Biggest things here for me:
Is she flirting? he says she is but is he really?
The message, could mean sexual inuendo, it could also imply she is being friendly, sacastic but still.........
Did she purposly tell the BF not to access facebook?
Does the other guy seem interested, so far it seems not.
I think its far too early to predict the outcome, the OP should refrain from showing jelousy as this will only empower the other guy, what he should do is play it cool and accept his GF maybe just friendly but keep an observant eye out on his GF behavoir, as someone else posted watch what she does.
If he attitude changes and she becomes more distant, i.e seeing the guy, talks about the other guy alot, takes pains to contact him via these sites, starts silly arguments up, changes her loving nature, e.t.c then we have a problem.
so far i dont see a problem, i see a problem that will escallate into something pritty shi* if the OP gets too effected by this. It is too early to predict the outcome.
but having a GF who needs ego validation on a internet site from ppl of the opposite sex is probably enough for me to dump them there and then, but even that has not been fully established yet, i think alot are jumping the gun on this one.
so what even if she does fancy him, this can be countered by the BF becoming a bigger and better prize then the chump at work.
That is the more this girl seems to distance her self or show lack of respect to this guy, the more he takes it away. But most guys beg and plead and lay down rules based on overpowering acts of jelousy and imagining scenarios that dont exist. As she crossed the line of respect, not yet! but i think there is a definate possibility of it going there, this could devolope into more, to counter act the OP needs to be a bigger and better man then some bar worker chump. I would ride this one out and see what type of women i am involved with, consider this a great test of her character, see if she takes this further or it remains simply one off message on facebook- if its a nightly and daily affair, you have a problem.
We need updates on this, it is still very early days yet! I would not dump this chick over this, instead i would be laughing my head off thinking some bar working chump can get my women! he would to me be a big joke, i would even laugh at his attempts to flirt.
If i saw them flirting i would say stuff like 'haha that bar guy is flirting with you, did you notice? her 'no' innocent. Me 'i think you should give him some attention, poor sap looks like he needs it'. Her 'look of disgust at what i said'
Me 'laugthing, come on lets go grab a drink'.
And forgot about it, that way if you do find out there contacting each other.
You can go a few ways:
'haa so you did think to give the poor bar guy some attention, nice one does he have a fit sister maybe we can have a 4 way party'.
If she shows signs of arguing, lack of attention my way, e.t.c.
this is not my problem, i have remained cool calm and in charge of my world and my situation, i have not been fazed, i have not let it effect me i have been self, but whilst i was 'self' i realized the girl i was with was not that great and i thanked the clouds above for the lucky escape, GL to the next chump that entertains a cheating women, see where i am going?
remain cool, calm in the zone, concurent with your the man not too OTT and chill! Then when you know you have still remained the BEST man you can be and she still does the shi*, there is only ONE SOLUTION and thats to DUMP them! But only then can you walk away with your head held high and say 'dam that i am glad i found out before i put a ring on her finger/had babies to her/invested more time into the hor' e.t.c!
