Originally posted by SnowBlind77
dance coming up, im just wondering how to best handle the situation if your girlfriend dances with other guys. slow dancing i dont really give a sh*t, but if she was to start grinding with another guy, what should i do? should i play it cool, or should i get pissed at her, cuz if this was to happen i would get f*ckin pissed cuz im a really jealous guy.
First off, if you are already anticipating a problem before the dance has even started, you might be the one with issues, not her.
Second, the only answer to the "dance/bowl/watch cricket game/visit strip club with another guy" problem is a complete and total freeze out. Leave. Don't say goodbye. Take off. Don't look back. And, moreover, don't go home, go somewhere else and have a good time. Meet some other women.
By about the third "why are you mad at me" call the next day you should reply with:
"Look, you are an adult. You can do whatever you want and see whoever you want and (dance/bowl/watch cricket/play hide the salami) with whoever you want. Just don't expect me to sit around and wait for that. I don't have the time and I have other people to attend to if that's what you want. Maybe you should let me know when you feel you know what you want." -click-
Don't yell. Don't even raise your voice. Nothing is more effective than delivering this lecture with an even and matter-of-fact "I'm not bothered I just don't have time for this noise" tone.