Girl always busy but high interest level

[blackomen]

I met this girl and we seemed to click pretty well right off the start. We talked literally for hours and she didn't mind the light kino from me at all. At the end of the party, I got her # before leaving.

I call her about 4 days later and she says her weekend's busy. I pretty much cut her off for the next 3 weeks because I was going through a busy time of my life as well and didn't want any additional distractions (we're both in Grad School, FYI.)

I then randomly decided to call her up one day (close to the beginning of Spring Break) and she sounded a little surprised but excited to hear from me again. So we set up a date and she agreed.. but she canceled the day of saying she had too much work to finish. So I called her later that week and we set up for our first date that weekend. We only had lunch and she even talked about things we could do together in the future. However, when I called her up several days later after the date, she's back again with her whole "I'm busy with my work".

I'm wondering if anyone has some tips on dealing with girls who are quite interested in you but are legitimately busy all the time. I feel the easy thing to do is to just forget about her. I can't really completely forget her although I have been approaching other girls at the local bars (with not much success but that's another story) the whole time I've been pursuing her.

 

[TruthHurts]

No such thing as too busy... Even if you were in grad school... would she say she too busy for Brad Pit?

It is what it is... So best thing for you is to treat her like you did during the 3 weeks (i.e. you didnt give a sh.t)... so now also dont give a sh.t and try to catch her at the right time... take her out for drinks, and bang her..

 

[FurryFriend]

No such thing as too busy... Even if you were in grad school... would she say she too busy for Brad Pit?

Agreed. It's BS that she's THAT busy where she can't carve out a hour or two during the week. Nobody is that busy, not even the President. You'd have to ask yourself if she's busy...or just too busy for you. And if you accept her excuse, is it because it's a valid excuse or is it just wishful thinking.

If I really like a girl, I WILL make time.

 

[TruthHurts]

The Truth!!!!!!!!!!

And if you accept her excuse, is it because it's a valid excuse or is it just wishful thinking.

Unless it is something like "I was in a hospital with a broken back"

it is WISHFUL THINKING

if walks like a duck and talks like a duck.. its a fcking duck...
if she cheated on her x.. she will cheat on you too..

meaning, dont sit there and make up excuses or even bother asking or listening to them.. actions are more important then words...

 

[blackomen]

Forgot to mention but this girl is from another country and working her @$$ off to stay in the U.S.. That's why I'm so convinced that she's genuinely busy although I definitely won't say I'm 100% certain.

 

[TruthHurts]

Forgot to mention but this girl is from another country and working her @$$ off to stay in the U.S.. That's why I'm so convinced that she's genuinely busy although I definitely won't say I'm 100% certain.

Is she from russia? Seen it and heard it before.. girl told me she was too busy, saw her at a club hahahah Didnt bother saying anything about her being too busy, cause actions speak beatter then words... point was, she was too busy for me

Listen, I would skip sleep for someone I really liked, and so would a girl... It is what it is.. dont make a duck into a chiken.. its a fcking duck!

 

[blackomen]

Is she from russia? Seen it and heard it before.. girl told me she was too busy, saw her at a club hahahah Didnt bother saying anything about her being too busy, cause actions speak beatter then words... point was, she was too busy for me

Listen, I would skip sleep for someone I really liked, and so would a girl... It is what it is.. dont make a duck into a chiken.. its a fcking duck!

She's from China. And I'm actually Chinese too.. but born and raised in the US. Oh well, at least now I no longer have to worry about the possibility of her using marriage (many years in the future) as a "ticket" to US citizenship.

 

[TruthHurts]

Chinese culturally is more conservative, and women tend to be more subordinate, but that depends on region from, and her own outlook... even so, across the board, if a woman wants to, she would suggest a time when she is not busy... for example "I am really busy next week, but the week after I am available" etc...
anyways.. if she subordinate, tell her "Listen, no one does anything friday night (or pick night you know she has day off).. I will pick you up at 9:00 pm, so be ready"
and then shut up and wait for her response... this is what we call the "close pitch" i.e. the line that seals the deal.. and key is not to talk and just pause.. put the pressure on them, and let them cave in... used in car sales all the time...

