Exactly this. Stop "talking" for hours and ask her out. Stop allowing her to waste your time, its the most precious commodity a man has when dealing with women and you are basically giving it away for nothing.If you can talk for hours after it takes her 3-4 days to get back to you, You are needy. That kind of action is telling her that. She knows that you will be there when she feels like talking to someone. Be scarce, get busy with your life, and make her earn your time.
See below.......@Tenacity: If you think that texting is the way to go here - what is your advice then? You are completely right that texting is essential - but not for its own sake I would argue.
If you have a problem with the advice that you see here, then state your case. I had the impression that was the purpose of this forum.
And that's where I disagree with you. Texting to our Generation is what General Motors was to my mother's Generation over here in Michigan (Baby Boomers). It's in our DNA. In other words, while you go throughout the day and you are at work, at the gym, the grocery store, or whereever.....you end up just texting each other all throughout the day about random shyt.I am one of these millennials and nowhere in my advice to the OP did I say to not use texting EVER?
I said don't use texting for LONG drawn out conversations.
Not at all........If you text her all day you're lowing your value buddy.
This is bad advice Sir.But if you do decide to do that then make sure you're waiting to respond every couple-few hours so then it's technically like 5-6 messages a day.
This is more bad advice Sir.Generally speaking you want to use texting only for a little banter followed by the setting up of a date.
What "main" problem are you referring to Sir?@Tenacity youre 10 years older than me. I think you realize texting is a must (good job) but I don't think you realize the right way to go about texting women which is the main problem for you.
Welcome to her orbit.Yeah I have asked her out. Twice actually. She just said she was super busy both times. Which I'm just going to call out for being 100% bull****. Anybody can come back with a time that would better work for them.
I refuse to ask a third time because she knows I've asked twice. It was after the second time I asked that I stopped initiating contact.
Since I've stopped it's just been her contacting me.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
See below.......
And that's where I disagree with you. Texting to our Generation is what General Motors was to my mother's Generation over here in Michigan (Baby Boomers). It's in our DNA. In other words, while you go throughout the day and you are at work, at the gym, the grocery store, or whereever.....you end up just texting each other all throughout the day about random shyt.
Not at all........
This is bad advice Sir.
This is more bad advice Sir.
What "main" problem are you referring to Sir?
As I mentioned, Texting is in our DNA. Matter of fact, the guys that are good at Texting are also good on OLD, because OLD IS TEXTING. The vast majority of those women are sitting on their phones texting you on Match, OKC, POF, etc. If you only send 4 or 5 text messages a day and call it quits.......you are seriously damaging your rapport building aspects with the woman.
In terms of your "value being lowered", this is completely not true. Listen guys, if a woman finds you attractive (which I've explained you become attractive by fixing your looks, personality, and finances, or at least 2 of the 3) then there's no way in hell you and her TEXTING all throughout the day is LOWERING your value. That's a Sosuave/Manosphere/Anonymous KBJ "myth" that gets spread around and everybody in this same "bubble" just repeats it.
I share this information about TEXTING with you guys because this isn't my personal opinion, this is what goes on in my daily life with the plates I'm spinning. I'm not telling you what some other "poster" said, I'm giving you direct feedback from my personal relationships and experiences.
Yea don't ask a third time. Don't know why she would keep contacting you after giving you bs excuses twice now. Oh wait yea it's because she wants attention anywhere she can get it and you're her 3rd or 4th stringer on the bench.Yeah I have asked her out. Twice actually. She just said she was super busy both times. Which I'm just going to call out for being 100% bull****. Anybody can come back with a time that would better work for them.
I refuse to ask a third time because she knows I've asked twice. It was after the second time I asked that I stopped initiating contact.
Since I've stopped it's just been her contacting me.
Yeah I have asked her out. Twice actually. She just said she was super busy both times. Which I'm just going to call out for being 100% bull****. Anybody can come back with a time that would better work for them.
I refuse to ask a third time because she knows I've asked twice. It was after the second time I asked that I stopped initiating contact.
