girl asked me to wear my glasses in a bar last night. don't you hat that?

[Packers2010]

ok. so i was out with the boys last night and we went to bar. so girl was talking to us in the group then she looked at me and asked if she could wear my glasses. since i have to wear them all the time.

i said no. cos i thought she was trying to " take something from me" ( wtf was i on. weed and beer obvs)

so she goes to talk to someone else then comes back and asks me again. i was like.. nope i don't do that ****.. she's like.. ." pleeeeease" i still didn't give in.

she then later on ask me again. i still said no.

don't you guys hate it when people do this all the time when you are out? (obvs directed at people who wear glasses)

also next time i will try and be more " fun" and just play around with her.. or get her to do something for me.. I.E make an animal noise.

what you guys think?

 

[cordoncordon]

Orrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.......You could have said something like "Since I have kind of a fetish, I'll let you wear my glasses if you let me wear your bra later on", with a big grin on your face. Would have been funny, teasing, showed her you were interested (if you were) and opened the door to sex later that night.

 

[The Gambler]

cordoncordon said it, and you said it yourself ("get her to do something for me").... You would find out immediately if she were interested.

 

[Zerro]

cordoncordon said it, and you said it yourself ("get her to do something for me").... You would find out immediately if she were interested.

It can be a test, she wants to see how fun of a guy you are and if you take yourself too seriously. I've had this before at a party when I refused to do some silly harmless thing this chick was egging on to do and when I really put my foot down it was like the light went out of her eyes and she stopped interacting with me for the rest of the evening. Probably should have just done it, at the rate she was going I was expecting to get laid that night but she took it as some form of rejection.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

I don't know why you acted like a prude. This behaviour is typical of a girl trying to open you up, or using an excuse to build rapport. You totally missed the boat on that one.

Men do the same thing, we look for excuses to talk to & open up women by making comments on the surroundings. Like one time I was walking to the bus stop and I just saw the bus pass by before I got there. I also saw a girl walk in right at that time. I just said "looks like we just missed the bus". And that built up to a conversation.

Next time just go with the flow and lighten up.

 

[flashpoint]

"u gotta french kiss me first. and when i like it! ... you get them." and if she says "no ... blabla" you tell her whatever, you could tell that she was a bad kisser from the start and that she prolly is ashamed of it. because "her lips dont match", in case she asks for a reason.

1. make her do something for you first whenever she asks for something
2. make it a challenge
3. turn it into something sexual
4. be playful and teasing about it
5. talk all the bullshyt you like, but never ever get serious.

 

[Packers2010]

Orrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.......You could have said something like "Since I have kind of a fetish, I'll let you wear my glasses if you let me wear your bra later on", with a big grin on your face. Would have been funny, teasing, showed her you were interested (if you were) and opened the door to sex later that night.

i lol pretty hard at that one. i will use it next time thanks.

 

[Packers2010]

I don't know why you acted like a prude. This behaviour is typical of a girl trying to open you up, or using an excuse to build rapport. You totally missed the boat on that one.

Men do the same thing, we look for excuses to talk to & open up women by making comments on the surroundings. Like one time I was walking to the bus stop and I just saw the bus pass by before I got there. I also saw a girl walk in right at that time. I just said "looks like we just missed the bus". And that built up to a conversation.

Next time just go with the flow and lighten up.

yeah... for some reason, at the time, it just pissed me off so some reason. next time i will be more fun!

at the time.. i couldn't think of anything clever to say.. now that it has happened i can think of a 100 things to say. I mean i could have just handed her the Glasses and say " you looks cute.... shame you don't wear glasses" or something like that

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

yeah... for some reason, at the time, it just pissed me off so some reason. next time i will be more fun!

at the time.. i couldn't think of anything clever to say.. now that it has happened i can think of a 100 things to say. I mean i could have just handed her the Glasses and say " you looks cute.... shame you don't wear glasses" or something like that

Forums like these are a double-edged sword. You can learn valuable lessons and hear great advice. You can also fall into the trap of obsessing with techniques that you read about like C+F, negging, etc and forget how to simply be natural and have fun.

Don't worry about it, there will be lots of opportunities in the future to run with things like that.