 

[Georgey]

stop calling her, forget bout her
if that happens again with another girl and she tells im busy, then say "i'll call u later when ure not busy" which is NEVER!!

 

[Brak86]

Usually, I don't like calling girls/setting up dates on the weekened. They always have something to do, or, if they dont, they don't want to seem boring and make something up.

 

[blackomen]

Chinese culturally is more conservative, and women tend to be more subordinate, but that depends on region from, and her own outlook... even so, across the board, if a woman wants to, she would suggest a time when she is not busy... for example "I am really busy next week, but the week after I am available" etc...
anyways.. if she subordinate, tell her "Listen, no one does anything friday night (or pick night you know she has day off).. I will pick you up at 9:00 pm, so be ready"
and then shut up and wait for her response... this is what we call the "close pitch" i.e. the line that seals the deal.. and key is not to talk and just pause.. put the pressure on them, and let them cave in... used in car sales all the time...

Funny thing is, she often just stays at home on Friday nights or during many of the times she says she's busy (I have her home phone # as well as cell.)

 

[handle]

Funny thing is, she often just stays at home on Friday nights or during many of the times she says she's busy (I have her home phone # as well as cell.)

hmm seems like a clear indication to me...

 

[Derek Vance]

She may be busy but does not have high interest level.

Get her phone # (no email, myspace, AIM), call her five days later to set up a date for a specific place, day (no Fri or Sat, she has to earn that spot) , and time, and listen closely to her response.

Anything other than a clear yes = no. The only exception is if she counteroffers as previously posted about. If you get a no (anything other than yes) you can only try her one other time. Throw the number away.

You called her twice and she said no each time. You called a third time and she gave you a lunch date just to get you off her back. You called a fourth time and she said no.

You are projecting your very high interest level on her. It's clear she has low interest level in you (which is shown by her actions not by the things she tells you).

You're too important to worry about her anymore.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

"Girl always busy but high interest level"

The above quote is completely contradictory to itself. Every girl is "busy". However, when a girl with high interest is "busy", she MAKES time for you because her interest is high. If she is brushing you off because she's "busy", then she is only displaying evidence of high interest for attention wh0ring purposes. She does so in order to keep you hooked while she makes absolutely no commitments to you.

Ditch her.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Did I miss something, what has she done to show that she has a high IL?

 

[blackomen]

Did I miss something, what has she done to show that she has a high IL?

Unfortunately, it's not something that's very easy to describe using words.

 

[ScrewIt]

I remember something like that back in my afc days, i was friends with this girl (i did like her) and we always hung out. Occasionally she'd ask me to hangout with her and friends, i would. When it was my turn to ask her to hangout she would give me the 'so busy' line.

After breaking out from the afc routine and droping contact, she would wonder what i was up to - if i ran into her on campus. and the rare times that i ask her to get together - dinner/coffee whatever be it she would accept.

yea she was chinese too.

Case in point, if a woman feels she has control of the situation she will bore easily. You will also need to possess value in her eyes, that she will see you're worth her time and the chase.

I dont care how long you drop off the face of the earth and decide to pick up the phone and ask her out. Before that can be successful, you should have at least built enough rapport/trust and most importantly value to the girl before it will work.

 

[Last Man Standing]

She was merely accommodating you by seeing you!!! Remember - she is a woman!!!! A Woman's desire to be with a man overrides all other interests - by her nature!!!!!!!!!!!!! She is not interested!!! Say "BYE-BYE'!!!

A woman is always - I said "always" interested in a man whom she desires - her natural desires embedded in her genetic femininity overrides professional/academic wants, unless artificially restrained!!!!!

A woman is NEVER "too" busy for a man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NEVER!!!!!!!!!