Girl at Kohls

[Building_and_Loan]

Yikes man, your post started off great but that ending was just brutal.

The good thing is that you talked to an attractive girl, took initiative and asked her out. Chalk that up as a win regardless of her answer. Most guys would have just carried on and been too chicken to ask her out, then walked away with a deep sense of regret wondering if they should go back in and try to re-create the whole situation again simply to ask her out.

Which leads me to my next point - don't go back in there and try to re-create that whole scenario again. It won't work the way you want it to (it never does), and for the love of God, don't come at her with some cheesy line about a fire burning deep within her based on her pick of the color red. If you do, you'll be giving her something to laugh at for the rest of her life, and she'll probably immediately text her friends saying "omg girls you'll never guess what some guy just said to me."

 

[devilkingx2]

College comes up, we both graduated from the same university (in 2014)

she graduated from college and works at kohl's? lmao. what was her major, gender studies?

I decide to chat with her a little bit. College comes up, we both graduated from the same university (in 2014) and don't use our degrees. She studied business and joked about how shes the men's department supervisor and is constantly there. I told her I had to run but asked her if she'd like to get coffee. She started awkwardly touching the clothes on the rack in front of her and broke eye contact before saying
"I'm kinda seeing someone else right now. But thank you. Let me know if you have more questions". I walked away saying maybe I would.

you should've done some flirting before you asked her out, it doesn't sound like you did any.

if you flirt and get a good response, that would be a good time to set up a date or get a number

for example, I told a girl that she was lookin' all fancy in her outfit and she smiled at me and touched my arm, that would've been a great time to get her number/a date.

Here's what I want to bounce off of you more experienced DJs. This sounds so cheesy as I type it but bear with me I plan on coming by again in a few days. Assuming she doesn't try to avoid me, I'll ask for her advice again. I'll hold up a nice red shirt and a not-so-great looking shirt and ask her which one she prefers. If she picks the obvious choice of red I'll say that I knew she would pick red. If she asks or says nothing I'll proceed to say that she picked red because it reflects the deep, passionate fire within her. The fire red reminds of her why life is worth living. Than if she's staring in silence I'll thank her for her help and leave immediately.

1. since she already cleanly rejected you beforehand, you should probably quit, unless the next time you see her she runs up and gives you a hug with a huge grin on her face

2. that line is really, really bad. you're supposed to be sexual, not a 17th century poet. like, one time in the 11th grade I told a girl that her boobs made her shirt look like it was in 3D, that was a much better line and I'd recommend that over what you thought of for your future endeavors

And I looked her up on Facebook, Relationship Status: Single (Busted!)

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[Hedge]

your status:
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Yeah I'm starting to cringe at my own words. Lots of wisdom in this thread.

 

[Glassguy]

I dont think the OP did anything wrong in the initial approach.

Its not what you say, its how you say it. The chick knew that he was hitting on her and and thats all that mattered.

If Brad Pitt would have done the same thing, would she still have said she was "sort of seeing someone"? No, she would have taken him into the fitting room and blew him.

 

[derricklerrick]

I dont think the OP did anything wrong in the initial approach.

Its not what you say, its how you say it. The chick knew that he was hitting on her and and thats all that mattered.

If Brad Pitt would have done the same thing, would she still have said she was "sort of seeing someone"? No, she would have taken him into the fitting room and blew him.

Brad Pitt would never ask her out, though. Ridiculous analogy.

I would love to bang 10/10 girls every single day and choose a 10/10 girl over an 8/10 but does that mean I will reject an 8/10 if she is my only present option, hoping that a 10/10 will fall into my lap in the future? No.

On topic, agreed that OP should've flirted around for a while before going for the number close.

Turning their body away is one of the signs of disinterest shown by a woman's body language that I've read and personally observed quite a few times. Should watch out for this in the future too, OP.

 

[Glassguy]

Brad Pitt would never ask her out, though. Ridiculous analogy.

I would love to bang 10/10 girls every single day and choose a 10/10 girl over an 8/10 but does that mean I will reject an 8/10 if she is my only present option, hoping that a 10/10 will fall into my lap in the future? No.

On topic, agreed that OP should've flirted around for a while before going for the number close.

Turning their body away is one of the signs of disinterest shown by a woman's body language that I've read and personally observed quite a few times. Should watch out for this in the future too, OP.

Newbie- it's not a ridiculous analogy at all. Probably one of the most common, simple analogies that purely decode a woman's interest.

You have a lot to learn. I hope you stick around because it looks as though you can certainly benefit. Glad to see how critical you
are since joining the so suave party less than a month ago.

Signed

DJ who gets laid alot and has game

 

[Hedge]

You have a lot to learn. I hope you stick around because it looks as though you can certainly benefit. Glad to see how critical you
are since joining the so suave party less than a month ago.

Thanks. I'm striving to improve myself. Sometimes it takes a thread full of dudes to point out how much I missed the mark. But it's not all bad. Just gotta find the victories no matter how small and move on to the next one.

 

[Hedge]

My personal opinion:

My best advice:

Invite a chick to shop with you. If you see her, just smile say hello and keep shopping with your girl.

Sounds... devious!