Girl answers texts of ex-bf after we fvck

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What self respect do I lose by having sex with a girl?

You lose more self respect walking out like a wounded dog when a girl was doing something very TYPICAL of a girl, talking to her ex-bf. I personally would have been turned on that she was talking to him 5 minute after my sweaty penis was inside of her, AND she was offering more after.
 

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the self respect he would lose for himself for staying when he wanted to leave.
i hope you say it's Typical behavior when your girl does it to you.
you obviously haven't been in that kind of situation before and you're living our some imaginary world in your head.
I've been in something similar, and she didn't answer her phone at all.
 

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terran2k said:
the self respect he would lose for himself for staying when he wanted to leave.
i hope you say it's Typical behavior when your girl does it to you.
you obviously haven't been in that kind of situation before and you're living our some imaginary world in your head.
I've been in something similar, and she didn't answer her phone at all.
What about the self respect gained by not letting some chick upset you to the point where you walk out on her to go home and cry about it on the internet?
 

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at least next time she'll think twice about answering her phone/txting her ex-bf. she'll be following his rules, not the other way around. he's setting the rules from the start, so he wouldn't have to try to correct it later on if anything developed between them.
I think David X said it best, you give them an inch, they'll take a mile..
What's wrong with what he did? a chic did something he didnt like, and he walked away. Isn't that what you're supposed to do? He didn't b!tch, he didnt moan to her about it, he didnt sit there all frumpy and just pretend to grin and bare it just to get more pvssy. He walked away from a situation he didnt like.

-wow I sure am defending that guy, ah well.

it's his rules, his reality, she will follow it and live in it.
 

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terran2k said:
at least next time she'll think twice about answering her phone/txting her ex-bf. she'll be following his rules, not the other way around. he's setting the rules from the start, so he wouldn't have to try to correct it later on if anything developed between them.
I think David X said it best, you give them an inch, they'll take a mile..
What's wrong with what he did? a chic did something he didnt like, and he walked away. Isn't that what you're supposed to do? He didn't b!tch, he didnt moan to her about it, he didnt sit there all frumpy and just pretend to grin and bare it just to get more pvssy. He walked away from a situation he didnt like.

-wow I sure am defending that guy, ah well.

it's his rules, his reality, she will follow it and live in it.
girls will do whatever they want all the time. they dont have to think twice about anything. they can get sex anytime they want if they attractive they can get the c0ck from whoever they choose.

again the OP is still a little boy. TIME TO GROW UP!
 

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A lot of different opinions which is good to see both sides.

What if you turned the tables for a minute.

You just banged a chick and your ex girl blows up your phone, you reply and then go the bathroom to text some more..

a) Chick gets up, puts on her clothes, tells you you're a fvcking douchbag
and leaves.

b) Chick rolls over, tells you in a calm soft voice "would you just talk to her
already, I'm sure she is dying to talk to you" rolls back over, goes to bed.
Next morning, does not even bring it up and doesn't seem to care.

Now, ask yourself how you would feel after each reply at the moment or the next day.??
 

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This is dumb...I don't see why the OP is flipping out....

The ho is being her ho self. Exactly what were you expecting? A relationship?
I'm not saying it's bad to leave like he did, but the OP needs to check his intentions w/ the girl
 

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Chick A has self respect.
she didnt have self respect to begin with.(sleeping around with a man she is not in a relationship with)
 

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Chick A has self respect.
If I was being honest with myself, I would think chick 'a' really did
like me and would have felt flattered that she got bent out of shape.

Chick 'b' I probably would think wasn't into me much if at all or maybe is
just a ho or something.

BUT, what scenario would make me chase more and have the girl on my mind more? Not sure really... but I would think it would be chick 'B'
 

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if you lay the pipe to a woman, and a woman calls a man mintues after, that is just no on so many levels. op is 100% correct.

