PM] her: is your mom going to be home?
[8:35:18 PM] me:: no
[8:35:23 PM] me::
[8:37:30 PM] her: lol
[8:37:43 PM] her: so what are we going to do
[8:37:50 PM] her: do you want me to bring some movies
[8:38:09 PM] me:: dont you worry about movies. i got ****loads.
[8:38:17 PM] her: ok cool
[8:38:21 PM] her: do i get a hug?
[8:38:26 PM] her: i love hugs
[8:38:32 PM] me:: if you're a good girl
[8:44:45 PM] me:: what kind of movies you like
[8:45:13 PM] her: anthing except sci-fi
[8:45:42 PM] me:: *takes note*
[8:46:26 PM] her: lol
[8:46:35 PM] her: u are too cute
[8:48:22 PM] me:: thanks
[8:48:55 PM] me:: do you work on sat ?
[8:49:20 PM] her: not this sat
[8:50:02 PM] me:: what time you want to come.
[8:52:36 PM] her: u tell me
[8:53:01 PM] me:: i will let you know thursday.
[8:53:03 PM] me:: or friday
[8:54:18 PM] her: ok
[8:54:22 PM] her:
[9:00:42 PM] her: im sooooooooo bored
[9:02:29 PM] me:: just wait till saturday babe.
[9:02:47 PM] me:: you will be unbored for a week
[9:03:03 PM] her: do i get a hug
[9:03:21 PM] me:: sure
[9:03:51 PM] her:
[9:03:54 PM] her: thanks
[9:04:02 PM] me::
[9:04:08 PM] me:: just a hug?
[9:04:10 PM] me::
[9:04:47 PM] her: yep
[9:05:25 PM] me:: okay
[9:05:27 PM] me::
[9:05:44 PM] her:

then she called. she got disconnected then. her laptop died. said she was bored. i said she wouldnt be on saturday. she said can i have a hug? do you give good long hugs? i just want a hug. i said im gonna go and she went out to have a coffee with a friend.

when she said she wanted a hug i probably shouldn't of asked "just a hug?" cause she's not gonna just tell me she wants a fuk right?

Umm,this is nice and all...but a little confusing.

Let me see if I got this straight...

You've never met this girl in person,right?
Also,this exchange between you and her you just gave,does all that mean that you have a date set up with her? And if so,what's the plan?

 

[tony-montana]

well yeah the topic, "girl from the net" should pretty much tell you i've never met her

yes the date is arranged. but i was just asking about the log. we've seen each others pic. spoke on the phone. im going to meet her somewhere at the shopping center possibly. i'll let her know. then walk around (so i can decide wether or not shes "normal") then take her back to mine to watch movies and hang out. shes already expecting a massage and that can only usually lead to one thing. but why does she keep repetedly asking for hugs? thats what i dont get. is that log proof enough that she sounds like shes gonna put out?

 

[Igetit!]

well yeah the topic, "girl from the net" should pretty much tell you i've never met her

yes the date is arranged. but i was just asking about the log. we've seen each others pic. spoke on the phone. im going to meet her somewhere at the shopping center possibly. i'll let her know. then walk around (so i can decide wether or not shes "normal") then take her back to mine to watch movies and hang out. shes already expecting a massage and that can only usually lead to one thing.

This is a good plan here. If you were just to take her straight back to your place without hanging out and spending time with her first,more than likely she'd be turned off because she'd think you only want her for "just one thing". This way she'll think you actually have some interest in her as a person as opposed to some type of girl who you just get in contact with whenever you "want some".

but why does she keep repetedly asking for hugs? thats what i dont get.

The "hugs" thing...I don't know. I don't know what that's all about. However,if she's serious about that,then it does mean she won't have any hangups with close physical contact.

That's good.

is that log proof enough that she sounds like shes gonna put out?

Is that what you're expecting from her upon meeting her for the first time ever? I doubt she'll be will to go that far on a first date. And even if she does,my guess is that one of two things will happen:

1:You'll never see her again after that. She'll get buyer's remorse afterwards for having sex with someone who she really doesn't know. She'll FEEL slvtty,and she'll think that YOU THINK she's a slvt too.
She'll want to avoid you because you and that slvtty feeling will be connected.

2:She may want a relationship with you. If she's willing to give over that much of herself to someone she's had personal contact with all of 2 hours,then she's either desperate,or just looking for sex.

My bet would be on number 1.

If she's attractive,then I doubt she's just looking for sex. Atrractive women have guys approching them all the time,so I don't think sex or desperation is the issue.

If you REALLY want to shock and surprise her,then go through your date as you have planned,then after you get her to your place,DON'T TRY TO HAVE SEX WITH HER. Hang out,watch movies,talk,give her a hug,even kiss a little,but AVOID SEX.

This'll really throw her for a loop. She'll be all shocked and confused,then more than likely,she'll turn into the agressor just to prove to herself that she's still sexually desireable.

Granted,it's a tough thing to do.

But if you can do all that (the hanging out,talking,watching movies,light kino),then when it's getting late,tell her it's time for you to take her home,and all that without pushing for sex,she'll be dumbfounded.

You'll have to guage her responses to you throughout the date though.

If she seems shy and timid when you first meet her,but she's still willing to go to your place,then this would be a good thing to do.

If she's overly agressive sexually with you,constantly talking about sex,giving inuendos,and physically all on you and you try this,you'll turn her off.
However,this doesn't seem to be the case with her. I say that because of her "hugs" statements.

Anyway,good luck with whatever you decide to do.

 

[tony-montana]

okay the last couple days are getting odd. she's been calling me everyday. before bed just to say goodnight. it seems weird but its as if we're already together with all these phone calls and lovey dovey conversations. she says things like "do you like kissing? i love it. do you like hugs? will you take me to see a movie one day?" she calls me baby and darl several times. tonight she said i'm really cute.. whats goin on? she asks if she can call me. i feel bad saying no dont call. in a way i dont mind her calling. i like talking to her. its making me want to meet her more.

 

[scrouds]

Meet her, bang her, and ditch her before things get totally out of hand.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

Uh oh. I'm starting to get the feeling maybe you should drive to meet her so she doesn't know where you live. :nervous: