Girl asked for my number - but wont text me back

Jetleg

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Met a girl at a bar. Thought the guy she was with was her boyfriend but it was her gay best friend.

Long story short we talked for a while, maybe close to 1 hour and 30 minutes, told her i just started salsa dancing so she grabbed my arms and we started dancing, i noticed she got pretty close to me.

Later she kept touching my muscles and then kept asking to arm wrestle. She made me arm wrestle other guys which i beat. So basically it seemed she was pretty flirtatious and was impressed with my knowledge of her country. I had a "feeling" she was into me in some way.

She had to go and asked for my number, she wasnt carrying her phone on her or something (cant remember too drunk), so she got my phone and entered her full name and phone number. I told her i would text her now, but she said no text her tomorrow morning, i texted her immediately anyway hahaha. Basically my text was saying who i was and from the bar we met.

I stayed in the bar for another 30 minutes and saw her at the strain stop, her gay friend joked about meeting again, but she seemed to ignore me/not look at me.
On the same train back to the city i met my salsa teacher who is an attractive woman and she is a bit flirty. I could tell this girl who asked for my number was looking at us.

Then i met the girl and her gay friend again at the main city train station, they guy talked to me and the girl went to the bathroom, again seemed like she would not look at me.

Thinking maybe she thought i was dating my salsa teacher i texted her again saying something along the lines that it was a crazy night that i saw her 2 other times outside the bar and also i saw my salsa teacher on the train.

That was Friday night and its Sunday afternoon and i have not got a text back from her.
She wanted you to be her b1tch boy, otherwise she would have gave you a pu$$y on plate, and not a phone number.
She never liked you m8, she was amused by you.
 
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well this has happened another 3 times to me since i last logged on. With the signals being more obvious e.g. touching my muscles, saying i have a hot body, always touching my shoulders, laughing at every joke (even the lame ones). Yet they always say they are busy.

The recent example was on Sunday i went to a meetup group and was flirting with a japanese girl. It was quite strange as in the whole group i was the most talkative and "alpha" - people would think of me as some outgoing socialite, when in reality i am the most shyest person and have low confidence.

A lot of the girls were inspired by the new hobbies and sports i have been doing, with the japanese girl asking if i had a six pack from the extreme sport i have been doing - and then joking trying to feel if i had a six pack.

But because it was a meet up group i couldnt concentrate on this girl all the time and had to go and socialise with other people. I could see other guys were trying to crack on to her including this annoying creepy indian dude.

The group later on went to a park to watch some event, even though i was shy i thought i would make my move even if everyone on the group could see what was going on. So i sat next to this girl and started chatting. I could see when we where talking we where sitting right next to each other, shoulder to shoulder. Same deal she would touch my shoulder, laugh at my lame jokes etc. Seemed pretty good.

We were doing this for 30 or so minutes and then the creepy indian dude sat next to us and wouldnt leave us alone. He was really pissing me off. He was doing some wierd things like asking if the girl wanted to have dinner with me and him after this event, her excuse was that she had another "appointment".
During this time i built the courage to ask for her number and also suggest that this thursday night we go to some free dance classes in the city and have a bit after wards. She agreed from memory.

It was time for us to go and then that creepy indian guy followed us back. We had to wait for the train and this guy wouldnt shut up about how much money he makes, his expensive glasses etc. I could tell she was bored, and so was i.

I got off my train stop and said good bye to both, she seemed really happy to have met me at that day (it would appear)
 
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"She made me arm wrestle other guys".. "She told me "no, text me in the morning" ...

She has already categorized you in a very compliant section . THat already tells her what kind of guy you are.. She doesn't need to do anything.. SHe knows you like her enough to listen to what she says. Furthermore, she realizes this is not the type of guy shes into ..

I mean damn dude, you're on the So Suave forum.. You should actually read some of the So Suave articles!!!!
 
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well this has happened another 3 times to me since i last logged on. With the signals being more obvious e.g. touching my muscles, saying i have a hot body, always touching my shoulders, laughing at every joke (even the lame ones). Yet they always say they are busy.

The recent example was on Sunday i went to a meetup group and was flirting with a japanese girl. It was quite strange as in the whole group i was the most talkative and "alpha" - people would think of me as some outgoing socialite, when in reality i am the most shyest person and have low confidence.

A lot of the girls were inspired by the new hobbies and sports i have been doing, with the japanese girl asking if i had a six pack from the extreme sport i have been doing - and then joking trying to feel if i had a six pack.

But because it was a meet up group i couldnt concentrate on this girl all the time and had to go and socialise with other people. I could see other guys were trying to crack on to her including this annoying creepy indian dude.