It's not about frame, or whatever the case, there is a certain level of repsect, I expect even out of **** buddies. that woman has no ****ing morals and isn't worht the trouble. ***** couldn't wait until he left the house? Even a good solid **** buddy should know this ****. She is giving you a preview of the games she likes to play. Even **** buddies play games. I decided to give you my time and you go in the bathroom to call another guy, and you can't even be honest about it at that, something else no one else brought up. I would have a tad bit more respect, if she was just honest about the situation.

it's not the fact that she called it's that she did it right in front of him, directly after he nutted. unless that's your husband you are calling, which is an obvious exception, that's not acceptable.

If I called another woman minutes after I slept with a woman I would have every thing in the ****ing house thrown at me and rightfully so.


pimp on OP.
 

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ok so we have two different opinions of the OPs response to that Hoe's behavior

group A says he did the right thing, no Hoe should give such disrespect even if she is just a **** buddy.

group B says he is dumb to let go a **** buddy, after all that's all it is, a **** buddy, you are not planning on marrying her i assume.

so it's a matter of whether you knew that she had a boyfriend/exboyfriend who she is still talking to before you came in the picture.

so :
if you knew she was talking to this guy before you fuked her, then you are a wuss for walking out, if she made clear that she has feelings for such guy, then you were the toy, the guy she wanted to use, and you got all hurt and wussed out, you just sabotaged your own lay here.

if you didn't know and never made explicit she was talking or had feelings for such guy, and she did this right after you Fd her.... then yea you have the right to feel disrespected and walking away was acceptable ,.....

so.. elaborate on this.
 

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st_99 said:
A lot of different opinions which is good to see both sides.

What if you turned the tables for a minute.

You just banged a chick and your ex girl blows up your phone, you reply and then go the bathroom to text some more..

a) Chick gets up, puts on her clothes, tells you you're a fvcking douchbag
and leaves.

b) Chick rolls over, tells you in a calm soft voice "would you just talk to her
already, I'm sure she is dying to talk to you" rolls back over, goes to bed.
Next morning, does not even bring it up and doesn't seem to care.

Now, ask yourself how you would feel after each reply at the moment or the next day.??
^^^THANK YOU!!

In plain English. It wasn't even a big enough deal to walk out on. And think of how she thinks of you now. "He just got up and left... Girl I don't know what his problem was. Boy was tripping. He lookedid mad too. I don't know guwrl."

Just wasn't necessary.
 

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You could have told her to shut off the phone before jetting out.
But, hey, if you felt like jetting out and you did, more power to you.
Let's end the discussion here before we start overanalyzing this. I will say this, though. It doesn't show insecurity to punish disrespect.
 

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JustLurk said:
It doesn't show insecurity to punish disrespect.
Thats the exact point.

I had this happen with an ongoing fvckbuddy. I finally started doing things like leaving her house or leaving her stranded with no ride at clubs.

She NEVER does it anymore. When I'm around she turns her phone off.
 

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I guess the bottom line is his reaction was neither right or wrong.

The point is, what exactly is your goal here??

For her to be your GF, a FB,
a ONS? I'm thinking by your reaction you probably wanted to "date"
this girl to see where it goes because you kind of like her.

So, having said that, you just quickly witnessed some lame behavior which probably disqualifies her as a potential relationship type. And, your reaction doesn't matter because who gives a fvck what she thinks of you, the only thing that matters is that she displayed some ho ish behavior.

If you wanted to keep her as a FB a little while longer then you way over reacted.
 

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quick story and 1000000% true. in fact this happened the NIGHT before I met my now finance.

Had this chick I had someone liked, been fliring with. she was cool. About a solid 7, but seemed to be a fun gal.

I'm not a big movie person but I am a huge james bond fan, and Casino Royale had just come out and I had been wanting to see it. She said she liked james bond so I asked her if she wanted to tag along, and we can get some pizza or some **** aftewards. she was cool.

Okay, I go to the gym that day, get dressed, pick her up, she's cool or seems. kinda quiet though. We get in the movie. Movie starts. She gets a phone call in the movie and starts talking on the phone sitting right next to me.

