girl admits she kissed another guy

[B-Real]

Ok, for starters I'm gonna go ahead and tell you I have the weirdest, most complicated relationship with this girl. I met her 7 months ago, and we hit it off immediately. Well we always argue cause she's really an AW at heart, but for some reason we always make up.

Well I moved 2 hours away from her cause I am enrolled in a university, we still talk and promise to see each other all we can blah blah.

Last night she told me she was going to a party. I didn't take it too seriously cause she has been before and I'm not one to go all psycho on her and tell her not to go. All because I'm 2 hours away and its not fair.

So we texted all night and she told me how much she cares for me and blah blah and she wishes I was here instead of these other lame guys that was sitting at her table (she was with a girlfriend).

Well this morning she said she was entirely too drunk last night and she has something to tell me. So after a few tears and mushy mushy stuff she said that she kissed another guy last night.

At first I was kinda mad, but then it hit me.. I've had sex with two other girls in the past month. I did that because she treated me like sh*t and I could'nt trust her as far as I could throw her and its a long story.

So should I act like I don't care and just let it ride OR should I let it bother me even though its not fair?? I mean its not fair to her that I get mad because I've obviously done more to her than she has me, but I'm not sure how to come across to her. She doesn't know about my two girls.

BUT I don't want her to think its ok to go kissing guys when she's drunk. My two girls was in a time when we were "broken up"

Sorry if this post doesn't make sense

 

[jwtile]

You have to ask yourself this question... Are you sure the relationship is still working out? If there is no trust in the relationship there is no point, and clearly you already slept with two girls because of you couldn't trust her. And also she already kissed another guy (at least she admitted it). And well you also live two hours away from her, it's not that bad but still.

 

[AKA FLEX]

What did the barber say? "NEXT!"

That's all that needs to be said about this one.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Ok, you know she is a AW. You have been fighting with her; fights happen. But, how much and what about? (think about that.) You two have broken up before. (Another thing to think about.)

She kissed another guy. Ok, I wouldn't consider that cheating. But, either she lost interest in you. Or the alcohol took over her thinking.

You need to think about if you really want to be with her. You already banged two chicks when you broke up. I'm sure you can find another girl when you feel the time is right.

Now, for your question... I wouldn't ignore what happend. Say, you kiss another guy again and we are done.

 

[AKA FLEX]

She kissed another guy. Ok, I wouldn't consider that cheating.

Ummm, I would. Any man that thinks otherwise obviously doesn't have the c-o-jones to expect more from a woman he dates or the self-worth to know that he is capable of finding a woman with more loyalty than that.

 

[Ken785]

Ok, for starters I'm gonna go ahead and tell you I have the weirdest, most complicated relationship with this girl. I met her 7 months ago, and we hit it off immediately. Well we always argue cause she's really an AW at heart, but for some reason we always make up.

Well I moved 2 hours away from her cause I am enrolled in a university, we still talk and promise to see each other all we can blah blah.

Last night she told me she was going to a party. I didn't take it too seriously cause she has been before and I'm not one to go all psycho on her and tell her not to go. All because I'm 2 hours away and its not fair.

So we texted all night and she told me how much she cares for me and blah blah and she wishes I was here instead of these other lame guys that was sitting at her table (she was with a girlfriend).

Well this morning she said she was entirely too drunk last night and she has something to tell me. So after a few tears and mushy mushy stuff she said that she kissed another guy last night.

At first I was kinda mad, but then it hit me.. I've had sex with two other girls in the past month. I did that because she treated me like sh*t and I could'nt trust her as far as I could throw her and its a long story.

So should I act like I don't care and just let it ride OR should I let it bother me even though its not fair?? I mean its not fair to her that I get mad because I've obviously done more to her than she has me, but I'm not sure how to come across to her. She doesn't know about my two girls.

BUT I don't want her to think its ok to go kissing guys when she's drunk. My two girls was in a time when we were "broken up"

Sorry if this post doesn't make sense

Why dont you B-Real to yourself and leave her then??

 

[thederekeffect1]

1) You said it yourself, You sleep with other women. You can't really hold the double standard that she has to be faithful to you when you're sleeping around on her.

2) I'm not going to tell you to break up with her or stay with her, because I don't know the right move. I can point out the fact that neither of you can stay faithful with each other and that's a problem that you're both going to have to work out.

3) Some people would say that she's sh*t testing you. If you want to follow that advice, then the best thing to do would be to be cool about it. "It's okay, because I know that I'm the guy you really want to be with".

She wants to know if you're going to play the AFC card and become jealous because someone else kissed her? Or are you confident enough to believe that there is no man better enough for her then you? Jealousy only says one thing to her. You are intimidated by another man. You think this guy was able to "one up" you and that maybe he's more "DJ" then you are. Relax, he's probably an AFC that got lucky due to large amounts of alcohol in her blood stream. Keep in mind, there's no man whose better for this woman then you are. She wants YOU.

