GF went psycho last night

[Julian]

Happy halloween (evil fukkin holiday anyway)...but anyway my GF has shown BPD signs...she is unstable and emotionally sensitive. She has shown kindness and a lack of cruelty though.

Anyway, she has major self esteem issues...always thinks she is not good enough for me. When she drinks it brings out her worst.

Last night we went out for dinner, she said she saw me staring at some girl and flipped out. Yeah I wont lie I was peeping around, its halloween...sloots everywhere..but i wasnt being a creep or azzhole about it. Just a glance etc.

Well she got into her down mood, and I just said hey lets go home. In the car ride home she freaked out (i was recording her with my phone). She attempted to get out of the moving car (drinks were kicking in) she began getting hysterical, crying, screaming and even punched me twice in the head.

We got home and im trying to calm her down shes crying and grabs my knife, then grabs the house key from me, threatens to leave and go out. basically being completely irrational, violent, just plain nasty.

At the end of it all she was apologizing and I know today she will do the same. She has had a couple epidosdes like this in the past...but this was one of the worst. She literally was punching herself in the face, HARD. I have everything recorded on my phone...**** was scary.


I cant do this anymore fellas...been with this girl over half a year...I live with her etc. There is no reasoning with mentally unstable/intoxicated people. When she is like that she is literally a demon and scary. Im not a perfect BF...but what she is doing is bordering abuse. With that being said...ive given her alot of chances...but now its time for me to dip.

 

[El Payaso]

What a nutter. Don't try to play savior. Run away as far as you can. Move to another state and change your name if you can.

 

[exhausted]

You said it yourself she got into her DOWN mood. You yourself have picked up on that she is Manic.
I myself did the same and it is crazy that I did the same as you, when I saw this I immediately ended the night or activity. Just like you I knew the day was over , the train was off the tracks and we were headed for a crash one way or another..
My girl did the same thing, flipping out in the car, trying to open the door, punching me, yelling at me to drop her off in the middle of no where. This is UNSTABLE and look she is showing her hand to you in 6 months. wow imagine a year from now. Move on and find better you dont deserve this.

 

[marmel75]

Sounds like exactly what Johnny Manziel dealt with a few weeks back...guarantee his GF is BPD...

 

[YawataNoKami]

You should marry her.

No, run and do not look back. Bad things happens when you look back.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I'm thinking she sounds more bipolar than the she does borderline. The two are often confused. The good news is that bipolar is much more treatable. There are medications that show promise, unlike borderline, which is not treatable at all.

 

[exhausted]

I'm thinking she sounds more bipolar than the she does borderline. The two are often confused. The good news is that bipolar is much more treatable. There are medications that show promise, unlike borderline, which is not treatable at all.

Mine is diagnosed bipolar and the extremes are vivid, I myself was on the roller coaster with her , on good days I felt normal, on bad days I found myself depressed, mainly why I ended it, I became down and depressed a lot. However, some can have signs of both, borderline signs can be had by bipolar as well. Sadly she refused to take meds, she has fantastic insurance and just does not want to put forth the effort to be better.

 

[HoneyHitter]

How come you're living with her within 6 months of dating? Is it your place or her own?

Anyway, I have this rule that saved me from bad relationships:
Before I consider living with a woman, she must prove herself a good companion during at least two long trips. (more than 1 week)

Because of my work, it usually takes more than half a year to plan something like that. Don't let women rush you into cohabitation.

 

[logicallefty]

Save that video of her hitting you on the head. If she ever tries to accuse you of domestic abuse at least you will have something to show that she has the ability to show violent tendencies towards you. I concur with others, somethings gotta give. Leaving her would be the most logical. If you can't or aren't ready for that, you at least need to separate for a while. Tell her to go stay somewhere else for a few weeks and not to contact you. Then on X day talk to her and take it from there. If she knows you are willing to take drastic measures like leaving her or separating that might buy you something good.. But in the long run I wouldn't be making any plans to marry this woman, I doubt she will ever change completely..

 

[LiveFreeX]

Post the video to the forum, it would be pretty entertaining.

If you don't run now, you deserve whats coming next.

 

[Julian]

Update. She has shown extreme regret and remorse and contacted her stepfather about where he went for anger management (daddy issues lol **** -_-).