The group later on went to a park to watch some event, even though i was shy i thought i would make my move even if everyone on the group could see what was going on. So i sat next to this girl and started chatting. I could see when we where talking we where sitting right next to each other, shoulder to shoulder. Same deal she would touch my shoulder, laugh at my lame jokes etc. Seemed pretty good.

We were doing this for 30 or so minutes and then the creepy indian dude sat next to us and wouldnt leave us alone. He was really pissing me off. He was doing some wierd things like asking if the girl wanted to have dinner with me and him after this event, her excuse was that she had another "appointment".
During this time i built the courage to ask for her number and also suggest that this thursday night we go to some free dance classes in the city and have a bit after wards. She agreed from memory.

It was time for us to go and then that creepy indian guy followed us back. We had to wait for the train and this guy wouldnt shut up about how much money he makes, his expensive glasses etc. I could tell she was bored, and so was i.

I got off my train stop and said good bye to both, she seemed really happy to have met me at that day (it would appear)

Monday morning i got a missed call from her - so at lunch i texted her how she was going and asked if everything was ok in regards to her trying to call me so early in the morning. She apologised for calling me accidently and asked how i was.

I figured since now we are texting i would remind her about thursday dancing and sent her the time/address etc.

Her response:
:"Oh, thanks for sharing information. And i found the same group but im going to join it on wednesday cause i have another appointment on this Thursday :( "

Keep in mind the dance place has free classes on wednesday and thursday, i have been going every wednesday but this week have decided to try the thursday class as i have found a bar that has a lot of south american women that go after wards, and supposedly if you are a white guy you can pick up (i doubt i will get anything sarging solo).

I havent responded yet.
 

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because women are nowadays fvcked up in the head.

We live in an Era for women, made for them, and everything flows in their direction.
Because of this they behave poorly. They are like spoiled brats so to speak.

It doesn't even matter if you have sex with them. They can just vanish the next day and you wonder why, or what you did wrong. Nothing, you did nothing wrong (besides the arm wrestling thing). So stop wondering why they stopped contacting you after they gave you their number, or after the first date, or after the fifth date, or after you had sex three times...

She just doesn't give a sh-it about you because every weekend she can meet three other guys like you, without considering all her online orbiters.

It's just stupid. I think that we men meeting a 'quality' girl is just a matter of good luck.
It is like applying for a good job. You have all the required skills etc, but they just offer one position and there are 55 candidates, and the majority of them fulfill the profile just like you, so there is really nothing else you can do besides hoping for the best.
Well said


WEnt on two dates...she ****ed like a circus monkey and won't return my call.....Did I do anything wrong? IDK....Women are nuts. They don't know what they want.
 
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"She made me arm wrestle other guys".. "She told me "no, text me in the morning" ...

She has already categorized you in a very compliant section . THat already tells her what kind of guy you are.. She doesn't need to do anything.. SHe knows you like her enough to listen to what she says. Furthermore, she realizes this is not the type of guy shes into ..

I mean damn dude, you're on the So Suave forum.. You should actually read some of the So Suave articles!!!!
Well maybe I did the wrong thing but **** it.

I responded to the Japanese girls text (this is a different girl from the OP) and said I usually go to Wednesday's classes but have work commitments so am going to the Thursday class instead and said I hoped she had a great time. Probably made a mistake but I then said if she free on Saturday we should catch up for a drink and bite.

I was going to wait until next week and ask her out again, but I think its better to strike when the iron is hot, and if she rejects me again this time I know I can cut my ties quickly and stop wasting time,
 
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Well maybe I did the wrong thing but **** it.

I responded to the Japanese girls text (this is a different girl from the OP) and said I usually go to Wednesday's classes but have work commitments so am going to the Thursday class instead and said I hoped she had a great time. Probably made a mistake but I then said if she free on Saturday we should catch up for a drink and bite.

I was going to wait until next week and ask her out again, but I think its better to strike when the iron is hot, and if she rejects me again this time I know I can cut my ties quickly and stop wasting time,
If you want you can pm me your skype. I'm willing to offer advice to you like I do to my friends.. I already understand you're the swooning, softy nice guy.. type guy in girls eyes and they'll always take advantage of that. IN their mind you're not a leader or an alpha male... Girls are such subtle creatures they know everything about you just by how you interact with them....

You have to act like you're the man they have to impress, not vice versa. Act like you can care less what they think of you and you're only in the interaction to amuse yourself..

Don't care if it doesn't work or if the girl finds you ****y or arrogant.. You need that to build yourself up as a man or you'll always be grouped into a compliant puppy soft guy by girls.
 
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