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Gfs Ex kissed her

phil2015

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Hi

Just a quick situ... Was just in town with my gf and we are both very happy and we're sat on a bench.

My gfs ex from 10 years ago walked past, made small talk/catch up etc and as was leaving gave her a kiss on cheek. With me sat there.

I feel like he's truly tried to alpha up on me and did it to make a point in front of me.

I'm torn between trying not to look insecure but also an very p****ed at what he did.

My gf herself said he never does this at any other time, and she bumps into him from time to time. He did however make a point of it in front of me.

What would any of you have done in this situation?

Regards

Phil
 

dude99

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Hi

Just a quick situ... Was just in town with my gf and we are both very happy and we're sat on a bench.

My gfs ex from 10 years ago walked past, made small talk/catch up etc and as was leaving gave her a kiss on cheek. With me sat there.

I feel like he's truly tried to alpha up on me and did it to make a point in front of me.

I'm torn between trying not to look insecure but also an very p****ed at what he did.

My gf herself said he never does this at any other time, and she bumps into him from time to time. He did however make a point of it in front of me.

What would any of you have done in this situation?

Regards

Phil
Acting angry about it is weak. Him trying to "out alpha," you is immature and weak pn his part. As long as she didn't reciprocate you don't have anything to worry about.

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Don't lose frame. If he does it again then just put your hand on his shoulder smile and say "yeah i know you miss her. Sorry fella but she is with me now."

If he is a hot head then he will challege you; and you won't have to. Then kick the piss out of him and you will look like the hero.

Best reaction. No reaction. Let him look like the goon.
 

CMNILS87

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No reaction at all. The cheek kiss was a definite make **** test.
 

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What are you going to do? A kiss on the cheek happens so fast... I'd say the kiss is the line drawn on the floor. If he passes it and she doesn't correct him then you step in.
 

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Don't forget there's allot you can do without chumping yourself out. Last time some dude started talking to a girl I was with I just stood up. Acted like I was streching, walked around a bit then just stood there staring at him waiting for him to leave. I was imposing myself on their conversation to make it end sooner. When she asked what was up I just let her know I was getting impatient and bored. Wtf how can a person walk up to two people having a conversation and just start addressing one of them?
 

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It was a set up by your gf to test you.

Don't react, he might have did it to test you..

No mater what it was.... it was nothing in the end... a kiss on cheek iss how you welcome someone in warm culture (even the cold ones).

If you freak out for that... you have insecurity issues.

I kiss cheek all my ex and plates. It's just a warm welcome.

No reaction is the alpha way
 

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Never react to a guy when he's pulling that stuff. Your girl should be the one telling him it isn't cool and setting boundaries. Next time he's around make out with her right in front of him, get all physical with her, move your hands all over her body. Nothing will make him look like a chump more than sitting there ignored as you take what he wants right in front of him and remind him of his place as the beta.
 

El Payaso

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Have another girl kiss you on the cheek in front of her.
 

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If all he got was cheek kiss and you are getting better. It's not like she went for a mouth kiss during the encounter. Nothing to worry about yet.
 
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I don't get it... Not everything is a **** test or mortal combat.

I have kissed exes from years ago on the cheek in front of their husbands.... Nothing passionate just a friendly kiss. If you have managed to stay friends what is the big deal ?

Could be an age thing or a cultural thing but in my view it's just being civil.
 

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Hi

Just a quick situ... Was just in town with my gf and we are both very happy and we're sat on a bench.

My gfs ex from 10 years ago walked past, made small talk/catch up etc and as was leaving gave her a kiss on cheek. With me sat there.

I feel like he's truly tried to alpha up on me and did it to make a point in front of me.

I'm torn between trying not to look insecure but also an very p****ed at what he did.

My gf herself said he never does this at any other time, and she bumps into him from time to time. He did however make a point of it in front of me.

What would any of you have done in this situation?

Regards

Phil
who cares what the ex did, what matters is what your gf did.

neither you nor your gf are in control of her ex, HOWEVER she is in control of herself, so if she was perfectly okay with it or worse, seemed to be encouraging/enjoying it in any way, THAT would be a problem. anything else isn't a big deal, just her ex being a d!ck to screw with you.
 

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i dont agree with another man putting his hands on my chick unless its a family member.

for you that cant grasp that logic..say i jave a gf and she does this and im supposed to be cool with her ex walking up in front of me, putting his hands on and kissing my current chick. no biatch you dont take food off my plate or a bite out of my sandwich.

me personally im too territorial...if that situ went down on my watch. lol itd be nukes. id tell my gf ok ill make sure next time my exgf is around ill put my hand on her hip hug her so those titties mash my chest and let my lips touch her cheek....you see its just not cool. honestly id probably go fk someone if this happened. its extreme but id want to do that to get even. because if she let him kiss her then she woikd let him fukk her (again). and its just disrespectful.
 

Desdinova

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"Hey bro, don't I get a kiss on the cheek too?"

I find when other men are trying to out-alpha me, I just pull the 'I'm gay and I think you have a cute butt' card on them. It makes the girl laugh and makes the dude uncomfortable.
 
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