GF with another girl = cheating?

[Bible_Belt]

I have taken a liking to a HB9 bi party girl, who has a couple GFs who like to make out and feel each other up on dance floors (AW behavior, I know). She went out and did that last Friday, trying to make me jealous I think b/c we were fighting, but I don't seem to feel the same way about it. If she were with another guy, I would instantly go get with another chick, probably mostly for revenge I admit. But this seems different. She's crazy about me (on top of being just plain crazy) and sleeps in my bed most nights.

I am wondering how most guys would feel about this situation being cheating or not, and look forward to seeing the poll results.

 

[KontrollerX]

Yeah its cheating technically but most guys let it slip because we find it hot.

Another guy probing your girl with his meat puppet and tossing love juice all over her face and t!ts is another story though.

Thats pretty much an unforgiveable offense.

 

[Lord Shinra]

Depending on how far it goes, I will see it as cheating.

Kissing and sh!t like that on a dancefloor, isnt a big deal to me. Hardcore lesbian sex and anything with another dude is a non pardonable offense, just as Kontroller said. But if it was another dude, you can bet females are getting called by me.

 

[JDA70]

Techniquely it's not cheating if you are not going steady with her.
Did you and her commit?
Did you say lets go steady?

 

[azanon]

I'm a bit surprised to see this question from you BB. Do you have an agreement with her that you're dating exclusively (something I don't recommend unless its really serious, per Sosuave)? If not, then its not cheating because you're not dating exclusively.

For what its worth, don't date a "bi party girl" exclusively. The only one that'd be honoring that arrangement, if she is as you described, would be you.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I think I am outgrowing jealousy. It is still a fun button to push in a woman, but over time I find myself not being jealous about much any more. Plate spinning helped that a lot. If a woman can be easily replaced, then that keeps the right frame. The bi gf knew that I had been seeing other girls, and was ok with it. "I just don't want to know," she said. But now I am finding myself preferring just her over other plates. I've known her ten years, and don't expect any sort of grand betrayal, at least not if lesbian sex is a betrayal. Life goes on either way.

But my main question with this thread is to ask, 'What is your gut feeling when you see or hear of your gf making out with another girl?' Kontrollerx made a great point, 'most guys let it slip because we find it hot.' Is it attraction to bi chicks more so than jealousy that controls how a guy feels about all of this?

 

[DavenJuan]

its not cheating if shes bringin her home

 

[Sandow]

I've always felt that if my gf were to make out with another chick, I wouldn't care. I would get jealous and upset if she made out with a guy, but for some reason, it seems dumb to get jealous over a girl, plus it pretty hot.

However, a certain situation occurred last weekend. The girl that I'm seeing claims she's "bi- curious" not bi-sexual. The difference, I have no idea. Sh'es done stuff with a girl, had a threesome, none of that bothers me. But at the bar on Saturday, she was being hit on by a chick all night. They were flirting all night, and I felt myself getting pretty jealous. It was weird because I thought I would never get jealous over another girl, but I did. I kept picturing her making out with that girl, it makes you feel insecure.

Which leads me to my next point. I think it's a red flag if your girl would want to make out with another girl, let alone sleep with her. If she's willing to makeout with a chick, what makes you think she won't do it with a guy? Obviously she's into guys too cause she's dating you, so if she's willing to do it with a chick, clearly she's prone to doing it with a guy. Or at least interested.

FYI, the girl I'm seeing didn't do anything with that babe, she knew that girl wanted her but was disinterested. I thought that was a good sign. The bottom line: A girl that is willing to fool around with other girls (or animals, or what have you) is always willing to cheat with whomever. It's her mindset rather than her actions. Red flag!

So do you guys agree with this?

 

[Bible_Belt]

I hear what you are saying, but I think every woman will cheat if her needs are not met, and will stay faithful if they are.

She said her last bf would get made fun of at the bar when she was ignoring him and making out with other chicks. If I was in that situation, then I would probably go hit on another girl in front of her. As the bf of the biggest AW in the place, whom all the guys are going nuts over, I can only imagine that I could have my pick of any woman in the bar; they would all love to steal my gf's guy. But then she's be pissed and drama would ensue. I think I'm going to avoid her weekly girls' night out, but let her have her fun. If she wants to be bi around me, then it will be in the hunting of another girl for a 3som. If she's around me, I think she should at least have to share any girl she's with.

 

[shop until I die!]

