Girl Freind being too controlling.....

[note.the.smoke]

ok first off ill give u a lil history of the relation

about a year ago we started seeing each other (i was a virgin, shed done it once) and we started grindin and such on a regular basis (no sex). After a while i just ignored her for a few months, but she finally found her way back into my life and we started seeing each other again. Then we went exclusive, and a month or so later we started fu*king on a regular basis.

Now, i can feel myself very emotionally attatched and i think she's taking advantage of this to get her way. like for example - I'm havin to cancel plans to see her when it suites her, even though she often cancels plans we've made previously.... it's kind of like im chasing her around and i know shes doin this on purpose.

Also later this week she expressed that she thinks we should be havin sex less (due to apperent sore genetals? lol) so im acting ok with this, even thou im really not. Yesterday i called her and asked if she wanted to go out on friday for a meal. conversation goes

me: so do you fancy coming out for a meal on friday?
her: i dunno
me: well if you want to go out with ur mates then hows about saturday?
her: you wont hav any money on saturday
me: why dont we just stay in a watch a dvd then?
her: no because i know what this will lead on to...
me: dont blame me for that, i dont always make the first move, it takes to to tango, anyway says you...you brought 10jonnies round my house on monday
her: fine then im cuming to pick them up

sure as hell, 10mins later she turns up at th door... i hand her th jonnies and she just struts off without even saying a word....

all i know is shes one controlling biatch hu knows how to get her way.

HELP ME PLEASE

 

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when she next comes around for sex tell her your not in the mood, do this a few times it will drive her nuts.

don't be so keen to do stuff with her, if she doesn't want to go for a meal with you tell her you'll talk to her later.

then mention her how much fun you had without her that night, when you were out with your mates or something.

are u new? read the DJ bible

 

[note.the.smoke]

ive been browsing for a while never cud be arsed signing up though...

read most of the bible..

thnx for the tip, ill try the first one and see how that works out but, ya know, no promises or owt....lol

the rest seems like gold, cheers bud

 

[note.the.smoke]

hmmm ok,

firstly no we havnt broken up

secondly, the conversation wasn't worded like that, thats just how i shortened it down to save me writing out a twenty minute conversation.....

thirdly, as soon as she sed that i did hang up...

 

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After a while i just ignored her for a few months, but she finally found her way back into my life and we started seeing each other again.

Sounds like you became a big challenge to her and now she's got you.

 

[note.the.smoke]

so whats the way forward?

pay her less attention and have more self control?

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Your ex-girl has a nasty attitude - why are you greting emoptional with her when she obviously wasn't so interested in you?

She is probably sexing another dude - this is why her genitals hurt and why she so speedily ran over your house and took the hor wraps!

Sorry kid, but you were just the next pimp in line!!!

Don't call her and don't talk to her anymore - she treated you like a cchump!!!

Don't be a fool and apoligize for doing nothing - in fact, don't try to work things out!!! I know you'll try! Do not contact or talk to her - if she calls hang up!!!

Never get emotional over hors and say "No" to disrespectful bad attitude hos!!!!

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by note.the.smoke
hmmm ok,

firstly no we havnt broken up.

Yes you are! She broke up with you awhile agO! You better face reality!!

 

[note.the.smoke]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Your ex-girl has a nasty attitude - why are you greting emoptional with her when she obviously wasn't so interested in you?

She is probably sexing another dude - this is why her genitals hurt and why she so speedily ran over your house and took the hor wraps!

do ppl not read threads anymore :S

i think ur wrong about th second part, i spent a lot of the weeknd and monday nite fingering her....

 

[note.the.smoke]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Yes you are! She broke up with you awhile agO! You better face reality!!

i was hoping for serious advice....

 

[Reed247]

this is what I think works

my current girlfriend (will change as of this saturday night) was big time chasing me until I really pissed her off, and then I revealed my emotions to her BIG NO NO. In Reality your girlfriend should reveal how she feels about you first! Then you agree with her. Never like someone more than they like you!
I am telling you from experience, it's a relationship KILLER.

ALSO...don't be so available

ALSO...Have a busy social life

ALSO...never lose control of your emotions or get angry with a girl no matter what!
Look at Don Corleone in the Godfather...his wife was blown up in a car bomb and he didn't act like a sissy crying and screaming. It doesn't mean being ice cold blooded, just don't let her see you lose it.

ALSO...if she says she has plans say this "Ok call me when you aren't so busy".
OR Ok, I guess I'll speak to you some time. GOODBYE.

Don't call until she rings you. Then sound glad to hear from her when she calls. Never be uptight or let the girl know you are angry with her.
VERBALIZE in a calm tone what bothers you.
"You are disrespectful by breaking dates, if you want to break dates then I suggest you see someone new".

