GF won't give head

[WORKEROUTER]

What would you guys do if your gf didn't want to go down on you? Every time I suggest she do it, she starts being *****y and whiny about it. Then finally if she does go down, it's not good at all.

I told her it's important to me, but she continues to be *****y about it. I usually get frustrated at this and it doesn't exactly leave me in the best mood.

Anyway, how do you guys suggest I handle this?

 

[DeathDealer]

You do not force someone to meet what you think is sexually amusing to you. You do not even hint about it. How would you like it if she hints or tells you she prefers you to wear lots of vinyl/leather and enjoys you being whipped and beaten when you aren't into that weird sh1t?

A girl that wants to do something with you sexually she'll do it. Usually when I am into a sort of sexual thing, I watch a porn that demonstrates what I like.. so if there is a porn showing a girl sucking off some dude, I tell my b1tch that turns me on a lot. And if she does it, cool, if she doesn't oh well.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Originally posted by DeathDealer
You do not force someone to meet what you think is sexually amusing to you. You do not even hint about it. How would you like it if she hints or tells you she prefers you to wear lots of vinyl/leather and enjoys you being whipped and beaten when you aren't into that weird sh1t?

A girl that wants to do something with you sexually she'll do it. Usually when I am into a sort of sexual thing, I watch a porn that demonstrates what I like.. so if there is a porn showing a girl sucking off some dude, I tell my b1tch that turns me on a lot. And if she does it, cool, if she doesn't oh well.

Ya, but oral isn't exactly a major fetish like the example you used.

 

[Snatchmaster]

She's TRAINING you to live a life w/o blow-jobs.

Next the B!

 

[PeeGee]

She really is. If this is something you can't compromise on (I'd imagine my reasoning assumes there are people who are like 'whatever' if they can't get oral), dump her.

Screw ultimatums.

 

[Disconnect]

You this she has that attitude only towards bl0wjobs? How bout anything else sexual in general? I find b1tches like that usually have some sort of a complex like 'omg it's dirty!' to the point of neurosis.

Besides, what kind of a guy accepts the "No BJ" deal?

N3XT!

 

[ego]

Get down on her. If she doesn't want to, you just have to deal with it. If she does, you can always ask her to "return the favor". I know guys who hates giving oral sex to girls, and I also know girls who hates giving it to guys. We're all different.

Put yourself in her situation. You want a dirty di*ck in your mouth? Haha, nah... seriously, what I mean is that she might be the type of girl who just doesn't like the taste of di*ck.

If she doesn't want to give you head - just deal with it. Learn to live with it, or find some other girl.

"Then finally if she does go down, it's not good at all. "

Practice makes perfect.

 

[MacDiddy]

BJs are an important element of life. Not only is it a pleasure, but also a tool of submission you have over your lover. "You are going to suck my member coz you know where your place is. and your gonna suck it good"

You obviously do not have enough leverage on your girl!!!!

You need to start conditioning her to accept BJ as a fact of life. I'm not talking about giving her lectures. Watch p0rn together, then have rough $ex. Read the bible, start acting more alpha.. and increase you attraction levels. If she is totally in love with you, she will do anything for you.

 

[Colossus]

If she refuses to go down on you then I would definetely refuse to do the same w/ her. Oral sex is a 2-way street. And it's nobody's "place" to put their mouths on another's nether regions. If it's a non-negotiable for you then you only have one option. You'll never talk her into liking it.

 

[Life-Trainee]

Does she give you handjobs? If she doesn't I'd start with that.

 

[Sexual]

I'm in the same boat with you brother. If I end up staying with this girl, I'm going to not worry so much about starting sex and just give her awesome head until she screams for d*ck. After doing this a few times i think she'll be more open towards *******s.

Advice: STOP with the asking her. My girl gets super pissed and out of the mood when I make her feel like it's something a girl does to make the sex less intimate and with less love/feeling. She'll do it when she's ready and it feels right to do without feeling like a w*ore.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Thanks for the responses.

She's actually a virgin and really hasn't done much with a guy sexually. I've fingered her and all, but we haven't had sex (though it's on the list).

