Girl blocked and deleted all conversations

[Don732]

I’ve met this girl 3-4 times, usually through mutual friends. We’d spontaneously hang out, talk, and kiss (no sex)—just having fun. It’s been about a month, and things were going easy and casual. But recently, she started messaging me, upset that I never invited her on a proper date, sent her flowers, or gave her the attention she wanted. She also mentioned wanting to get married within the next 1-2 years.

I told her I wasn’t sure about things yet. I explained that I like how things are progressing slowly and that if she’s looking for a clear answer now, I can’t give one. I didn’t want to waste her time.

After that, she said it’s better if we don’t talk anymore, then blocked me on Instagram and deleted all our conversations from the messenger.

Was that appropriate reaction from her? I like her but dont wanna lead her on. Can i still get her back?

 

[Dr.Suave]

For context: What´s your age?

Upset that I never invited her on a proper date

Maybe she wanted you to give her some Vitamin D, but you never escalated.

She also mentioned wanting to get married within the next 1-2 years.

I guess she feels the clock´s ticking.

Can i still get her back?

Why would you want her back? Sounds like you left a few lays on the table but you also dodged a long term bullet.

 

[Don732]

For context: What´s your age?



Maybe she wanted you to give her some Vitamin D, but you never escalated.



I guess she feels the clock´s ticking.


Why would you want her back? Sounds like you left a few lays on the table but you also dodged a long term bullet.

Thank you for your reply! But still if i wanted to get her back regardless of the reason. Do you think i still got a shot? She just was very clingy and pushy, like she was telling me her last 2 ex-bfs were very abusive. and now she suddenly blocks and deleted all convos. that's very weird though

 

[BPH]

Thank you for your reply! But still if i wanted to get her back regardless of the reason. Do you think i still got a shot? She just was very clingy and pushy, like she was telling me her last 2 ex-bfs were very abusive. and now she suddenly blocks and deleted all convos. that's very weird though

Don't want her back.

You're dodging a bullet.

You probably should've escalated more, but this is a woman who likely cares more about being married and courted than about the guy who's doing it.

 

[Clockwerk50]

1. As men, it’s our role to lead the interactions, escalating when appropriate, and creating opportunities for romance by arranging logistics. Spontaneous hangouts and constant improvisation, while fun, can signal laziness or self-centeredness. By not planning dates or showing deliberate effort, you may have unintentionally conveyed disinterest in deepening the relationship or pursuing a physical connection. Her blocking you and deleting conversations indicate that she once cared but is now detaching herself to move on.

2. Attraction, once diminished or lost, is difficult to reignite. For now, stop contacting her and give it at least three months. Use that time to gain new experiences and adopt a fresh perspective. If you reconnect, you’ll need to approach things differently by putting in effort from the start. That said, if you were engaging with other women, you’d likely feel less attached to this one and would better understand how to navigate these situations, especially when she was open to intimacy.

Advice: Hit the gym. Stop watching porn.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

If you have spent a month hanging out with a woman and sex hasn't happened yet, the problem is likely you.

 

[Don732]

It was probably my bruised ego that played a role in this. I knew from mutual friends that she had been going on a lot of Tinder and Pure dates for casual hookups, as well as frequenting bars. Yet now she’s asking me to take care of her, bring her flowers, and plan romantic dinners—after others seemingly just used her. Looking back, I think I was wrong to let that affect me. It shouldn’t have mattered because I genuinely liked her personality, appearance, and even her scent. I should have put my ego aside and acted more decisively.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Was that appropriate reaction from her?

That was her reaction. Whether it was appropriate or not is irrelevant.

I like her but dont wanna lead her on.

Kind of hard to lead somebody on who went no contact on you.

Can i still get her back?

No. She said she's looking to get married in 1-2 years. That means she doesn't want to waste time on somebody who isn't sure.