I'm so sick of this being a socially acceptable behavior and us guys just passing it off as "a turn-on." **** that, I don't share the girls I date, sorry.

 

[Serialized3]

It depends.

If it was just one of the plates I'm spinning, a girl that I just hang out with to fool around with, I wouldn't care.

But if it were a LTR sort of deal, I would be not only disgusted (I don't like the slutty "bisexual" type of girl for LTR), but I would also be pissed because I would consider it cheating. This would be unlikely to happen because I qualify women and don't try to "make a ho a housewife"

 

[Serialized3]

But my main question with this thread is to ask, 'What is your gut feeling when you see or hear of your gf making out with another girl?' Kontrollerx made a great point, 'most guys let it slip because we find it hot.' Is it attraction to bi chicks more so than jealousy that controls how a guy feels about all of this?

I find it more amusing than erotic. If the girls are actually lesbos or bi or whatever, it's no big deal. But usually it's just some confused/stupid/slutty attention whore type stuff, and I have quite a bit of contempt for it.

 

[Bible_Belt]

She's been with a lot of girls, so it's not just a phase.

Conventional wisdom says a slvtty girl is not LTR material, but I like them, and they are fun while it lasts. She was married seven years at least. I am pretty fond of this girl, the amazing sex is worth the craziness. She has an 'anything you want all the time' attitude about sex that I just don't find in sane women.

 

[mrRuckus]

It's pure wh0rish behavior and would turn me off of her instantly so there'd be no intellectual debate.

But i'm a big prude when it comes to this.. i don't like lesbian sh1t and even the other night there was this bachelorette party rolling through a bar i was at wearing low cut dresses and these stupid miss america type sashes where each had something different written on them but the only one i remember was "I'm into anal." I ignored them at first but after a while a fairly pretty one came up to me and said "read this! hehe!" and without looking down i grabbed her shoulders and spun her around and said "i don't think so. you go that way." I just don't have patience for wh0rish behavior in public. My girl can be as slutty as she wants home alone with me, but "look at me i derive my value from having breasts" behavior in public is such a turn off.

It's cheating if she's agreed to monogamy. I've talked about this a number of times with girls before and the only ones who say it isn't are the ones who want to kiss girls, so it's not really them making a choice based on merit, but rationalizing what they want to do. And it's not fair that i don't get a sexual outlet outside my woman like she does if it were allowed. I'd never date a bi woman anyway. Who wants to ever think during sex that their woman is thinking "i wish i was touching breasts right now?"

 

[mrRuckus]

I am pretty fond of this girl, the amazing sex is worth the craziness. She has an 'anything you want all the time' attitude about sex that I just don't find in sane women.

If it's just hanging out and having sex then just do that and don't worry about the other stuff.

Sh1t, my ex is sweating me right now to have sex again and i think i'm going to do it because she's the best sex i've had and vice versa. I'll deal with her "having feelings again" when and if it happens, but i know i won't since i've well learned the hard way she's not LTR material.

 

[Mayfly]

Isn't this a Mystery Method opener?

 

[Sandow]

She's been with a lot of girls, so it's not just a phase.

Conventional wisdom says a slvtty girl is not LTR material, but I like them, and they are fun while it lasts. She was married seven years at least. I am pretty fond of this girl, the amazing sex is worth the craziness. She has an 'anything you want all the time' attitude about sex that I just don't find in sane women.

Your right, it's awesome having a girl thats crazy in bed. At this point I think your really attracted and intrigued by her adventurous personality. But eventually you'll develop strong feelings for her, then your not going to want to share her with anyone else. Thats why it's hard being "open" with LTR's. With flings you're more in a sexual phase than anything else. Which is probably where you should keep it with this babe.

 

[wjh]

If she was just a girl I was dating and I didn't really give a **** about her, I wouldn't care. I would probably encourage it and see if we could bring the other girl into the bedroom.

But if I did care about her I would at least want her to talk to me about her bisexual tendencies prior to random occurrences happening, at least that way I can be prepared for it and maybe plan accordingly by seeing if we could bring the girl back

 

[DavenJuan]

I hear what you are saying, but I think every woman will cheat if her needs are not met, and will stay faithful if they are.

agree

 

[Rash]

we dont consider it cheating because it dont triger our competition feelings fueled by the testosterone in our bodies, I dont give a rat arse if I see my GF with another girl because I dont feel competition ,my testosterone levels stay the same and I dont feel angry.