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Girl avoiding me suddenly... what went wrong?

Phoenix_5

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Hey guys,
I m a student of graphics designing and theres this cute girl in my college who is my junior. Since her first day in the college, I fell in love with her but I was too scared to approach her. Even though I was her senior, I would get terribly shy and bashful when she would be around. I would act silly and this would show up in my body language and I would act stupid, which made her friends giggle at me. Because of this, whenever I was around her, her female friends would tease her and giggle which made her uneasy. I wasn't confident and bold enough to approach her... but still I gathered my courage and finally spoke to her. When we first talked, it seemed that she already liked me & knew about my art work. As I continued to talk with her, she would always keep up the conversation from falling into an awkward silence.


As days passed on we began to talk more often and she began to show me her graphics assignments and asked for my suggestions. To be honest her work was crap... crap beyond obvious (shes not a good artist).... but I still praised it and called it a 'sincere effort'. It was this 'nice-guy' in me who didn't want to hurt his lady love with the harsh reality of life.

Once when we were chatting around, she showed me some of her pictures with her friends and family on her laptop. She also showed me photo of a guy called Alex who according to her is very effeminate. At this time she paused & said "I don't like effeminate guys!...thats so uncool". I was confused as to why she showed me the pic of this guy and said those words but I guess there was some kind of hidden insult or nag in it. Though I m not effeminate, what she was hinting was that I was unmanly. I didn't react much to it and she continued to show me some other pics. At the end of the day I told her that I was interested to see some more of her graphics assignments but she said that she doesn't have them now and that she would get it the next day.


The next day she showed me her new assignments and art work (which was bad as ever!) and just like always, I put her on a pedestal. She gave an impression as though she was happy with my sugar words. Then she asked me to show her some of my art work. I was very happy that she was interested to see my work so I promised to show it to her the next day. When I reached home, I pulled out all of my best art work and A+ assignments to impress her. I also gift packed her favorite music CD which she told me to bring along. That night I slept peacefully.


The next day I took all the stuff with me and went to the college happily. I saw her sitting in the campus lawn with her laptop. I immediately went to her and greeted her. She made a sour face and replied "I m a little caught up with a presentation" and turned her face back to her laptop screen. She showed a complete disinterest in me and made a face as though she had seen something very disgusting. She wasn't doing anything on the laptop but continued to gaze at the screen with the same sour face. I felt hurt and my world came crashing down. All of a sudden she behaved like a complete b*tch.
I don't know what went wrong. All of a sudden there was this awkward silence
. I was completely hurt and left the place without a word. This incident hurt me a lot and I cursed myself a lot.


It has been three months since this incident that we haven't met or talked. There after, I began working as a part time graphic artist and not seen college for almost three months.


Now, I want to know why did she behave like a b#tch all of a sudden when she was nice the other day?

Also, has she completely lost interest/respect for me?.... If I go back to college, will she behave the same way as she did last time? how should I treat her when I confront her? what attitude should I maintain? I love her a lot and I miss her.

Thanks in advance.
Phoenix_5
 

CaptainSaveAh0

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O GEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEZ....

I honestly don't even know where to start.. You did everything wrong to start with. I'm just going to be honest with everything I say in this post so do not take it personally, just learn from it.

PLEASE GO READ THE DJ BIBLE... IM BEGGING YOU.

So I am just going to list the things you did wrong in my opinion...

1) You mistaken friendliness for liking you.. What gave you the idea that she liked you? Because she listened to you and talked to you? If you aren't kissing her, feeling her up , fvcking her, then chances are she doesn't like you yet.

2) You were her emotional tampons. Her work sucked and yet you praised it.

3) You missed out on the hint. She says she didn't like feminine guys. That is a hint to you to step it up and show her some male dominance.

4) " I put her on a pedestal" . You just said it yourself. You never put a woman on a pedestal or they will walk all over you. Cut the nice guy act.

There is much more but I am tired of listing it. She saw that you were starting to fall for her and she cut you off. Simple as that. Woman can be very cold sometimes. To answer your other questions, what made you think she had any interest? And as for respect, you made her lose respect for yourself by doing the things I have listed out.

You sound like a nice and talented guy and keep up the good work with school and stuff but if you keep this up you will be eaten alive by the world and by woman.

You have a long ways to go ,but you will see the light. I would start off by reading some of the DJ bible and getting familiar with the concepts. You may think you are inlove with her but you are not, don't confront her. You just have some serious oneitis. Forget about her and move on with your life, don't dwell in the past and look for answers.
 

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What A Lesson You Learned!

CaptainSaveAh0 is right. This was nothing more than a friendly relation. She may of told someone and they laughed at her or teased her, or she just had a bad day. Doesn't really matter why, but she was a Class A cünt and was disrespectful to you. This is what happens when you watch too many romantic comedies. Next time man up, talk to her; ask her out for a coffee and try to date her if you wanna get anywhere. It's really simple, and you'll know right off the bat if she digs you or not.

I hope you've learned your lesson with these seemingly delicate, cute girls who are oh-so-perfect and can do no wrong. You see how merciless she was? This is what we preach here. You know nothing of her. Never put anyone on a pedestal until they are worth it. Did she save your life? Did she save your mother's life? Fück, no! She's just some cute girl that smiles and gave you a few minutes of her time to you each day. Big fückin deal, man. Those girls are a dime a dozen.