 

[DreamAgain]

It was probably my bruised ego that played a role in this. I knew from mutual friends that she had been going on a lot of Tinder and Pure dates for casual hookups, as well as frequenting bars. Yet now she’s asking me to take care of her, bring her flowers, and plan romantic dinners—after others seemingly just used her. Looking back, I think I was wrong to let that affect me. It shouldn’t have mattered because I genuinely liked her personality, appearance, and even her scent. I should have put my ego aside and acted more decisively.

Low interest per usual, if you were brad pitt do you think she would send you a message like that.

Simply put she just wasn't into you enough, but it's fine, she doesn't seem like a quality person hooking up at bars and on the apps while leading you on.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

I’ve met this girl 3-4 times, usually through mutual friends. We’d spontaneously hang out, talk, and kiss (no sex)—just having fun. It’s been about a month, and things were going easy and casual. But recently, she started messaging me, upset that I never invited her on a proper date, sent her flowers, or gave her the attention she wanted. She also mentioned wanting to get married within the next 1-2 years.

The first step, with any woman, would be to define your relationship with each other.

I don't know what the hell y'all had going on...was that your girlfriend, just friends, what?

I'm also unsure as to why you didn't have sex with her yet, nor did yall go on a proper date after an entire month.

I told her I wasn’t sure about things yet.

Were you sure about whether you wanted to have sex with her or not?

I explained that I like how things are progressing slowly and that if she’s looking for a clear answer now, I can’t give one. I didn’t want to waste her time.

After that, she said it’s better if we don’t talk anymore, then blocked me on Instagram and deleted all our conversations from the messenger.

Was that appropriate reaction from her? I like her but dont wanna lead her on. Can i still get her back?

You like her, for what kind of relationship?

 

[Clockwerk50]

It was probably my bruised ego that played a role in this. I knew from mutual friends that she had been going on a lot of Tinder and Pure dates for casual hookups, as well as frequenting bars. Yet now she’s asking me to take care of her, bring her flowers, and plan romantic dinners—after others seemingly just used her. Looking back, I think I was wrong to let that affect me. It shouldn’t have mattered because I genuinely liked her personality, appearance, and even her scent. I should have put my ego aside and acted more decisively.

I’m sure there are others here who can articulate this better or are more “specialists” in this area, but part of being a man, and why we were given broad shoulders, is to make hard decisions and carry the responsibility that comes with them. Once you make a decision, you must stand by it and commit fully.

In your case, you chose not to pursue her further because of her promiscuous behaviour. That was your decision, and you should accept and be at peace with the outcome. You can’t want her to be with you and, at the same time, not truly be with her. There is usually only one choice and one path to take in life.

Again, let go of the porn. It will help you be more decisive. If you really needed to get your balls emptied your instincts would have made you go all the way like a dog in heat.

 

[Vanderdonck]

Thank you for your reply! But still if i wanted to get her back regardless of the reason. Do you think i still got a shot? She just was very clingy and pushy, like she was telling me her last 2 ex-bfs were very abusive. and now she suddenly blocks and deleted all convos. that's very weird though

Ehhh, I would let this one go. Whatever it is you want - serious LTR, casual hookup - be true to yourself and your goals. Her blocking you doesn't serve either.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It was probably my bruised ego that played a role in this. I knew from mutual friends that she had been going on a lot of Tinder and Pure dates for casual hookups, as well as frequenting bars. Yet now she’s asking me to take care of her, bring her flowers, and plan romantic dinners—after others seemingly just used her. Looking back, I think I was wrong to let that affect me. It shouldn’t have mattered because I genuinely liked her personality, appearance, and even her scent. I should have put my ego aside and acted more decisively.

"Used her"?

No...she is using YOU. To do all those things and get nothing in return.

Then after you leave she calls up someone to come over and bang her back out until she can't walk straight the next day.

I was on both sides of this in my life. I would much rather be on their side than your side from experience.

Wake up OP. Open your eyes as to what's going on here.