 

[KarmaSutra]

So we texted all night and she told me how much she cares for me and blah blah and she wishes I was here instead of these other lame guys that was sitting at her table (she was with a girlfriend).

This is your entire issue. You're her girlfriend. Texting is for chicks who have nothing better to do than gaggle with the rest of her flock of birds. Stop this nonsense. If she's at a party without you, you damn well better be doing something you enjoy without her. She kissed a guy? So fvcking what. You better be putting one in the pink and another in the stink of some random broad then caress your girlfriend's face with the lingering smell of ass and cvnt as you turn and walk away.

Don't ever be scared to pull the trigger.

1) You said it yourself, You sleep with other women. You can't really hold the double standard that she has to be faithful to you when you're sleeping around on her.

2) I'm not going to tell you to break up with her or stay with her, because I don't know the right move. I can point out the fact that neither of you can stay faithful with each other and that's a problem that you're both going to have to work out.

3) Some people would say that she's sh*t testing you. If you want to follow that advice, then the best thing to do would be to be cool about it. "It's okay, because I know that I'm the guy you really want to be with".

She wants to know if you're going to play the AFC card and become jealous because someone else kissed her? Or are you confident enough to believe that there is no man better enough for her then you? Jealousy only says one thing to her. You are intimidated by another man. You think this guy was able to "one up" you and that maybe he's more "DJ" then you are. Relax, he's probably an AFC that got lucky due to large amounts of alcohol in her blood stream. Keep in mind, there's no man whose better for this woman then you are. She wants YOU.

This is the only brother who said anything of merit in this sh!t thread.

 

[Roy]

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3) Some people would say that she's sh*t testing you. If you want to follow that advice, then the best thing to do would be to be cool about it. "It's okay, because I know that I'm the guy you really want to be with".

If he said that then she could turn around and fvck some other guy and say "i jus fvcked some other guy but ur the only guy i wana b with"

I hope you see what im trying to say...

 

[B-Real]

I think I'm gonna let it ride. I know who the culprit is, and believe me..he's in no way more DJ than me. I actually told her after it happened, "Couldn't you have picked someone a little more attractive to kiss?"

This kinda ticked her off, so I think I'm already taking the direction of believing this was a sh*t test. I didn't call her last night, she didn't call me. I'm gonna wait till she calls me before I talk to her again. I know without a doubt I'll get a phone call today.

However she has never done this before in the past so I'm convinced it was a mixture of her being really intoxicated (which I know how that messes with your mind) and that chump being at the right place at that time. He got lucky thats all. I'm sure it made his night.

 

[Desdinova]

Why in hell are you still in a relationship with this woman? You argue a lot, she kissed some other guy, you fvcked two other women. Please tell me why you want to maintain a relationship that is obviously beyond repair?

The benefits of staying together:

- ??????????????


The benefits of moving on:

- No more arguing which causes stress
- No more travelling two hours to have conscious-clear sex
- Fvck anybody you like without feeling guilty
- No more dealing with her 5hit

 

[Jeffst1980]

The reason why this is a weird, complicated relationship...is because IT ISN'T A RELATIONSHIP!! You're fighting over stupid things, you're always breaking up, you're 2 hours away, and you're young...there is no reason to call this a relationship, and by doing so, you're going to eliminate a lot of options in the future.

It is not acceptable for a girlfriend to kiss another guy. If she plays the "I was drunk" card, then tell her she shouldn't drink. Sometimes girls LET themselves get out of control drunk to give themselves some sort of excuse--but even if you're drunk you know what's right and wrong.

It isn't a s#it test because s#it tests are actually a good thing--they're gentle tests that allow you to prove yourself a man. This was blatant disrespect, and I have a feeling it happened because of the break up/ make up cycle you two have gone through. You've forgiven her too much, and now she knows she can just cry a little to get out of trouble. If you continue to stay with her, she WILL do it again.

I would tell her it's over, since you seem like you have other options anyway. She will most likely go through a cycle of crying, begging, and anger that will likely turn you off and make you feel better about your decision.


However, knowing the reality factor, you probably won't take that advice. Since you have distance between you, you may be able to safely demote this one to FB status if you still want to hang out with her. That way, when you meet a new girl (and you WILL), you will be able to keep this one out of your hair. Tell her you think it's best if you two keep your options open in light of her recent indiscretions. Then go hook up with new girls and don't feel guilty about it at all. Her crying, pleading, etc. is just for show and not really a reflection of her true heart.

 

[KingBeef]

Why dont you B-Real to yourself and leave her then??

BUMP

 

[DonGorgon]

LOL... she is a ho and she let you know... Keep her around only for an F...

 

[Mavrick]

Let it ride. Go do as you wish because she obviously is going to do the same. The less you care the more she will, and if she doesn't care, then what have you lost? Get mad and you only show your neediness. Like Don said, keep her around for the f. Don't let yourself be emotionally tied to her because then all you're doing is hurting yourself.