She sees herself as inferior to me. We have an age difference as. I like younger women. she wants to get help and told meI deserve better then her etc blablabla...

The reason we live together is a tough break for me. We met as my lease was ending at my 1000 a month bachelor pad. Needing and wanting to save money she offered me to live with her and just pay 200 a month. She seemed like she was down for me so I thought why not.

I'm not signed into a lease I could move at any time...also she has the arm bar birth control implant...no kiddos.

Right now it's mainly an emotional reason I don't leave because I feel abandoning her would destroy her and drive her to self harm or suicide. I have a plan to let her down easy as I can.

Getting my own apt this week is step one. Step two is letting her know my grievances and that she has done things that make me view her different. Step 3 move and suggest time apart then just go north Carolina on her. Sucks bros but she crossed too many lines.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Get the fvck out of there ASAP. Sounds like this b!tch could literally stick a knife in you (especially once she finds out you're dumping her) or ruin your life by calling the cops and making a false domestic violence complaint. And next time, don't shack up with a mental patient, no matter how cheap the rent.

 

[Desdinova]

she began getting hysterical, crying, screaming and even punched me twice in the head.

This 5hit is a deal breaker for me. I will NOT tolerate a woman who gives me any kind of blow to the head. I've had women playfully slap my face and it's a grounds for getting dumped. If a woman does it playfully once, I give her a warning that I won't tolerate it. If she does it again, she's history.

But getting punched in the head? I'd throw the bytch to the ditch without even thinking about it.

 

[stevo]

Most likely you won't heed to anything we say but at 25 already living with a girl you met less than 6 months ago, there is something wrong with you as well as something very wrong with the girl.

The first step to you working on your issues is to MOVE away from the girl, even if she cries blood. Like a poster wrote, move to a different state if you can, make sure she doesn't know, do not break up, do not distance yourself, no fore warning, just pack up and RUN.

Again you might not heed to anything we say but if you choose to stay with her, you'll either kill the beach and end up in prison or she'll burn the house down with you in it, even worse, she gets pregnant with your child.

Bottom line is she'll have no positive impact in your life.

 

[HeadLightsOn]

She punched you twice in the head. What did you do at that exact moment(s)? i agree - this is assault, abuse, emotional/mental instability and you seem to be taking it.

You are leaving yourself wide open, to name just a few matters:

- Forced parenthood if she chooses (youll never know why she got pregnant)
- Further assaults
- Emotional and verbal abuse - this is not often legislated against, only physical violence is, hence why males often get arrested and the woman doesnt
- Serious harm, eg she has a down episode while your asleep. Think about that...
- Financial ruin
- Arrest/court etc if she 'presses charges' against you in any way

You are really involved with a ticking time bomb and I believe youre time to get out should be measured in hours, not days or weeks.

You can let her down easy, as you say, from afar, by putting other systems in place eg contact her family or friends, be open about whats happened, let them bear the burden and DISTANCE yourself.

Get out.

 

[Infern0]

She's bipolar not bpd

if she was bpd she wouldn't have been with you for 18 months "thinking she's not good enough" she'd have made you think you arent good enough

anyway nuts is nuts imo, you know what to do

 

[Skyline]

Don't know what she is or has but you should dip.

 

[Yewki]

She attempted to get out of the moving car (drinks were kicking in) she began getting hysterical, crying, screaming and even punched me twice in the head.

We got home and im trying to calm her down shes crying and grabs my knife, then grabs the house key from me, threatens to leave and go out. basically being completely irrational, violent, just plain nasty.

Umm... do yourself a favor and start referring to this person as your ex. Drop her immediately. I'm gonna be honest with you bro, the biggest red flag here is that you're still with her. The fact you've been with someone like this for a year and a half reflects poorly on you. Like... what's wrong with you?
If you saw a dude walking down the street with a woman who appeared to be homeless... what would you think of the guy? Probably not good things.

 

[Julian]

Its been 6 months not a year an half...but still yeah your right

 

[YawataNoKami]

Watch the video,learn and dump the bytch. Protect yourself all the time.

Remember as a man you ALWAYS GUILTY. And this man is a judge. And even with the video , bytch thinks she is right.


Ohh and then the bytch did this:
http://www.dallasnews.com/news/crim...ape-investigation-of-judge-carlos-cortez1.ece