Gf on vacation

Remulak

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The girlfriend went on a cruise with her mom a few days ago and although it has has tore me up inside I didn't show it. I smiled and let her know to have fun and left it at that. I didn't tell her to try and contact me or anything like that but told her to call me when she gets back. I decided to follow RT's advice on the subject. My attitude towards these types of things has always been 'have fun'. She'll be alone for 8 days on a cruise with god knows how many drunk d!ckheads. I just hope I played it right by acting nonchalant and that I wasn't worried about her going on the cruise. I'm not too much worried about her cheating because if she did I would just dump her, simple as that. I'm worried about her cheating and never finding out about it because a lot of the stories on this site have fycked with my head. Does anyone else have experience with their girl going on vacation.
 

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Remulak said:
I'm worried about her cheating and never finding out about it because a lot of the stories on this site have fycked with my head
Women don't have to go on a vacation to cheat. If they are attractive, everywhere they go they will be approached by guys, learn to live with it. Your insecurity could stemmed from the fact that you know that your game or "DJism" needs a little bit of work. I suggest that you work on yourself before she comes back, instead of always looking behind your shoulder for that AMOG to come and take her away.

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I decided to follow RT's advice on the subject.
Too bad you didn't listen to his other advice about spinning more plates and not committing to one girl when you are in your early 20's.
 

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I know women don't have to go anywhere to cheat but being on a cruise away from your boyfriend where alcohol may be involved just increases the chances. I would never find out either. In what ways do you suggest I improve myself. I'm not going to see her for about 3 weeks but I may visit her for a day over the holiday break.
 

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Remulak said:
I know women don't have to go anywhere to cheat but being on a cruise away from your boyfriend where alcohol may be involved just increases the chances. I would never find out either.
Ok worse case scenerio, suppose she fvcks some guy on a cruise. Will she ever see that guy again? probably not. Will she ever tell you that? probably not. Will her behaviour change? That is what you need to look at. There are some women who go on vacations, don't cheat and come back with a whole new persepective and dump the guy. You are the only one that knows your girlfriend, therefore you need to look at her interest levels. Was she a good respectful, affectionate girlfriend prior to the trip? if so that behaviour should not change. If she wasn't prior to the trip or you notice bad behaviour after the trip then you would know something is up.

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In what ways do you suggest I improve myself. I'm not going to see her for about 3 weeks but I may visit her for a day over the holiday break.
Only you know what ways you need to do in order improve yourself. For starters, she went on her OWN vacation with her mom so why would you go out of your way to visit her for a day there and come back?? Make your OWN damn vacation and enjoy it as oppose to go there with the real purpose of checking up on your girflriend loyalty, that just reeks of chumpiness. Enjoy the 3 week break away from her.
 

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DJDamage said:
Ok worse case scenerio, suppose she fvcks some guy on a cruise. Will she ever see that guy again? probably not. Will she ever tell you that? probably not. Will her behaviour change? That is what you need to look at. There are some women who go on vacations, don't cheat and come back with a whole new persepective and dump the guy. You are the only one that knows your girlfriend, therefore you need to look at her interest levels. Was she a good respectful, affectionate girlfriend prior to the trip? if so that behaviour should not change. If she wasn't prior to the trip or you notice bad behaviour after the trip then you would know something is up.



Only you know what ways you need to do in order improve yourself. For starters, she went on her OWN vacation with her mom so why would you go out of your way to visit her for a day there and come back?? Make your OWN damn vacation and enjoy it as oppose to go there with the real purpose of checking up on your girflriend loyalty, that just reeks of chumpiness. Enjoy the 3 week break away from her.
What you were saying about a behavior change if she cheats is what I was thinking about before I posted, I'll be on the look out for that. You made a good point about visiting her, I shouldn't go out of my way to see her. I wasn't planning on checking her loyalty, she suggested that I come visit her it wasn't on my own accord. When I told her I might not be able to visit she got pretty upset. I unfortunately don't have the money nor the time to go on a vacation over the break but I'll be working full-time. I like her a lot but I guess it'll be nice to have a few weeks apart so we can miss each other.
 

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Stop being paranoid! I was always thrilled when my gfs went on vacation, it meant I could do whatever I wanted with my time, and there were a lot of things I rarely had time for with a woman in my life. Enjoy the time apart.
 
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Obviviously she is horing with you - so it is extremely likely that she is horing with other dudes - not at sea but on terra firma!!!! Why are you so loyal to hors??? Do you really think they are loyal to you??

"I want her to be only MY hor" - Hors are for everybody!!! FOOL!!
 

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Obviviously she is horing with you - so it is extremely likely that she is horing with other dudes - not at sea but on terra firma!!!! Why are you so loyal to hors??? Do you really think they are loyal to you??

"I want her to be only MY hor" - Hors are for everybody!!! FOOL!!
If your going to give a radical statement where's your proof. All you know about my situation is of what I told you so how could you come to that conclusion so quickly.
 
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It is not a radical statement - it is common sense!

If she is a vitgin then I guarantee you that she will not "cheat" - however if she is NOT a virgin then there is a high probability that she will cheat because this is what "liberated" hors do!!! Especially if she drinks and hangs out at the clubs on board or on the islands or whereever. Women feel more "liberated" when they go somewhere where no one knows them because their actions are hidden from those who know them!! They like to take their tops off to get that perfect tan -- this is a clue!!!

By the tone of your post and your concern I take it she is not a virgin!!
 

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This is good for you. Don't worry about her cheating. if you're worried it means that you don't have enough productive things going on in your life to get your mind off this.

I was like that when my gf left for THREE MONTHS. Now I have so many things on my mind--starting my business, beginning a new sales job, buying a motorcycle, etc--that she has to call me 3x more than I call her! Plus the hoards of other chicks I could f*ck right now.

Ideally, SHE should be worried about YOU.
 
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