Literary, I pulled out 60 dollars, threw it on her lap and walked the **** out, and didn't think twice about it. I wasn't trying to get her reaction or anything, I literary cut my phone off. I was so pissed I went back to the gym.

So I get home, check my house phone and she had called like 30 times, no exaggeration.

About 45 mintues later, I get a knock on the door, it was her. She asked why I didn that and I told her, point blank, that was ****ed up and i havef lost interest. She tells me that she is seriously sorry and she understands why I did that and "I have to admit, lthat was pretty freakingj sexy, that turned me on". She, 1. pays me back the 60 dollars she used for cab fair, 2. sprung for some Chinese food and 3. probably got about 100 grams of protein that night from additional sources if you get where I am going lol. wore her ass completely out. She tested me, I showed her i don't put up with that ****. it wasn't even about ****ing, i was at that point, perfectly content, with playing video games the rest of the night.

I never saw her again after that, the plate had fell, off as far as i am concerned. she knew what she was doing, nad I don't **** women that play those type of spuid power trip games, and the funny thing about it is, when i called her on it she knew she ****ed up. and 's not like i just got right up and left, i sat there for like 5 minutes.r I have better things to do with my night than to sit next to a ***** on the phone all night.
 

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st_99 said:
I guess the bottom line is his reaction was neither right or wrong.

The point is, what exactly is your goal here??

For her to be your GF, a FB,
a ONS? I'm thinking by your reaction you probably wanted to "date"
this girl to see where it goes because you kind of like her.

So, having said that, you just quickly witnessed some lame behavior which probably disqualifies her as a potential relationship type. And, your reaction doesn't matter because who gives a fvck what she thinks of you, the only thing that matters is that she displayed some ho ish behavior.

If you wanted to keep her as a FB a little while longer then you way over reacted.
This is a girl who WANTS to date me, point blank asked me a few weeks ago if I would date her. I told her not at the moment. Basically, our relationship is she texts me everyday / night asking what I am up to, if I got home safe, etc.

She is the super jealous type. The last time she slept over my phone was going off non stop for booty calls. She freaked out asking how many other chicks I was banging and got very sour.

I don't put up with hypocrites or disrespect. Whether the chick is a fvck buddy, friend, girlfriend, future wife. It doesn't matter.

To recap the night ~

We went out to eat at this local pub that has good food. She is all over my stick from the beginning. We eat, drink a bit, and then drive back to her house. We decide to go back out to another bar. This girl is infatuated with me. I remember sitting at the bar, some hot blonde is eye fvcking the **** out of me, she notices and asks me how often girls look at me like that. I just shrug it off and laugh. She then is kissing me at the bar, saying I am the best looking guy at this bar (true, I am gold looks wise and dress very well). She then asks if I am spending the night. I tell her of course. We have a few more drinks and go back to her place.

She is immediately on my junk as soon as we get in the door. Barely make it to the bed. I wear her ass out for a bit and got bored to be honest and forced myself to nut. She was tired / crabby and I was just like whatever after a bit. She's usually a great lay. 15 minutes or so later the phone is buzzing non stop. She replies to one of them and I get dressed. She asks if I am leaving, I tell her yes. As I am putting my shirt on she is grabbing my chest, licking my ear, telling me she wants to go again. I tell her no thanks and ill see her.

I don't even kiss her goodbye, barely acknowledge her, and walk to my car.

She texted me a bunch last night saying how sorry she was. And earlier today she texted me three times. I've gone no contact on all. One of them was like, "I had such a great time with you as always. I am really happy we decided to go out last night. Thanks!"
 

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I think you did great. Made yourself look like the prize who don't take no sh*t. Good job.
 

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lol man. Who gives a fvck who she talks to? you just fvcked her... but you got so upset that you had to go home and cry. So you're gonna cry every time a girl your with talks to a boy? The secret is TO NOT GIVE A FVCK!!!!!!!!!!
 
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