 

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be busy and have a life without her, if you spent all last weekend with her then maybe you're going to be busy this weekend. Your a busy guy right? tell me you are.

don't take any of her shyt and have a I don't give a shyt attitude.

get yourself some more jonnies, her taking them away from you was her way of saying she's taking sex away from you unless you suck up to me. You don't want that.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Because you were emotionally involve with her and she wasn't with you you gave her the power over you - she knows this.

When women have power over a dude they ususlly disrespect him because they don't respect a man that is more emotionally involved than them - emotional attachment is greater among women - this is nature.

But hors have a corrupted nature and are are artificially masculine!!

Read my thread "The natural order of things - sexuality explained and defined"

Because you are google gaga over her she knows she can control you - as she has done! She has now become the man and you the biatch!

Do you want a masculine controlling woman??

Don't mistake sexual lust for love - hors don't how to love and your girl is case in point!

I say be a man and keep your dignity and leave her because she has no respect for you to talk to you like that and then she just stops by and takes the hor wraps and leaves!! WTF!!!!

She will use them on another dude just to spite you!!

You said nothing wrong and try to be nice and she gets a bad attitude - over what????????

She wants to leave you so she created a fight over nothingness to makee it seem as if you were the "bad guy" - this is a classic hor exit strategy - trust me!!

Be a man and take the initiative and tell her you are gone - I bet she doesn't put up a fight!!! Try it once and see her response!!!

She'll say, "if that is what you want" but really this is what she wants but she doesn't want to hurt you so she wants you to do it!!!

Do it, do it now!!!

And don't cry or quiver when you talk to her!!!!!!!!

 

[Faded Image]

She takes the condoms back. Why?
Cause she is sexing another dude.

She walks off after leaving with the condoms without saying a word. Why?
Cause she is sexing another dude.

Her genitals are sore. Why?
Cause she's sexing another dude.

We give advice and you get p!ssed and defends her. Why?
Cause she's got you wrapped like a coiled snake and you're in denial about something you really don't want to know.

You only get to finger her. why?
Obviously, she's sexing another dude.

She spends more time with her friends. Why?
It's the safest and the best excuse to avoid spending time with you.

She's with her friends all right but she doesn't tell you about the other guy that's with her while she's with her friends.

Wake up take a deep breath and Grab ya b8lls and realize that you have to control yourself before you can control any situation.

B

 

[note.the.smoke]

well i can tell uve been ****ed about by girls alot.

i'm very good mates with a lot of her freinds so id know if anythin was going on.

get over it

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Listen here bud, you are missing the point - YOU GOT DISRESPECTED AND SHE CHUMPED YOU... hey but who cares, right? She is still allowing you to stick your tomgue in her big hole!!

Have some dignity and be a man and quit taking disrespect from a hor with a bad attitude - you must be desperate!!!

Have pride and don't let women stomp on your face without a fight!!

If she is fvcking you what makes you think that your penis is so special that she is not screwing the next pimp??

We are trying to open your eyes to your pvssified existence - be a man and take control!!

Wake up!!

The Matrix has you!!

Follow the Puerto Rican rabbit!!

 

[Faded Image]

All it took was one female three years ago to change my way of attracting and keeping women. My Wife.
She's reason i came here two years ago. On a scale of 1-10, the thing your girl does compared to what my wife did is a two.
I just wish i would have known all i know now back in 2002.
Now everybody considers it her loss and she can't stand it.


My friends cheat on each other and i don't say anthing to either.
Why? It's up to them to figure that out. Plus I don't want to be associated with those bad feelings one of them will have towards me if i was to say anthing. So what makes you think her friends will tell you if she is doing anything? You tell me.

"There is no such thing as unfaithfulness in the single life."

 

[note.the.smoke]

Originally posted by Faded Image
So what makes you think her friends will tell you if she is doing anything? You tell me.

Because ive been best mates with her best mate for 5 years

 

[Faded Image]

Because ive been best mates with her best mate for 5 years

Same with my friends. I just stay out of what goes on between each of them. If either were to ask me if there significant other is cheating, my response will be just as simple as "I don't know." I can't take side in a sitaution like this so i just stay out.

Now I ask you this. Have you asked your best mate that question yet?

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by note.the.smoke
...you brought 10jonnies round my house on monday
her: fine then im cuming to pick them up

sure as hell, 10mins later she turns up at th door... i hand her th jonnies and she just struts off without even saying a word....

She probably only has six of those "johnnies" left by now!

What the hell is a woman doing with condoms anyway???? Who has the penis here!!!!!!

Am I the only who sees this situation as strange???