Well i got into a discussion about our plans for vacation this december.
To give you an idea, we dont go on many vacations because her parents are strict, so we have only been on maybe 3-4 in the last two years. We are 22 years old. Her parents are going abroad for a month meaning she can go anywhere she wants to.
The problem is that she wants to go to one place and I want to go somewhere else. She wants to go to washington DC and I want to go on a cruise. I looked at the costs and time and all of it is about equal. So no problem there
However when I ask her about it she simply states after about 10 minutes of arguing "I want to do something for myself, its my money, its my birthday and I dont want to give this"
I feel upset because its my money as well and my wishes and needs are not being considered. She says Im hung up on it, but I feel like why cant she honestly discuss what I want. I feel like its more of prestige issue.
So I asked her about it and she basically said her mind is made up and thats as simple as that. So I decided that why should I go somewhere were my wishes and wants where not even considered.
She said that she gives alot, but this was too much of a give. But what makes her think that this not an equally big give from me. And if she expects me to make such a "give" then at least be more open minded to my wants.
She said that we had our discussion about this topic and she had made up her mind that she would not go. I wouldnt mind going to DC but if she was more receptive and respecting of my wishes.
In the end I told her that it was not fair, and that if she wanted to she could go to DC with her friends because it would not be fair to me to accompany her to a place that was not mutally agreed apon.
I dont think I will go with her if her attitude remains the same.
What can I do. I dont want to create friction but I mean I am being forced to.
To give you an idea, we dont go on many vacations because her parents are strict, so we have only been on maybe 3-4 in the last two years. We are 22 years old. Her parents are going abroad for a month meaning she can go anywhere she wants to.
The problem is that she wants to go to one place and I want to go somewhere else. She wants to go to washington DC and I want to go on a cruise. I looked at the costs and time and all of it is about equal. So no problem there
However when I ask her about it she simply states after about 10 minutes of arguing "I want to do something for myself, its my money, its my birthday and I dont want to give this"
I feel upset because its my money as well and my wishes and needs are not being considered. She says Im hung up on it, but I feel like why cant she honestly discuss what I want. I feel like its more of prestige issue.
So I asked her about it and she basically said her mind is made up and thats as simple as that. So I decided that why should I go somewhere were my wishes and wants where not even considered.
She said that she gives alot, but this was too much of a give. But what makes her think that this not an equally big give from me. And if she expects me to make such a "give" then at least be more open minded to my wants.
She said that we had our discussion about this topic and she had made up her mind that she would not go. I wouldnt mind going to DC but if she was more receptive and respecting of my wishes.
In the end I told her that it was not fair, and that if she wanted to she could go to DC with her friends because it would not be fair to me to accompany her to a place that was not mutally agreed apon.
I dont think I will go with her if her attitude remains the same.
What can I do. I dont want to create friction but I mean I am being forced to.
