Girl cancels date moves it up to tomorrow

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I had a date scheduled for Thursday night at 8. The girl texted me today she can't make it on Thursday since she has to work. She wanted to go out tomorow night instead. Problem is I will only have 1 hour for the date if we go tomorrow night. Should I just cancel for another night or just go then leave?
 

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Rescheduling should be on your terms, not hers.
 

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Need a little more back ground. How'd you meet? Have you met in person yet? First date? What are you looking for with her? Do you know?

I sometimes will meet chicks for a quick drink or coffee, as a means to qualify them, and also to get the initial face to face out of the way. Then, once we've happily made it through that first drink, and I still want to see her (and vice versa of course), I'll schedule something more involved: Sometimes a night out (with the plan to end up at my/her place), or, a lot of the times, I'll go straight to movie night at my/her place.

Only thing I can thing of where it may effect you negatively, is if this chick just wants to pull a one-niter, and bang you rite from the get go, and by meeting her first, you could throw a wrench into her plans of giving you quick easy sex. But, IMO, no big loss if that's the case.
 

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Peaks&Valleys said:
Need a little more back ground. How'd you meet? Have you met in person yet? First date? What are you looking for with her? Do you know?

I sometimes will meet chicks for a quick drink or coffee, as a means to qualify them, and also to get the initial face to face out of the way. Then, once we've happily made it through that first drink, and I still want to see her (and vice versa of course), I'll schedule something more involved: Sometimes a night out (with the plan to end up at my/her place), or, a lot of the times, I'll go straight to movie night at my/her place.

Only thing I can thing of where it may effect you negatively, is if this chick just wants to pull a one-niter, and bang you rite from the get go, and by meeting her first, you could throw a wrench into her plans of giving you quick easy sex. But, IMO, no big loss if that's the case.
Yeah we met at the mall when I was buying some clothes. We talked for a while & exchanged numbers. Texted and talked and set up the date for thurs. We were going to meet for some drinks to start. The thing is no sex will happen with the date cut short. I figured that would screw the ONS plans. I have a trip I'm going on friday and have business for work on the night of the new set date.
 

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Well, since you already met (not an online date), built some rapport, and were therefore going for the bang....

SeymourCake said:
Rescheduling should be on your terms, not hers.
I'd reschedule then.

Let her think about you and marinate while you're away. Now she knows you're not always available, and should take her opportunities with you when she can. Lesson learned for her. :up:
 

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I'd advise against rescheduling a counter date if you just started dating her. If it's a first or second date, 1 hour would be the max you'd need anyway. Counteroffers are a good sign, so don't overthink.
 

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45 to 1 hr is plenty of time for a date. Leave her wanting more. Before you know it you have to jet. It'll make her think you're busy as fvck and you really can't go wrong with that. If the date is suckin fat gorilla nuts, it gives you a quick way out as well. Both good reasons to maintain the course and go on the date.
 

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If it's a first date them accept the counter. One hour is a hoops enough time for a first date. If you want, you can also try countering with a time that is an hour earlier so you have a two hour window.
 

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Appreciate the feedback guys. I'm going on the date tonight since she was eager to change plans keeping the date. She texted this morning saying she is excited to hang out. I like to keep the rest of my night free so I can go back to mine or her place later. I think an hour is good to start and keep her still wanting more.
 

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Boxer00 said:
Appreciate the feedback guys. I'm going on the date tonight since she was eager to change plans keeping the date. She texted this morning saying she is excited to hang out. I like to keep the rest of my night free so I can go back to mine or her place later. I think an hour is good to start and keep her still wanting more.
Go for the kill tonight..... Sneak a kiss during the 5 first minutes of the date. If you come back with not even a kiss.. Ill be pissed.
 

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Boxer00 said:
Yeah we met at the mall when I was buying some clothes. We talked for a while & exchanged numbers. Texted and talked and set up the date for thurs. We were going to meet for some drinks to start. The thing is no sex will happen with the date cut short. I figured that would screw the ONS plans. I have a trip I'm going on friday and have business for work on the night of the new set date.
ONS went out the window when you set up a date. A true ONS is when you meet a girl and in the same day / night bang and never speak again. But I would tell her that tomorrow doesn't work for you and if she does not counter offer then hang it up .
 

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fuko2007 said:
ONS went out the window when you set up a date. A true ONS is when you meet a girl and in the same day / night bang and never speak again. But I would tell her that tomorrow doesn't work for you and if she does not counter offer then hang it up .
I know, which was the reason I was pondering on what to do about it and for writing this thread.

The date went really well the other night and had a good time. Had a couple of drinks with a good convo. Had a good make out at the end of the date. I walked her over to her car and after that the kissing started . She mentioned about doing something after I get back from my trip. I told her that sounded good. Got a text from her today and said she had a good time again. Sounds like she is in to me. Next date I'll look to escalate things more. Only can do so much with time restraint.

Thanks guys for your opinions on what to do..
 
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