Girl attracted to me or is she behaving too comfortable to me?

[LittleBigOne]

I ruined my previous thread by submitting it three times in a row. So here is the good one. Looking forward to see your serious opinions. If something isn´t clear please ask.

Several weeks ago i posted about a co worker who is, to my opinion, flirting a with me. This is not happening all the time but at least a few times a week.

The flirting is more like teasing. We stand eachother in the way in front of the door so she or me can't pass and lately she stole a can of cola out of my hand and when i asked 'how are you gonne make that up with me' she gave me a pretending kiss on the cheek (there were teenage pupils around us so maybe she holded back) and gave the can back.

Today i took her seat and she said no problem and got sitting on my lap for a minute (while my colleagues were sitting around us looking a bit surprised).

All fine you might think but here the problem is: I like the attention and the fun but to me she doesn't look nervous or something like that. I do have the idea she is keeping me in her eye often (mostly VERY quick) but i wonder if she is not too comfortable with me and see me just a nice colleague where you can joke around with. Her character is not shy, is sportive, is having good contact with other people and i haven't seen her as physical with others then with me.

We are both in a relationship and as i write this i have something like i don't need her but when we would be both single i would do serious steps forward to her, now i keep it light.
So, how most woman behave when they are attracted to a man? Like my colleague?

 

[LostAndConfused]

The biggest cue was sitting on your lap. Girls pretty much ONLY do that to guys they want inside them....I guarantee you she was wet knowing how close ur dck was to her. If you would have whispered something even remotely suggestive, she would have creamed herself.

Have you ever seen a guy a girl's NOT interested in request el lap sit? Talk about a blow out.....

And most drawn-out hookups for me (as in, took a long time to occur) have happened this way, so I yell a big, resounding YES to the original question. The girl would steal stuff playfully and/or act really excited around me just to see what I'd do. To make things more interesting for her, I'd respond differently each time. Of course this girl won't flirt with you EVERY time, because then her game is up. It's *too* obvious she's interested at that point.


But my *final* response to her little game was always the same, one of two things. Either 1 I'm giving her one of the best orgasms she's ever had, or 2 the flirting starts dwindling until we just politely say hi, understanding the fire went out and what could have been.

The relationship makes things tough though, as she's probably even more attracted to you because you have a gf.

 

[Jair213]

I would go ahead and ask her out.

 

[Mike32ct]

The biggest cue was sitting on your lap. Girls pretty much ONLY do that to guys they want inside them....

^This, this, and thissss lol.

The other stuff could be flirty or just playfully friend stuff. BUT add in the her sitting on your lap, and she's definitely attracted. This makes it absolutely clear that it's not friendzone stuff.

 

[LittleBigOne]

I have to add the following: when she got off my lap she went sitting next to me. I asked her ´did you felt something hard?....that was my phone in my trouserspocket.´ She smiled a bit, i am not sure it was a too ****y comment of me.
Today no flirt from her side, only a short normal chat about a pupil. Though, she needs to watch me quickly if she passes by my classroom. Her flirt actions are most of the time comming out of the blue. Noticed that another colleague is asking for her attention. He walks often into her classroom to say something to pupils or to her. He acts a bit needy to me, she doesn´t look bothered but i do see they regular talk with eachother in a relaxed way. Well, i decided to focus on my work and not to get her attention all the time. Though, i want to keep things warm and not let it dwingle. Is asking her out a good idea when we are both in a relationship?

 

[Jair213]

I have to add the following: when she got off my lap she went sitting next to me. I asked her ´did you felt something hard?....that was my phone in my trouserspocket.´ She smiled a bit, i am not sure it was a too ****y comment of me.
Today no flirt from her side, only a short normal chat about a pupil. Though, she needs to watch me quickly if she passes by my classroom. Her flirt actions are most of the time comming out of the blue. Noticed that another colleague is asking for her attention. He walks often into her classroom to say something to pupils or to her. He acts a bit needy to me, she doesn´t look bothered but i do see they regular talk with eachother in a relaxed way. Well, i decided to focus on my work and not to get her attention all the time. Though, i want to keep things warm and not let it dwingle. Is asking her out a good idea when we are both in a relationship?

Do you think your gf would like that? I mean even as friends?, but idk.

I think it just depends how much you care about your gf? Whats the purpose of taking her out? Are you trying to smash?

She also has a bf, and she's flirting with you the way she is. Seems like shes not really in to her bf? Mmmh. I think she just wants to have a little fun, or she just likes teasing, likes attention? etc.

 

[LittleBigOne]

Hey Jair,
My girlfriend, she is sweet but very needy and relative superficial. We don´t really connect and i believe in time we split up.
I cant´t judge if this girl is really into her bf, she never spoke really negative about him. I do believe she is flirting the way she is. Sure she likes the attention and fun. She is even having fun with (very) old colleagues. Thats what i mean with that she is very social to others, but as far i can see she is exclusive (very) physical with me.
Back to my basic question, isn´t so that a girl who really likes a guy is getting slightly submissive to him instead of being pretty much obvious flirting?

 

[Night-hawk]

I would agree, she seems to be giving you signs she's attracted.

However, not to bust your bubble, but think about it this way.

Sometimes when girls are in relationships and things are not so hot they will tease and act all playful to guys just to feel they still have what it takes to attract other guys, just incase the relationship dies out.

Girls do play these games, and depending on how old she is (is sghe between 18-21) could depend on her INTENTIONS. So you need to screen what kind of girl she is. Is her behavior coming off as genuine attraction, or is she just playing a validation game for hersel, and does she like the attention that she can get you flirting back conswidering you have a gf as well... think about it.

 

[LittleBigOne]

Girls do play these games, and depending on how old she is (is sghe between 18-21) could depend on her INTENTIONS. So you need to screen what kind of girl she is. Is her behavior coming off as genuine attraction, or is she just playing a validation game for hersel, and does she like the attention that she can get you flirting back conswidering you have a gf as well... think about it.

Well, that´s the basic question. How do i screen her intentions?

Her age is 26.

 

[Iceberg]

Well, that´s the basic question. How do i screen her intentions?

You kiss her. It's the only way to screen any girl's intentions.

 

[LittleBigOne]

You kiss her. It's the only way to screen any girl's intentions.

Where i do that? I front of my colleagues and the pupils? Agree, that would be a killer...

The school where i work is the only place i see her. I live not in the same place as she does. There must be other ways to screen her.

 

[Iceberg]

Where i do that? I front of my colleagues and the pupils? Agree, that would be a killer...

The school where i work is the only place i see her. I live not in the same place as she does.

Why can't you invite her to a bar for a drink after work?

A park during lunch?

A coffee shop?

I don't see how you can't think of this on your own.

There must be other ways to screen her.

You mean, you want a safe, easy, rejection-free way to get a girl.

So does everyone.

 

[LittleBigOne]

Here is an update.
Last tuesday i reminded this girl about cooking at my place (she gave me oriental receipts and asked then when she could come over to eat). I reminded her about this and without hesitation she took her agenda and said when we are gonna meet. We are both in bussy times so we agreed to meet up the next holiday which will be over several weeks. She asked together alone or with our partners? I had the feeling she was hoping the first option but we didn´t choose.
Since tuesday i didn´t mention our agreement and i haven´t seen or spoken her too much. No openly flirt from her this week so far, maybe she start to realise it might getting more serious now. I want to play this cool and try to act like i always do.