So, get your head back on straight, and realize you should never give this lil twӓt the time of day again. Cut that "in in love her" bullshıt out of your vocabulary. If you happen to see her around campus, don't even look at her, just ignore her, and walk right by her as if nothing ever happened. I bet you she'll do the same. If she does say hi, look her dead in the face and say Fück You without missing a step.
 

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This man knows what he's sayin'

VladPatton said:
You know nothing of her. Never put anyone on a pedestal until they are worth it. Did she save your life? Did she save your mother's life? Fück, no! She's just some cute girl that smiles and gave you a few minutes of her time to you each day. Big fückin deal, man. Those girls are a dime a dozen.

So, get your head back on straight, and realize you should never give this lil twӓt the time of day again. Cut that "in in love her" bullshıt out of your vocabulary. If you happen to see her around campus, don't even look at her, just ignore her, and walk right by her as if nothing ever happened. I bet you she'll do the same. If she does say hi, look her dead in the face and say Fück You without missing a step.
^this. Listen and apply it. I could speak for you the same thing.

Don't be affected by a piece of kvnt. Next time, if a drawing sucks, tell it svcks like you'll grade it an F- ;)

As Captain says it, Read the DJ Bible. When you applied it to your life, there's nowhere to go but UP!

Goodluck man!
 

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Wow, PlayHer Man sure did get rusty during his absence. Welcome back!!
 

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Phoenix_5

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Thanks for the valuable advice guys. I m reading the DJ Bible as of now :up:
 

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Atom Smasher said:
Wow, PlayHer Man sure did get rusty during his absence. Welcome back!!
Who ? Give him his old user name back. His posts matched his name too well. :crackup:
 

ArcBound

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" To be honest her work was crap... crap beyond obvious (shes not a good artist).... but I still praised it and called it a 'sincere effort'."

You compromise yourself just to flatter a woman. She knows this from her interactions with you. You are not a man, you are like ditto from Pokemon, an amorphous hideous blob that only conforms to the people around him.

"I was very happy that she was interested to see my work so I promised to show it to her the next day. When I reached home, I pulled out all of my best art work and A+ assignments to impress her."

She tells you one thing and you jump to do it ASAP? At least wait a while. Also your art work and A+ assignments don't really make her attracted to you. I mean they might, but not much more than a friend kind of way.

"She made a sour face and replied "I m a little caught up with a presentation" and turned her face back to her laptop screen. "

Then you should have said "OK catch you later".

"I felt hurt and my world came crashing down. All of a sudden she behaved like a complete b*tch."

You felt hurt because you already made her your world dumb butt. She didn't behave like a b!tch you did. You are the b!tch and you need to change that.

"It has been three months since this incident that we haven't met or talked. There after, I began working as a part time graphic artist and not seen college for almost three months. "

???? Did you drop of college over this? I don't think you need to worry about a girl from 3 months ago. I think you need to see a psychiatrist or talk to your parents or something. You have deeply rooted insecurity issues that is not only going to affect your love life but everything about your life.
 

Phoenix_5

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ArcBound said:
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???? Did you drop of college over this? I don't think you need to worry about a girl from 3 months ago. I think you need to see a psychiatrist or talk to your parents or something. You have deeply rooted insecurity issues that is not only going to affect your love life but everything about your life.

I m working as a part time intern and it is a part of my educational curriculum... its not that I stopped going to college just because of her. ironically the dates of my job recruitment were in the same month during which this incident happened. I get some time after work but I don't visit my college instead I visit my friends or exercise at the gym.
 

Starfvcks 64

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Phoenix_5 said:
Now, I want to know why did she behave like a b#tch all of a sudden when she was nice the other day?

Also, has she completely lost interest/respect for me?.... If I go back to college, will she behave the same way as she did last time? how should I treat her when I confront her? what attitude should I maintain? I love her a lot and I miss her.
Phoenix_5
She never had respect for you, and was only "interested" in you because you gave her so much attention. Don't mistake a girl who allows you to give her attention as being interested in you, and DEFINITELY don't be friends with a girl hoping it will lead to more.

You want to know why she was nice one day, but a b1tch the next? I would say that is due to the fact that she is a female, on top of the fact that she didn't respect you. Girls can change faster than you could ever imagine. That is a very important thing to learn, and you need to remember it. If you ever see her again act unfazed like you haven't thought about her in 100 years and really don't have any feelings towards her. Be friendly, but be distant and keep contact to an absolute minimum.

It sucks that you "love" her, because she'll never love you back, and she never gave one single fvck about you, and she never will. Like others have said, read the DJ Bible and start browsing this forum. I feel bad that you got this attached to a girl you never even had sex with, but whatever, you are lucky it happened because it led you here. Hopefully you can start learning and change your ways.
 

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Next time, don't fall in love so easily. Leave that thing to women.
I think you're a cool guy. Don't let things like that affect your coolness. Be suave.

Cheers!
 

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Starfvcks 64 said:
You want to know why she was nice one day, but a b1tch the next? I would say that is due to the fact that she is a female.
I was like that too on girls that has high interest in me but i do not. One day i'm in the mood for flirting with them and the next day i'm not. I don't care what they think or feel about that, it's all about how i feel.

When i don't feel like texting them back, i don't. Unless, it'll benefit me.
 

Phoenix_5

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RagingBalls said:
Next time, don't fall in love so easily. Leave that thing to women.
I think you're a cool guy. Don't let things like that affect your coolness. Be suave.

Cheers!

Thanks RagingBalls for the kind words and guidance!
regards :)
 
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