It seems like she just doesn't understand (or doesn't like) oral in general. I told her about me going down on her, and she said that I never need to.

I'm going to stop asking (or actually telling..."go down on me.."). This just makes me pissed off when she starts acting like a b*tch about it, after telling her to do it.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Originally posted by Life-Trainee
Does she give you handjobs? If she doesn't I'd start with that.

Ya, that seems like a good idea.

 

[00Kevin]

About the only thing you can do is make her feel guilty about it by going down on her alot.

There are also two kinds of women. Those that like BJs and those that don't. You need to find a girl that likes doing it and likes the taste of cu m.

Also , when a girl finds a guy attractive she will suck him like an animal. Ask her if she would suck Brad pits ****? I'll bet she would ever morning.

If she doesn't like hand jobs then there is really something wrong with her. She is most likely very selfish or doesn't find you all that attractive.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Originally posted by 00Kevin
About the only thing you can do is make her feel guilty about it by going down on her alot.

There are also two kinds of women. Those that like BJs and those that don't. You need to find a girl that likes doing it and likes the taste of cu m.

Also , when a girl finds a guy attractive she will suck him like an animal. Ask her if she would suck Brad pits ****? I'll bet she would ever morning.

If she doesn't like hand jobs then there is really something wrong with her. She is most likely very selfish or doesn't find you all that attractive.

Ya I bet she would suck off brad pitt. Thinking abot that f*ckin pisses me off!

Ya, I'll see about the hand job thing.

I've already made it pretty clear that sexual stuff to me is necessary to a relationship and that there are plenty of chumps out there who might think differently, if she wants to go that route.

 

[izza]

Why explicitly ask for BJs?

My title pretty much sums it up - don't explicitly ask for BJs, especially more than once. Nobody likes to do something because you ask (more than once), or plead, or you persuade, or you negotiate. If it's a favor to you, it feels dirty. All of those things are below a true DJ. A girl gives a true DJ head because she wants to please him and get him off. This might sound counter-intuitive but a DJ gives her the privilege - do you hear me, the mother****ing privilege - of giving a BJ because his winkie is that popular. Never treat a BJ like she's doing you a favor, never negotiate, and NEVER whine about it because you are giving her the gift of your time, your intimacy, and your sexuality. A girl with high IL will consider herself lucky to accept. Remember that.

If you want to drop hints through porn, through jokes that's fine - but being a wuss about the whole thing does not make you attractive. Whining, anger, threats, negotiation are below you my friend. Next.

Izza

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Re: Why explicitly ask for BJs?

Originally posted by izza
My title pretty much sums it up - don't explicitly ask for BJs, especially more than once. Nobody likes to do something because you ask (more than once), or plead, or you persuade, or you negotiate. If it's a favor to you, it feels dirty. All of those things are below a true DJ. A girl gives a true DJ head because she wants to please him and get him off. This might sound counter-intuitive but a DJ gives her the privilege - do you hear me, the mother****ing privilege - of giving a BJ because his winkie is that popular. Never treat a BJ like she's doing you a favor, never negotiate, and NEVER whine about it because you are giving her the gift of your time, your intimacy, and your sexuality. A girl with high IL will consider herself lucky to accept. Remember that.

If you want to drop hints through porn, through jokes that's fine - but being a wuss about the whole thing does not make you attractive. Whining, anger, threats, negotiation are below you my friend. Next.

Izza

Thanks...I think you pretty much summed it up for me.

 

[quest]

i went out for a chick for 8 months, looking back, what was i thinking?

i'd see her i suppose 4-5 times a week, spending most nights together u know, we'd have sex probably once a week. everytime i put the hard word on her, i got sex. but it was bull****, it made it less enjoyable for me and her.

and like your situation, she never gave me head. she did suck my **** for a bit of lubrication, but never gave me a big session of head.

dumping her was such a good move.

 

[Kaine]

Post to wrong thread

 

[ego]

"She's actually a virgin and really hasn't done much with a guy sexually. "

Well, then it's nothing strange at all. She's inexperienced... that's all. Take it slow, and you'll get what you want.