girl"firend" knows I want her.

[Baruch]

and about few months back she was showing signs of interest in me, but not anymore.

This new year's eve, I got into a fight with a waiter at this restaurant. It was a family and friends event. I got into a fight with him because I told him "let the best men win, but she is a virgin and dont try to do anything". Anyways, he disrespected me and I got in a fight. The girls cosuin (my best friend) told her about what happened 5 minuts later and said that I a protective of her. She told him that she gave me a chance before, but I wasnt intersted and now sees me only as a "brother".

So she knows I want her.

I have never been in this type of situation before. We even hung oiut for two days in a row later as a group, we didnt talk about anything what happened new years eve, and I treated her as a friend and nothing more.

Sticky situation.

 

[Jack McCrack]

Could you describe this 'fight' in a little bit more detail?

From what I see, you made yourself look like a fool.

Keep your cool next time.

 

[Baruch]

Originally posted by Jack McCrack
Could you describe this 'fight' in a little bit more detail?

From what I see, you made yourself look like a fool.

Keep your cool next time.

the waiter was drunk and wanted to go and talk to me outside. At first I resisted but then I thought why not. I took him outside to the side and he asked me queastions about her. He knew I like her, but at the same time was bragging to me how he was dancing with her and if I saw it.

In exact words I said "You know I like her, you seem to be attracted to her too, so good luck and let the better man win. BUT remember she is a virgin and she wants to keep it that way. If you try to have sex with her, (point finger at her two cousins) these guys will not like it and I guaruntee you, that you wont like me after that."

him: "What are you gonna do>"
me: "Something you wont like"
him: " Ill kick your ass then"

and thats what I punched him. I do not like threats, especially of some drunk waiters who disrespect me. No one saw the fight but two best friends who seperated the fight.

That is all.

 

[Jack McCrack]

I understand upholding your honor. After all, if you're going to get into a fight, do it for yourself, not for a girl.

However, this guy was drunk. I'm not sure if he could make any competition with you in your sober state.

I do think punching him was overreacting and her hearing about it from your buddies probably wasn't too good.

That whole virgin speech seemed a bit much. You really didn't need to say anything really. Imagine this scenario instead: "Drunk waiter talks smack. You keep your cool. He swings and misses/connects. You and your two buddies retaliate." I think it sounds just a tad better than "Drunk waiter talks smack. You defend the girl and punch him."

While the latter does seem a little more chivalric, I find that the first is a better scenario.

However, what happened happened and you are left in this situation here. I have never been in such a situation similar to yours so I cannot comment. I can only analyze how the fight went down.

 

[Baruch]

You are absolutely right. The virgin thing should have not been brought up. But I was more intoxicated than the waiter. It was a russian restaurant and I am russian surrounded by russians lol. So it was real heavy drinking there.

The girl"friend" was drunk as well. I remember about 10 minuts after the fight and the my friend's talk with her, I was dancing and she tried to grab me and pull me next to her but I put my hand to her, said no and left the dance floor on the way outside.

Thinkin about it now, I didnt play it cool. I was drunk and to upset with the indirect rejection that she passed to my friend about me.

I ended up dancing with all the hot girls later that night as if nothing happened, but I think I shouldve let her grab me and pull me to dance with her. Maybe I couldve went for a make out session there, but...Im just over analyzing things here.

 

[Pancho84]

You stood down to his level. sorry to tell you this but - it was not necessary. You literally stood down to the thought process level of a drunk.. A DJ keeps his cool and knows such a man - is not worth the skin cells you left on his face or whatnot.

 

[AFK Protector]

damn...awesome story dude....awesome.

No, actually you let your emotions get the better of ya. I smell oneitis if you're willing to fight for this chick.

 

[dietzcoi]

You are a damned fool, it is none of your business if this girl want to remain a virgin... why do you even know this and why are you playing CAPT Save-a-virgin? WHy is it your business? If the guy wanted to rape her, ok, but if he was dancing with her, so what?

Foolish incident.

Dietzcoi

 

[Baruch]

Originally posted by dietzcoi
You are a damned fool, it is none of your business if this girl want to remain a virgin... why do you even know this and why are you playing CAPT Save-a-virgin? WHy is it your business? If the guy wanted to rape her, ok, but if he was dancing with her, so what?

Foolish incident.

Dietzcoi

he mentioned something about wanting to **** her or made some kinda sexual comment. I was drunk and acted drunk. But I know this girl for a long time and for a long time I acted like her big brother when it came to drunken guys trying to take advantage of her.

But thats not the problem I have here. She knows I want her now, before when she was giving me the signs, I was to oblivious to pick up on it. Now, I am intersted but she is not anymore.

 

[Deep Dish]

When a girl loses interest in you, it depends upon whether it was because of something you did (salvageable) or you the person (lost cause). Given what you said she lost interest in your non-action and not because of some inherent flaw in you, although that fight could certainly give her enough reason to lose interest in you as a person, we don't know.

Consistently show your desire for her, do things like kino and gazing straight into her eyes while smiling while talking to her, asking her questions; whatever; in other words making her feel special. When girls “really” like you but are given reasons to not go forth with that desire, such as you not being interested, most of the time they will go cold, say things like they only view you as a friend, blah blah blah, but given the proper warmth that you do like her and given some time, will warm right back up. And then strike when the iron is hot by asking her out.

The biggest fear women have is of being hurt and that includes being emotionally hurt. They recoil back into their emotional shells when they get rejected, and it's not that they lose interest but lose interest in the situation. So, if you can establish that you do want her, that it is secure for her to go forth with her desires, you stand a chance at getting her; not guaranteed, of course, but a chance.

 

[Baruch]

i'll keep doing my thing. Reading this board, living my own life and trying to hit it off with other females.

That way, I won't develop oneitis. I want this girl, but I dont need her to be happy.