Girl asking for a hug. Interest or jealousy?

[Dam44]

Yester night, I went for rehearsals in a music group I'm part of in college. It's been over 6 months since we last met.

There's this girl in my class who I find really attractive, let's call her C. So she was there too and we said hellos before the practice started. At the practice, I caught her a few times stealing glances. At some point when I started playing my instrument, she walks over to tease my seriousness doing so

When we finished, we started to link up. A very close platonic female friend of mine came over to hug me excitedly while calling my name out loud. C was standing at a short distance from us and she saw this happen. Then she retorted something along the lines of "so you couldn't come give me a hug, nice. Is it just her?". For the record, I have no kind of relationship with C

I was quite surprised but took initiative and walked over to C and gave her a full hug.

I'm not sure if she's interested or was just jealous. This because I once asked her out via text like a year ago and she came up with an excuse. She's the girl here https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...ye-contact-even-after-a-simple-glance.274522/

I'm seeing her on Friday, I'll ask her out in person this time

What do you think?

 

[Plinco]

When we finished, we started to link up. A very close platonic female friend of mine came over to hug me excitedly while calling my name out loud. C was standing at a short distance from us and she saw this happen. Then she retorted something along the lines of "so you couldn't come give me a hug, nice. Is it just her?". For the record, I have no kind of relationship with C

She's c0ckblocking you to keep you as an orbiter; and believe me she knows what she was doing. Never let a woman do that to you again, it was disrespectful of your female "friend" to do that. Imagine doing that to her while she was flirting with a guy she liked.

What do you think?

At this point just pursue her, and I mean not like a simp, but pursue her with an end goal in mind to get her with you to do something that you want to do with her, like date that you want to do.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I think that you should stop wondering and ask her out.

 

[LTG71]

In your other post, she took forever to respond to texts or not at all. Turned down an offer to go out and was vague about a second offer. Now after several months, showing fake interest with the hug comment? Actions speak louder than words. This screams low interest, friendzone, attention wh0re type red flags. She saw you with your other platonic female friend and got jealous, “I want the free attention she is getting”.

 

[Dam44]

She's c0ckblocking you to keep you as an orbiter; and believe me she knows what she was doing. Never let a woman do that to you again, it was disrespectful of your female "friend" to do that. Imagine doing that to her while she was flirting with a guy she liked.

Interesting, never thought of this

At this point just pursue her, and I mean not like a simp, but pursue her with an end goal in mind to get her with you to do something that you want to do with her, like date that you want to do.

I'll ask her out when I see her tomorrow. If she says no or gives an excuse, that's the end of it

 

[Dam44]

I think that you should stop wondering and ask her out.

Tomorrow!

In your other post, she took forever to respond to texts or not at all. Turned down an offer to go out and was vague about a second offer. Now after several months, showing fake interest with the hug comment? Actions speak louder than words. This screams low interest, friendzone, attention wh0re type red flags. She saw you with your other platonic female friend and got jealous, “I want the free attention she is getting”.

Yes, this is a possibility. I can never see myself behaving like this lol, feels like so much work

I would still ask her tomorrow

 

[2Rocky]

Your mental attitude should be "this is the level of attention and affection platonic friends offer me. I will not accept less from women I would want to have my penis inside." You don't say it , but there is a way that you expect to be treated and don't tolerate less. In the words of BE "Comply or By" .

You demonstrated that women find you attractive enough to give you some degree of physical affection. If your target isn't willing to step up her game, don't waste your time on her. " you want some? Come and get it...." with a grin and an outstretched arm...

 

[Scars]

OP, how old are you? Just wondering.

 

[user252009]

You're a lucky guy, most guys don't experience this

 

[Dam44]

OP, how old are you? Just wondering.

21

 

[Dam44]

She's c0ckblocking you to keep you as an orbiter; and believe me she knows what she was doing. Never let a woman do that to you again, it was disrespectful of your female "friend" to do that. Imagine doing that to her while she was flirting with a guy she liked.



At this point just pursue her, and I mean not like a simp, but pursue her with an end goal in mind to get her with you to do something that you want to do with her, like date that you want to do.

So I asked her out some days back. We were taking a walk at night on campus because we're going the same direction.

It was like the perfect opportunity After about 10 minutes of good rapport and quite deep conversations, I showed her a picture of a new restaurant in town and told hsr I'd like to check it out after we finish exams the following week and that she should come alongc

She kind of got the memo I think, she hesitated with a 'hmmm' and said she didn't really like going out plus she has some plans in place already for the post exams period. I think she added I hope you enjoy the place tho. I was like yeah, I will

I switched the conversation topic later on and we talked for a few more minutes until we got to the point where we were going our seperate ways.

The next day, we see in class and she goes with the usual eye contact again lol. I wave a hi and focus on listening to the professor. She's off my mind already, I've done my part asking her out via text and in person.

@BackInTheGame78 @2Rocky @Scars

 

[2Rocky]

She has demoted herself to third string. Date her friends though. Her only chance now is if you both find yourselves alone in a quiet place with a little alcohol lowering the tension, and her making the move. Treat her like a bratty little sister in public. But be nice doing it. It is a fine line between social proof and ****blocking.

 

[Plinco]

So I asked her out some days back. We were taking a walk at night on campus because we're going the same direction.

It was like the perfect opportunity After about 10 minutes of good rapport and quite deep conversations, I showed her a picture of a new restaurant in town and told hsr I'd like to check it out after we finish exams the following week and that she should come alongc

She kind of got the memo I think, she hesitated with a 'hmmm' and said she didn't really like going out plus she has some plans in place already for the post exams period. I think she added I hope you enjoy the place tho. I was like yeah, I will

I switched the conversation topic later on and we talked for a few more minutes until we got to the point where we were going our seperate ways.

The next day, we see in class and she goes with the usual eye contact again lol. I wave a hi and focus on listening to the professor. She's off my mind already, I've done my part asking her out via text and in person.

@BackInTheGame78 @2Rocky @Scars

That's good that you got to the bottom of it. In my experience I just get to it faster. Think of yourself as your own CEO and your time is very important.

Like Rocky said, you might be able to social proof your way to her friends though, maybe.