Since I've stopped it's just been her contacting me.
I guess so. But hey, if whatever you are using is working for you, that's ALL that matters. Texting a lot works for Tenacity, but hey, it might not work for everybody.And I share based on my experiences as well..
Agree to disagree bud.
Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.
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I don't really see how I'm orbiting her. I'm kind of fed up at this point.Welcome to her orbit.
You asked her out 1 more time than I would have.
"Let's grab a drink Thursday night"
"Im busy Thursday night (and no counter offer)".
"Ok cool. If things change let me know. Talk to you later".
Silence.
If there is a fun, positive vibe I will ask a chick out within the first 10 or so messages. Anything but a yes is a no unless they give me a specific counter offer. If it doesn't happen, or I get the run around, I lose interest very quickly and I hardly ever hit them up later on as some people would suggest. At that point they can either initiate later or I forget about them rather quickly because I'm off to other options.
Good call. I've had several chicks recently that I've messaged, asked out and then something "come up". My response is always the same.....I don't really see how I'm orbiting her. I'm kind of fed up at this point.
Yeah I feel this man, to be fair i stopped initiating contact after the first time she said she was busy.
She then hit me up again and I asked a second time when she hit me up. To which she also said she's busy.
Now she's hit me up again... and I don't even think I'm going to respond. She's wasting my time.
Too much work. She has the OP as an e-orbiter.She takes 3 days , you take 6 days
Yeah exactly...OP needs better options so he wouldn't post about obviously uninterested women.Too much work. She has the OP as an e-orbiter.
I would have been asked her out early in the convo. She took 3 days to respond because her 6'6" NBA boyfriend called her for a railing session.
If a woman left me confused in the initial phases, she would find herself deleted. Blocked if she just wanted me as a beta role i.e. friends, pic liker, ass kisser, ego booster, etc.
Online girls get only one strike. Yes, I hard next flakes and attention seekers. No woman is that attractive until we start dating, and that's if I give out that kind of compliment. I haven't told a woman she's beautiful in a while.
Most likely true haha. I was more so just curious why someone would do that type of thing. I never do that type of **** with women for an ego boost.Yeah exactly...OP needs better options so he wouldn't post about obviously uninterested women.
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
I agree with this completely! Bad behavior doesn't get rewarded. Honestly, I'm actually lucky that when girls do this to me, it turns me off big time and a begin to lose interest pretty fast. I almost think less of them... I know that's kind of bad but **** 'em. My time is valuable and anyone who willingly tries to waste it can suck it.Or alternatively.... practice expressing some standards. That can come across as boring snoozefest advice of "next, next, next, zzzzzz".
It has merits, though. I think if a guy has never blocked/ghosted a woman for being annoying, walked out on a date, kicked a girl out of his place, dumped someone, etc, then he should experiment with these things.
It feels pretty fvcking good, and adds to your vibe going forward.
I was thinking about doing that. I pratically never done any of these thing unless she's a real psycho.Or alternatively.... practice expressing some standards. That can come across as boring snoozefest advice of "next, next, next, zzzzzz".
It has merits, though. I think if a guy has never blocked/ghosted a woman for being annoying, walked out on a date, kicked a girl out of his place, dumped someone, etc, then he should experiment with these things.
It feels pretty fvcking good, and adds to your vibe going forward.
Right on man. I feel like small changes like that are always good. I mean, they make you feel better about yourself and that is always positive, right?I was thinking about doing that. I pratically never done any of these thing unless she's a real psycho.
You inspired me, I just unfriended a girl with Low interest. For me it's a small win, next step is to dump one that has high interest if she doesnt meet my standard. One day I'll be able to do it
Niiiiiiiiiice! Smooth lines, Glass, smooth lines.Her:"Awe I am sorry. I am sure you're disappointed.
Me: "Not at all. Something else is already lined up for me tonight"
Her: "Like a date???????"
Me: "Of course".
Her: "You're an @sshole".
Me:"Sometimes I am guilty of that. You had your chance. Maybe another time".
Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.